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Hi Kathy; Earlier this year i had nasty ones. Try to go to sleep thinking that if you have a nightmare you will be pissed off and scream at the ppl bothering you, you will wake yourself up and may break the cycle of bad dreams. They will go away soon. Keep a pad and pencil by your bed and record the dream for later evaluation. Other’s know about dreams here but you got to have the content. If it keeps happening you will have a good place to start. Some may say it’s actually kind of good. It can shed light on areas of your recovery. The bad dreams will not last for ever. A blankie and a bottle of cherry brandy works for some of us:-) Well i live in the safest large city in the world, and hell there are some places i wouldn’t be in after dark, you may just be smart. You must consider that. Maybe watch tv until you crash. A nightlite is a kind and bright sight at night. Right? You will be calmer and sleep sound soon, talk about it if you wish! It may help. Try and take care, spike :":":fairy good dream dust:":": :":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":":": – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Dear AAR, i have been abused all of my life. i am 21 now. But i haven’t been sexually abused since i was about 10 years old, and it was by boys my own age. But for the last month or so, i have been having almost nightly nightmares of being attacked and raped. But the thing is, it is not like when i was little. It is like it is happening now by adult men. And it is so graphic. i am afraid to go outside at night now. i am afraid to be home alone at night now. i never used to be like this. But these dreams are just so real. i just don’t get why they are just starting now. i thought that maybe it is because i am talking about it more now. What i want to do is ask for advice on how to stop these dreams, but i know that that isn’t possible, so i don’t know what the point of this post is. But thanks for listening anyways. -kathy- Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.
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Kathy, I am sorry this is still plaguing you. I remember you talking about this a little earlier. I wish I could promise it will pass soon, but sometimes I still have them too. And much like yours, mine are not "abuse" specific to the guys who hurt me. I can tell you from my experience that as you get stronger they will lessen, and also you will learn in your dreams to act stronger towards your own safety. At least, that has happened to me. I will be thinking about you. I hope you get a peaceful night’s sleep tonight. angie If you can judge a wise man by the color of his skin, then mister you
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