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That makes sense. My counsellor told me something like that this week, but since I think more visually, he told me to try to draw a perfect circle. I said that no one can do that because no one’s perfect. It’s an ideal that no one can achieve. Chibi In article <MUVX4.6392$Fg2.108…@news4.mia>, "bhelpful" <bhelp…@bellsouth.net> wrote: > This is a multi-part message in MIME format. > ——=_NextPart_000_0075_01BFC7E0.5EA5F740 > Content-Type: text/plain; > charset="iso-8859-1" > Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable
There is no such word as = – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> perfect. Perfect is a p, an e, an r, an f, and e, a c, and a t. It is = > your interpretation of what the word perfect means to you. As far as I = > am concerned perfect does not exist. Uniquenss does exisit. And that is = > what you are. You will never be the same as anybody else. Nor do you = > want to. You have your own unique characteristics that make you what you = > are. Recognise them and nuture them. The people in your life who like = > you, who spend time with you do so because of your unique qualities. = > Never believe that you have to be the same as others to belong, because = > you never can be the same as others. We are all individuals. There is no = > wrong or right way to be. You can only be you. Be proud of who you
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Thank you for a very helpful post – do you think it covers PTSD also?? I think it is nice of you to post helpful pep talks, since it is a good antidote for negativeness. Sue Cleland wrote in message <8g93q3$d9…@gnamma.connect.com.au>… I think I can do this, I think I can, I think I can……… It’s not thinking that you can, it’s knowing that you can. As humans we are capable of doing anything we want to. It is the choice that is important. You and only you are in control of what you choose, or not choose to do. Sometimes however our thoughts get in the way and tell us "I can’t do that or I’ll have a panic attack". If you tell yourself that, the chance is very high that you will have a panic attack or symptoms of anxiety. I do not like this word can’t. What is it made up of anyway? A c, an a, an n, and a t. Substitute it for another word by dropping the "t" and see the difference it will make to your whole experience. Believe in yourself and the thoughts you control. Once you have accepted that you and only you is controlling the things you choose to think, your life will change for the better. No one but you puts thoughts in your head, and no emotion you experience is experienced without a thought preceeding it. Imagine this senario – you and I are sitting at your house. Suddenly, I start yelling and screaming my head off at you. What do you do? How do you react? You have the choice to react in a number of ways. 1. "Oh my god – what have I done, why is she yelling at me?" Reaction/Emotion – anxious, frightened 2. "This woman has no right to yell like that at me!!" Reaction/Emotion – anger, frustration, rage 3. "If only Sue could see how she looks when she gets angry!!!" Reaction/Emotion – laughter Can you see from the one situation, me yelling at you, that you can have three different emotions depending on how you think about the situation. No one else tells you how to think about that situation. Only you are in control of how you choose to think in that situation, and the thought you have will determine the reaction/emotion you experience. You make the choice. So many of our thoughts are based on entrenched thought processes that have been with us for many many years. Usually since we were kids. We never question what we think. We just react, as that is the way we have been reacting all our life. Take a step back and try and identify what you are thinking when you are in a situation that makes you feel anxious. If it is negative, it will result in an anxious feeling/emotion. Look for the evidence as to why you believe this thought is justified. After all, I had no reason to yell at you. I was only yelling because of the way I was viewing things, which was not neccessarily justified. You have a choice in how you think about situations – your choice will result in you reaction/emotions. Give it a go. But first of all, have a look at your own values in life. Are they rational, or irrational. Here’s a hint – the first irrational belief that most people believe is that they have to be approved of and loved by all people. If you believe this you will surely come up against some problems. If someone doesn’t like you, that is ok, because there will always be others who do. You do not need to be loved or approved of by all people. I am sure there are some people you do not approve of. There is no such word as perfect. Perfect is a p, an e, an r, an f, and e, a c, and a t. It is your interpretation of what the word perfect means to you. As far as I am concerned perfect does not exist. Uniquenss does exisit. And that is what you are. You will never be the same as anybody else. Nor do you want to. You have your own unique characteristics that make you what you are. Recognise them and nuture them. The people in your life who like you, who spend time with you do so because of your unique qualities. Never believe that you have to be the same as others to belong, because you never can be the same as others. We are all individuals. There is no wrong or right way to be. You can only be you. Be proud of who you are. Reflect on my message. Remember that you have choice. Regards, Sue
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