Trauma – PTSD

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Thanks James….just trying it out Marie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -James wrote in message … >I’m using outlook express

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I’m using outlook express The commands to change your name are: Tools, Accounts, in the the news window select your provider, then click on properties and change your name It would probably be similar in MS Internet news. James – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –G. wrote in message <799pjj$…@bgtnsc02.worldnet.att.net>… >Mairtin, >She’s using Microsoft Internet News as her news reader, which I think is the >news reader for IE 3.0. Do you know how to change identity in that program? >I viewed the page source of her message, and copied and pasted the following >info: >Newsgroups: alt.support.trauma-ptsd >References: <19990202222210.01111.00003…@ng116.aol.com> >Message-ID: <01be4f53$98eb7440$b5086…@husk.es.co.nz> >X-Newsreader: Microsoft Internet News 4.70.1155 >If I still had that program, I could help… but I don’t.  :( >Hope this helps >Peace >-G. >Mairtin wrote: >> x-no-archive: yes >> If you want to change how your name appears, there’s probably someone here >> who can help.  What program are you using to read your mail?  I am using >> outlook express and am only familiar with that, but if I can I will help. >> All the Best >> Mairtin >> Substitute ihug for NOSPAM – mair…@NOSPAM.co.nz >> ____________________________________________ >> Copyright Mairtin 1999.  All rights reserved. >> This article is for use on alt.support.trauma-ptsd only. >– >Peace is the answer… >…wanna’ fight about it? >-G. >*Oh, no! Not ANOTHER learning experience!

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Mairtin, She’s using Microsoft Internet News as her news reader, which I think is the news reader for IE 3.0. Do you know how to change identity in that program? I viewed the page source of her message, and copied and pasted the following info: Newsgroups: alt.support.trauma-ptsd References: <19990202222210.01111.00003588@ng116.aol.com> Message-ID: <01be4f53$98eb7440$b50861cb@husk.es.co.nz> X-Newsreader: Microsoft Internet News 4.70.1155 If I still had that program, I could help… but I don’t.  :( Hope this helps Peace -G. Mairtin wrote: > x-no-archive: yes > If you want to change how your name appears, there’s probably someone here > who can help.  What program are you using to read your mail?  I am using > outlook express and am only familiar with that, but if I can I will help. > All the Best > Mairtin > Substitute ihug for NOSPAM – mair…@NOSPAM.co.nz > ____________________________________________ > Copyright Mairtin 1999.  All rights reserved. > This article is for use on alt.support.trauma-ptsd only.

– Peace is the answer… …wanna’ fight about it? -G. *Oh, no! Not ANOTHER learning experience!

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Elysium P wrote in message <19990202234247.01200.00003…@ng-fw1.aol.com>… >  Thanks guys,  seeing your replies helps tremendously.  No, I haven’t told my >therapist about it.  Wanted to keep my husband out of it.  Kind of trying to >keep him out of it.  I know that sounds stupid, even as I write it… >I have been trying to be strong and not let my husband know how weak I am. >Nobody knows how weak I am except you guys(collectively). >  Thanks forthe response. >Elysium P

IMO we all have weaknesses …. It’s just HUMAN ….. IMO when we own the weakness it makes us stronger A year ago I would never admit to anyone that I was on a trauma newsgroup, now I tell anyone, it actually feels kinda good.. Last night a guy I just met last week was over for a coupla beers. I told him about this group and the wild week with the trolls and flamers, then when I went to this meditation workshop for  a lil relaxation I ended up getting traumatized when I triggered this gal big time. He was quite cool with it and was interested in how I got the beast, I told him some and he told me some of his crap. It was cool cuz guys usually avoid there stuff at all costs. He also said that he has never meditated and might give it a whirl. James  "Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions" – Albert Einstein

