Question:
Dear Anyone Who can help us, My heart goes out to my son who is 21 and been suffering ptsd for about 6 years as far as we know,. He has witnessed a severe trauma as a 6 year child regarding our immediate family and then throughout the years witnessed a lot of abuse towards myself from his dad. He was [and still is] a very bright boy with good grades at school and a state tennis player for awhile, then my dad took sick with cancer in nz and I went there to help nurse him with mum , in that time he felt alittle frightened of his father and contracted shingles, then when my father died he viewed his first dead person [and I,m wondering if this has had a terriblr affect on him] . Two years later my brother[whom he adored dearly, and lived in queensland aust] found out he had non hodgkins lymphoma, and left us in 1996 at a very young age which left us all distraught, but for my son it was 10 times worse. Anxiety and Panic attacks came upon him and that was the second death he viewed. He slowly has been withdrawing from life from that point on and two years ago lost a friend through suiaside and he feels so guilty that he was’nt abetter friend. He now does not leave his room and in bed 20 hours aday , I feed him in there and he does come out for a shower when noboby is around ,. I am the only person he sees and if by chance someone else walks into his room he will hide his head under the covers so no one can see his face. He has been unable to work because of his deep anxiety which angers me so much with employers ,so he’s just given up and I’m so frightened,. If there is anyone who has experience this situation I would so gearly love to hear from them. He by the wayis taking luvoc, is thereanyone else taking this drug , it does’nt seem to be doing him any good. I look forward to hearing from any concerned readers Desperate
Response:
Hi Desperate! It sounds like your son needs psychiatric help from one or more professionals. If the current professionals are not helping, and you cannot work with them, find another set. Otherwise, just keep working with the ones you have. You cannot ‘fix’ you son. It’s time to stand aside and let the former-child elect to fix himself or continue onward in his present cocoon. If you elect to continue to ‘enable’ your child in his cocoon, he will NOT get any better. Been there, done that! Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
Response:
My professional knowledge is very limited but here goes, my feeling is at this stage anything may help you. You cannot continue doing what you are doing I completly understand, you are his mother and that equals unconditional love, forgivness and you will do anything to make him better. However, at this stage you are not. You need to take a step back out of the fog you are in and think. If your friends son was in this situation and your friend was doing what you are doing what would you say to her???? Your gut feeling is telling you that your are not helping in the long run so go with it. Don’t give up on the tablets yet talk to the doctor, tell him your concerens and will be different types and strengths he could try. Please, Please seek out professional help maybe nothing as scary as a physiatrist, mabye there are local support groups able to assist as the first stage. Most importantly he has got to want to get better, or all this is a waste, but you continuing to make it possible for him to stay in his room all the time has to stop. * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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