Question:
Hi Paula! > Friends say…perhaps honestly so-though I have a speech impedament-"it’s not > that bad…people can understand you…" > What do you mean it’s not that bad? yea it is-and people have to wonder why I > had speech therapy all of my school (elem. middle and high school) life? > UGH…and friends wonder why I don’t make-up my own messeges on my machine and > cell phone?
Sometimes we are paranoid. It can be a big part of PTSD in the beginning. My therapist suggested at one point to me that I listen to my friends’ input and when it conflicts with my feelings, I have a choice. Figure out if they are telling the truth and I’m wrong, or if they are trying to gloss over something that isn’t important to them. In either case, my quest for perfection might be a little off-target. Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
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Hey Paula, I’m sorry that you had a rough day. Unfortunately people end up trying to protect us, or are afraid for their own reasons and won’t be honest with us. Anyway, things that set me apart are terrible for me, and that’s what I hear you saying about this situation. I hate voice mail, at one point I used to be able to plop in a tape of music for the machine. Luckily, my partner does the recording now, or I’ve just left the phone company’s default message.
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Sorry you are feeling rough. I, too, had speech therapy throughout grade school and high school. And I have a very soft voice. I used to cringe to hear myself, but in time when I got to feeling better about myself, my voice bothered me less. Yes, you will always be different, but hopefully some day it won’t bother you as much. Hugs, if you want them. Margaret PAdams4232 <padams4…@aol.comNo2Spam> wrote in message
news:20010308083427.24208.00000341@ng-fc1.aol.com… > well I just had a semi setback today. Last night I picked
up the phone as soon > as my answering machine turned on. Therefore I was talking and being recorded > on my own machine. I was getting dressed and ready for
work-so I didn’t have > time to turn the darn thing off before it recorded all I was saying. In > anycase-like a dummy I am…I played back the messages on my > machine…including my own. And did it set me back. I know I will be forever > different. I know that nothing I can do can make things change that…other > than inwardly. > Friends say…perhaps honestly so-though I have a speech
impedament-"it’s not > that bad…people can understand you…" > What do you mean it’s not that bad? yea it is-and people
have to wonder why I > had speech therapy all of my school (elem. middle and high school) life? > UGH…and friends wonder why I don’t make-up my own
messeges on my machine and – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> cell phone? > BOOM BOOM BOOM…. > Paula
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Nancy-I’m not disagreeing so to speak with what my friends say. I just focus on what I am hearing and IMO it’s not as little as what my friends say…
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"PAdams4232" <padams4…@aol.comNo2Spam> wrote in message
news:20010308153328.24236.00000286@ng-fc1.aol.com… > Nancy-I’m not disagreeing so to speak with what my friends say. I just focus on > what I am hearing and IMO it’s not as little as what my friends say…
I don’t mean to speak out of turn here, or try to make light of your difficulty, but we all tend to be much more critical of *hearing* ourselves than others are. Especially when it comes to listening to the way we sound. Very few people actually *like* what they hear when listening to themselves. I have a very low voice for a female, and to me it sounds really awful. And then throw in a strong midwestern accent here in the south and I stand out like a sore thumb. And when I still worked there was a gentleman I dealt with quite regularily who had one of those voice boxes installed in his throat, forgive me but I can’t recall the technical name for it, but he was *really* hard to understand, but once I got the hang of it so to speak, it became much easier to understand him. I guess what I’m trying to say is your friends are probably right. We all are so much more critical of ourselves, hear things about our own voices or pronunciations much more exaggerated than others hear us, I think. msmercury
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well I just had a semi setback today. Last night I picked up the phone as soon as my answering machine turned on. Therefore I was talking and being recorded on my own machine. I was getting dressed and ready for work-so I didn’t have time to turn the darn thing off before it recorded all I was saying. In anycase-like a dummy I am…I played back the messages on my machine…including my own. And did it set me back. I know I will be forever different. I know that nothing I can do can make things change that…other than inwardly. Friends say…perhaps honestly so-though I have a speech impedament-"it’s not that bad…people can understand you…" What do you mean it’s not that bad? yea it is-and people have to wonder why I had speech therapy all of my school (elem. middle and high school) life? UGH…and friends wonder why I don’t make-up my own messeges on my machine and cell phone? BOOM BOOM BOOM…. Paula
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