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  I was wrong, I didn’t just post the previous message because I wanted to see the namesof who was here.  I don’t know what to say….. q q q Poss trigger………….. q q q q q q q q q q q q q Big time, poss trigger…… q q q q q q q q q q q I had sex with my husband tonight. q q q q q q     He asked me if I wanted to.  It has been a long time since we had. I didn’t have the courage to say no.  I said " I don’t know" if I want to.  He took that as a yes.  He would never force things, but He didn’t understand my "delicate"  "NO".  He doesn’t understand… I didn’t feel anything…………………..I guess I did feel something, but I don’t know what it was.  I didn’t enjoy it.  I wasn’t afraid, but I kind of was.  I know he would never hurt me physically.  It’s just that I felt like I had to do it to save my marriage. I know this kind of makes me really cheap. But I don’t know what to do.  I’m afraid .  I’m afraid of what this makes me sound like….(I don’t want to hurt him, and let him know what a hurt /needful person he married).   I don’t feel good.   I’m not going to hurt myself or anything, but I don’t feel good. Elysium P Poss trigger for CSA people

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Elysium P wrote: >   I was wrong, I didn’t just post the previous message because I wanted to see > the namesof who was here.  I don’t know what to say…..

Hello, Checking in…. I’m here… count me in. I think what I hear you saying, is that sex make’s you feel uncomfortable, but at the same time you’re also concerned about your husband’s feelings. Hmmm, tricky one. Two person’s feelings to consider here, and both equally important. Well I think you already got the best advice from the last reply. I would discuss this with a therapist. With or without your husband, I imagine it can only help. I imagine that you’ve discussed this with your husband… I wonder what he thinks about all this? Answer only if you want to. Use what you want and trash the rest Peace -G. — Peace is the answer… …wanna’ fight about it? -G. *Oh, no! Not ANOTHER learning experience!

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Dear Elysium P, Hi, I’m Sarah.  i haven’t visited for a while and I’m shocked how few messages there are since last i called in.  Maybe all the new ones aren’t reaching down her in NZ.  if not, no wonder you are feeling lonely. Hang in there.  I’ve just had a really rough few days of flasbacks and nightmares and pain.  I’m feeling much better tonight.  I hope you are feeling a little better now too.  I assume, like me, you have experienced sexual and or other abuse.  iI you have I’m sorry you have.  It can be really hard.  i cant say much more about that subject because I feel inhibited because when i post my real name appears.  i dont like that but dont know how to change it.  Sometimes it would be nice to have the anonymity of a nom de plume although i must say, no-one has ever hassled me in this group for using my own female name.  In some places on the net that can be a real problem.  Thank goodness this is still a relatively safe haven.  I hope the posting picks up her a bit.  It’s awful to reach out to little or no response. Take good care.  just lately i’ve realised that I’ve made a lot of progress in the last couple of years and that feels really good.  Life does get easier and the pain recedes.  I wish there was a fast cure though. Kia kaha and warm regards, Sarah Elysium P <elysi…@aol.com> wrote in article <19990202222210.01111.00003…@ng116.aol.com>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->   I was wrong, I didn’t just post the previous message because I wanted to see > the namesof who was here.  I don’t know what to say….. > q > q > q > Poss trigger………….. > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > Big time, poss trigger…… > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > q > I had sex with my husband tonight. > q > q > q > q > q > q >     He asked me if I wanted to.  It has been a long time since we had. > I didn’t have the courage to say no.  I said " I don’t know" if I want to.  He > took that as a yes.  He would never force things, but He didn’t understand my > "delicate"  "NO".  He doesn’t understand… > I didn’t feel anything…………………..I guess I did feel something, but > I don’t know what it was.  I didn’t enjoy it.  I wasn’t afraid, but I kind of > was.  I know he would never hurt me physically.  It’s just that I felt like I > had to do it to save my marriage. I know this kind of makes me really cheap. > But I don’t know what to do.  I’m afraid .  I’m afraid of what this makes me > sound like….(I don’t want to hurt him, and let him know what a hurt /needful > person he married).   > I don’t feel good. >   I’m not going to hurt myself or anything, but I don’t feel good. > Elysium P > Poss trigger for CSA people

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