Question:
I’m heading to court soon to face the man who sexually assaulted me. I’ve been trying to get him out of my head for over three years now I am terrified of facing him. Does anyone have any hints?
Response:
Ask for a screen or a video link might be possible Pete
Response:
About 9 years ago, I went to court with one of my primary abusers. I had nightmares beforehand that he would come into the courtroom and shoot me. (Obviously that didn’t happen!) I talked to my lawyer about my anxiety which helped. I also had a group of friends go with me. They totally surrounded me walking into the courtroom so I would feel supported and safe. During any breaks, they were there to keep me away from the defendant. I was never left alone, which seemed to help immensely. For me the experience of facing the perpetrator in court was very empowering. He was the one afraid of me. During the trial I wrote constantly which helped occupy my mind and kept me from focusing (and seeing) the perpetrator. I also took along a favorite stuffed animal and my blanket. I kept them both in a backpack at my feet so I could see them and touch them when I was feeling panicky. Don’t be afraid to ask for whatever you think will help you get through the experience. The suggestion about having a therapist available before and after court is excellent. Use all the resources you have available to you. Good luck. Risa
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