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tiny ………often > times what they will say before they say it.
ME TOO!!! i hate it! thank god i’m not the only one (i was sort of hesitant to talk about that part of it). and same for me with hubby too, i don’t go out unless he’s with me. he’s my "protector". kat – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> And forgot to say earlier, I never go anywhere without my > husband………he’s my rock and can tell when I need him to be right beside > me for support. > td
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my therapist is trying to get me to use visualization techniques to help tamp that down. i’m supposed to imagine myself enveloped in a strong white light, like it’s all around me, and to try and keep my sense of self that way. she says i have to learn to buffer, that i never learned that as a kid because i needed it to survive. but now, at 40, i’m learning to "buffer". i’m not good at it — at all. still isolating like crazy. kat "Nancy" <ki…@cox.net> wrote in message
news:eV759.33946$Pb.736400@news2.east.cox.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi Kathie! > > does anyone else find that their so incredibly sensitive to other people’s > > emotions and whatnot, that it just overwhelms you? that’s a biggg part of > > my problem as far why i isolate. i mean, i can walk into a room, and if > > someone’s standing too close to me, i can pick up on what they’re feeling, > > and it’s so absolutely invasive and overwhelming, it’s like i lose me > > because of them. > Been there, done that! It’s normal for us. Rather like hypervigilance gone > wild. > It took meds and therapy to get me back inside myself. :/ > Smile and there will be something to smile about! > Nancy
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Z55 kind of like, whatever you do, don’t think about the white elephant in the room. and then that’s all you CAN think about is a white elephant. kat Although, – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> the anxiety workbook I picked up says that the more we try to "get a grip", > the more we lose it. I’ve learned to focus on my breathing from my > therapist. It helps a lot sometimes. > Z55
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Larry, your reply post really made my day =) Thank you! All of us, myself included, feel great when we can share something that helps someone else or gives a new perspective. I just wanted to thank you for your response and your excellent additions and ideas! Kristine – have a great weekend everyone, I’m exercising my social muscle today by retrieving, entertaining and returning my child’s best buddy from the third grade. He’s a boy she’s been buddies with since day one (they are so much alike) and it feels SOOOOOO good to have my "social muscle" strong enough to give this to her! I really appreciate the thread you started Z55, along with your contribution Larry (haven’t read the other posts yet but I will – GOT TO HIT THE POOL WITH THE HOT KIDS, ITS OVER 108 ALREADY HERE!)
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"Kathie" <kathi…@frontiernet.net> wrote in message
news:ulaqtbt0un563e@corp.supernews.com… > tiny > ………often > > times what they will say before they say it. > ME TOO!!! i hate it! thank god i’m not the only one (i was sort of > hesitant to talk about that part of it). and same for me with hubby too, i > don’t go out unless he’s with me. he’s my "protector". > kat
You too……..I never used to talk about it cause I thought people would think I was ‘nuttier’ than they already think I am! :-)) I’ve done it in therapy even, so my therapist is a real believer. Like one time I asked him……’if he was going away’……and he was kind of taken aback, and replied, ‘well, yes I was going to mention that to you, that I’m going to Paris for a week’……… I just had this ‘feeling’ he was going to be gone somewhere far from me. And another time I asked him ‘if things were changing somehow’……and he said …..’well, he’d been going to wait until the end of the month to tell his clients, but he was leaving the practice he was in and going it alone.’……..things like that, where I could see the shocked look on his face that I’d bring these ‘impending’ things up. td – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > And forgot to say earlier, I never go anywhere without my > > husband………he’s my rock and can tell when I need him to be right > beside > > me for support. > > td
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Hi Larry, Today I’m doing pretty good thanks. Weekend’s here and don’t have any "shoulds" 
Most of the neighborhood kids have finally shot their last fireworks off so the evenings/nights are becoming more quiet and sleep comes easier except when the weather gets hot. I’m also learning not to push myself so hard. Sometimes it’s only counterproductive actually. I notice that when my therapist gives me work to do I jump at it zealously, make it my "job". But sometimes I need to slow it down a bit and take things in smaller increments. Thanks for your advice, glad to hear that things are getting better for you too. Z55 Larry Hoover <larryhoo…@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
news:xZ959.35111$Vv.651921@news20.bellglobal.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Z55" <Zzon…@hotmail.com> wrote in message > news:Nn959.5966$Ik.107943@typhoon.sonic.net… > > Hi Larry, > > How’s things? I like the"social muscle" metaphor too… where’s the 10 > > million exercise gizmos they sell to bulk up? I’ll keep in mind your > > advise to be careful about the weights I pick up…. > > Hope your doin’ fine. > > Z55 > Thanks for the good vibes…. > Sometimes I’m feeling good, and sometimes not so good, but by and large, the > trend is towards better functioning. Breaking big tasks down into manageable > pieces is the most important new skill I’ve obtained. > It doesn’t always work right. Hindsight is the true teacher. I can see where > I’ve pushed too hard, but I can’t predict it very well. Still, by keeping my > attention on the trend towards greater resiliency, I find it easier and > easier to forgive myself when I err. Basically, I guess, I’ve come to > believe in what I’m trying to accomplish, and so long as I’m attentive to > that goal, I am finding that my life is changing for the better. > How you doin’? > Lar
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I can relate to your problem, i
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