Question:
I’ve been gone on an emergency trip to help my sister in her abusive situation. To make things worse there’s a baby involved now. =( I’ve seen the signs of PTSD in her for awhile now and thankfully she’s found the help that Klonopin gave me. She’s also taking an anti-D. Growing up in the same abusive environment she became a "pleaser" and allows abusive men to be her partners. I’ve NEVER been that type and it puzzles me just how differently we all cope with trauma. Are there any others of us with siblings that have PTSD too? She’s finally, at 32, taking medication instead of self-medicating. I stopped self-medicating recently also so its not like I’m one up on her or anything. I am very thankful though that I’m a bit ahead of the game than she is. Being there to help her understand that she’s not crazy and that self-medicating isn’t the answer is a good thing. I can only hope that this first venture into a domestic violence therapy program helps her. It is so hard for me to understand how she could be in a victim situation for so long in life. I chose the opposite road and I hope she’s on that too… Kristine – gone for awhile and sad to see the same crap with attitude here =(
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Hi Kris! > Are there any others of us with siblings that have PTSD too?
None diagnosed professionally 
> I can only hope that this first venture into a > domestic violence therapy program helps her. It is so hard for me to > understand how she could be in a victim situation for so long in life.
Dissociation works as does denial. :/ I hope that your trip helped you. Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
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Nancy wrote: >I hope that your trip helped you.
Funny you should say that. I think it did. It made me appreciate my husband, the man that treats me with love, cherishing and by putting me first always. Sad though that sister doesn’t have that. She did in first marriage but she couldn’t handle it. The other thing that happened was I actually called (without anxiety or any real emotion) our abusive father and asked him for help for sister. Haven’t talked to him in YEARS. No desire to call again, but I WILL send him a copy of the published poetry that I have as it relates to his abuse. I’m recovering physically from the trip now and my dreams have returned. Its amazing how helping another and being embroiled in their problems keeps you out of your own "housekeeping" and situation. I return to it stronger though and for that I am very thankful. It was a profitable trip. Thank you Nancy….Kristine
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BaliKris <balik…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20010124004936.08336.00000016@ng-fp1.aol.com… > Are there any others of us with siblings that have PTSD
too This is the third time I’ve tried to reply to this. It’s too hard. All I can say is yes. Two older sisters. Margaret
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>>I’ve seen the signs of PTSD in her for awhile now and thankfully she’s found
the help that Klonopin gave me. She’s also taking an anti-D. Growing up in the same abusive environment she became a "pleaser" and allows abusive men to be her partners. I’ve NEVER been that type and it puzzles me just how differently we all cope with trauma. Are there any others of us with siblings that have PTSD too?<< I do NOT think my sister suffers from PTSD. But we are certainly different when it comes to things. Like her being in an..unhealthy relationship. I would never have that. She needs someone to be there. I may be a pleaser but I don’t take crap from anyone, including spouses. I don’t care how much bigger they are, etc. Respect me or get the heck out. I think when it comes to my sister and I, I would think it’s more of just differance. For those who believe these things (I don’t). She’s only 1.5 years older than me. Not only do we differ on picks for relationships. But also with my "father". School was also different in how we approached it. She’s the middle of the family, I’m the youngest. Nothing, at least in my family, having to do with PTSD…just different people, close in age, reacting to things different. I know this doesn’t fit your question but it’s just another senerio (sp) of family life and differances in how we respond, react to thiings.
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PAdams4232 wrote: > Nothing, at least in my family, having to do with PTSD…just different people, > close in age, reacting to things different.
That’s interesting. You seem to be saying that your sibling can’t be ptsd because they have different issues than what you have. I tend to think that people from the same type of trauma can internalize the same events in different ways. Example, children you have experienced sexual abuse don’t necessarily have the same responses. I felt abandoned by my abuser. Not all children do. That leads to different issues and behaviours.
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>>That’s interesting. You seem to be saying that your sibling can’t be ptsd
because they have different issues than what you have.<< and where oh where are you reading that? I didn’t say that I said I don’t THINK she does. That’s a far different from olimitiing it altogether-yes? Switch it around like you did on me…you seem to be saying that just because siblings respond to things differently-they suffer from PTSD…no not nec so… >>I tend to think that people from the same type of trauma can internalize the
same events in different ways.<< that’s the thing-you’re jumping to conclusion. I never said we experienced the same thing. I never said we didn’t. My PTSD doesn’t come from home life. It comes from school life. Perhaps your posing question was referring to those that witnessed the same thing in the house hold…as far as I know, I’m not a mind reader to know that you meant it that way… >>Example, children you have experienced sexual abuse don’t necessarily have
the same responses. I felt abandoned by my abuser. Not all children do. That leads to different issues and behaviours.<< exactly….doesn’t mean they suffer from PTSD either though… Paula
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Padamas…hey, good point on the perspective of things and perhaps it not being PTSD (although she’s been diagnosed). There are differences between us (she’s 11 mos. younger). I’m the oldest and loved school, graduating early and she dropped out..the differences continue. Thank you for the comparison and reflection. ITs a bit more upbeat and reality driven than assigning all differences to PTSD! Thanks. Kristine The unexamined life is not worth living – Socrates
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PAdams4232 wrote: > >>That’s interesting. You seem to be saying that your sibling can’t be ptsd > because they have different issues than what you have.<< > and where oh where are you reading that? I didn’t say that I said I don’t THINK > she does. That’s a far different from olimitiing it altogether-yes?
The sarcasm isn’t required. As I wrote, that was the impression that I had from your comments. If I’m wrong I’d appreciate it if you said so, and perhaps in what way I was mistaken.
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>>The sarcasm isn’t required. As I wrote, that was the impression that I had
from your comments. If I’m wrong I’d appreciate it if you said so, and perhaps in what way I was mistaken.<< no problem
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