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Please ignore any and all posts by Stephanie. She is a troll and continues to be a disruptive presence to this newsgroup. Replying directly to her posts only encourages her disruptive presence. LA Chech The one and only chech and Noone else! Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.
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Luanne, this article might be of some help to you.. From Stephanie.
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Imagine This- The Secret of Forgiveness
The sum total of human knowledge consists of an endless seriesof doubtful bulletins.”Thomas L. Masson, The City of Perfection, 1927
True freedom is from a mind loving the wisdom of the bodyand supporting that wisdom. It is from a body that has become wise enoughto trust the mind and allow itself to be made whole. Without educationor great intellectual capacity, without strength, position or power, andwithout money we are reborn. Early in my work as a clinical nutritionist I becameaware that some of my clients had difficulty selecting and eating foodsthat were good for them. When these clients were asked to ‘listen to theirbody’ they did not understand. They could not tell if the food they wereeating made them feel good or bad. They could not tell if they needed moresleep or exercise. They did not know if or when they were hungry or thirstyor what foods might satisfy their hunger when they were able to recognizethey were hungry. It is my belief each person has the ability to knowwhat is right for him or herself. My intent is to educate (v.-educare-todraw forth [inner knowing]) the client. I make available to the clientthe knowledge that the client already has. It is within ourselves we willfind the information we need to take care of ourselves.The more out-of-touch a client is with the messagesof his or her own body, the greater the dependency on the authority ofothers and the less able they are to take care of themselves. Such personsdo not know what they really want, do not believe they can know what isbest for them and do not believe that if they knew they could get whatthey want and need.In 1983 I began working with adult and child victimsof physical and sexual abuse. All victims exhibited the same lack of awarenessand lack of ability to respond to the body’s messages that I had seen insome of my clients. They could not ask for, or even know, what they wantedand needed and they were unable to refuse what they did not want.This unexpected involvement with abuse victims recalledan earlier experiences I had had in 1974 working with Peter H.C. Mutke,M.D., Psychosomatic Medicine, and Barry Goodfield, Ph.D. Of many unusualcases I was able to observe, two stand out as indicative of the probablecauses of injury and the direction I feel healing must take.During a session of hypnotic recall, a lawyer in hislate 30’s was put before a thermography machine (liquid nitrogen imaging).While remembering a beating he received from his father at 9 months ofage heat patterns appeared and we were able to see hand prints clearlyon the client’s body. I believe memory is more than in the mind. I believeit is concurrently stored in the body. The memory of the beating had beenstored in his cells.The second suggestive case involved a individual bornwith a clubfoot. At age 40 an operation was performed to correct the condition.The foot continued to cause pain and disability. Using thermography thefoot’s temperature was found to be significantly cooler than the rest ofthe body and the other foot. No medical cause could be found to accountfor this discrepancy. When the man was instructed to “love” his foot, toforgive the foot for the pain it had caused him, to incorporate it intohis thought in a positive way using focused attention, the foot healedand the temperature normalized without further complication.An abused or injured person “leaves” his body wherethe memory/feeling is located. This removal of one’s consciousness is doneautomatically whether the original incident of abuse was intentional orunintentional. This separation occurs to relieve the pain. Psychology callsthis disassociation. The mind and body must be reunited. If the memorycontinues to contain the original feelings of fear, anger and/or pain itbecomes difficult or impossible for reunification to occur.Clients do not cause themselves to be abused but areresponsible for continuing to feel anger, fear and pain. It is believedthat remembering and discussing the incident or screaming or crying orexpressing the feeling will remove them. It has been my experience thatuntil clients willingly forget, old fear, anger and pain will reflect intocurrent events.Most clients, adults and children, do not know theyhave the ability to change feelings. They will “bury” the past incidentsor feelings. Often, family members, friends or society will encourage theburial of feelings because they do not know they can be changed and thefeelings are too frightening to be expressed. In some families, memberswill bury their feelings “successfully” until one member becomes the “actor”for the group. Repetition of events will continue to occur until associatedfeelings are changed by free choice.If a child has been raised in a critical, abusive orneglected environment by parents who see the world in a negative, frighteningor hopeless way the child will feel that that is the way of the world anddiscount positive experiences as exceptions to be overlooked. Likewisethe loved and nurtured child sees negative experiences as unusual occurrencesto be overlooked.It is clear that the actions and attitudes of parents,other family members and school personnel towards the child influence theway the child will perceive him or herself and the world. However, no matterwhat our original training, we can consciously alter that conditioning.There are no perfect parents. It is important to encouragegood parenting but even our best attempts will at some time cause offenseto our children. It is necessary that the adult and the child learn thetrue value of forgiveness — the physical, cellular, forgetting of theanger, fear and pain associated with the past.The value of forgiveness is not in its power to grantfreedom to the offender but in its power to give wholeness to the victim.Forgiveness does not mean the offender is not brought to account, thoughthey may or may not be, but that the victim is fully restored to a stateof mind and body that is without wound or scar.Victims do not deserve to be victims but the damagecan not be repaired by the offender, nor is it repaired by punishment ofthe offender. The victim is healed by his or her willing removal of thefeelings associated with the victimization. This change of feeling maybe helped by the action of others but the work of change must be done bythe victim him or herself. One stops being a victim by refusing the feelingsof being one and choosing other feelings instead.We understand the need to change our feelings of victimizationand some persons try to over come these feelings by becoming victimizers.It appears that “getting the other guy” is better than “being gotten”,but appearances are deceiving. This technique does not work because thevictims core feelings have not been changed.The mammalian or animal “way” is and has always been”power over others”. The way of the conscious human must become “powerwithin”. When a person
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