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Thank you for your reply Di..and I agree with you about getting out of hand..I don’t wan’t war either…my partner and I have to battle reliving war..don’t need it in a support group thanks! I thought about how to combine the idea that the poster may be out of line with responsibility to others less informed and then I realised that when I was first in the ng I would read a post sometimes and think it maybe lacked integrity….then I would see a response from someone who had sent helpful replies to other folk, and they would say maybe one or two words like* Oh no, you back?*..very simple and I got the picture! There was no need for more 
eck When they – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – become real bashings, then they lose their integrity (I hope that’s the correct word). It these debates don’t become so heated, then we may all learn something new from time to time. I’ll give it a shot, but as soon as it starts a war, I’m outta here. Not for good, just won’t get involved in the arguments. Thanks! Di
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Thank you for your reply Di..and I agree with you about getting out of hand..I don’t wan’t war either…my partner and I have to battle reliving war..don’t need it in a support group thanks! I thought about how to combine the idea that the poster may be out of line with responsibility to others less informed and then I realised that when I was first in the ng I would read a post sometimes and think it maybe lacked integrity….then I would see a response from someone who had sent helpful replies to other folk, and they would say maybe one or two words like* Oh no, you back?*..very simple and I got the picture! There was no need for more eck
You’re very welcome Eck. We can only do so much I guess. We’re all adults here and also anxiety sufferers. We have to help each other as much as we can. Hugs, Di
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I have had occasion to speak recently with a person who investigates pensions fraud in the Veteran Community. As you would know there are many Veterans who receive benefits for PTSD. This person told me that their main concern is not with veteran’s making false claims, but of fraud by pdocs manipulating the veterans and charging for hours of therapy not undertaken etc. He made the statement to me that people suffering stress/anxiety disorders are extremely vulnerable to abuse by unscrupulous practioners due to the mere nature of their condition. I am not suggesting that pdocs are all bad, far from it. But my point is that this is a support group and we are all well aware of the vulnerabilty of both regular members and visitors. Personally I prefer for the most part not to post privately because I would prefer any comment I may make to be under public scrutiny of others for correction or to present an alternate view. Some ng.s ignore spammers or those wishing to engage in flaming..and this is probably wise..but I can see in this forum it is necessary to respond lest a vulnerable newcomer be led up the garden path. I do not think it is wrong to suggest websites etc , but the only ones I bother to look at are where I have been told what it is about, and whether there is any charge etc. My rule of thumb is if a poster is prepared to present their opinions and advice openly and non-judgementally, and happily respect others, they are respecting the spirit of a *support group* Definition of support – to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage etc )under trial or affliction. This is not a ng dealing with trivial issues ..we are talking sometimes about people’s lives and there is a degree of responsibilty in that. All this is IMHO..feel free to disagree. eck
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have had occasion to speak recently with a person who investigates pensions fraud in the Veteran Community. As you would know there are many Veterans who receive benefits for PTSD. This person told me that their main concern is not with veteran’s making false claims, but of fraud by pdocs manipulating the veterans and charging for hours of therapy not undertaken etc. He made the statement to me that people suffering stress/anxiety disorders are extremely vulnerable to abuse by unscrupulous practioners due to the mere nature of their condition. I am not suggesting that pdocs are all bad, far from it. But my point is that this is a support group and we are all well aware of the vulnerabilty of both regular members and visitors. Personally I prefer for the most part not to post privately because I would prefer any comment I may make to be under public scrutiny of others for correction or to present an alternate view. Some ng.s ignore spammers or those wishing to engage in flaming..and this is probably wise..but I can see in this forum it is necessary to respond lest a vulnerable newcomer be led up the garden path. I do not think it is wrong to suggest websites etc , but the only ones I bother to look at are where I have been told what it is about, and whether there is any charge etc. My rule of thumb is if a poster is prepared to present their opinions and advice openly and non-judgementally, and happily respect others, they are respecting the spirit of a *support group* Definition of support – to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage etc )under trial or affliction. This is not a ng dealing with trivial issues ..we are talking sometimes about people’s lives and there is a degree of responsibilty in that. All this is IMHO..feel free to disagree. eck
Hi Eck! You do have a valid point here. I don’t usually get in the middle of any flames, trolls, etc., but now that you’ve mentioned this, I think we do need to hear both sides some times. As long as the arguments or debates don’t get out of hand as they usually do, people do have a right to hear them. When they become real bashings, then they lose their integrity (I hope that’s the correct word). It these debates don’t become so heated, then we may all learn something new from time to time. I’ll give it a shot, but as soon as it starts a war, I’m outta here. Not for good, just won’t get involved in the arguments. Thanks! Di
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