Question:
Okay, folks, I apologize. I am sorry that I did not realize that David is so emotionally labile (as my therapist used to say about me) that he cannot have a discussion when someone has a different POV from himself. But, I must be getting better as, this morning, when I saw the beginnings of a rant in his posting in all-caps, I just went on to the next post. Imagine my surprise when I returned this evening to 25 new posts! ???? Yes, I’ve been here awhile, but that gives me (in any one of my different personas) no excuse to react with such apparent glee when a newbie _tries_ to spread his negativism to the group about his having PTSD and the folks who are available to him for help. Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
Response:
In article <yAw0c.18957$TT5.9097@lakeread06>, kipc…@msn.com says… > Okay, folks, I apologize. > I am sorry that I did not realize that David is so emotionally labile (as > my therapist used to say about me) that he cannot have a discussion when > someone has a different POV from himself. > But, I must be getting better as, this morning, when I saw the beginnings > of a rant in his posting in all-caps, I just went on to the next post.
Nancy, my hat’s off to you. It’s wonderful that you were able to watch a person scream their guts out at you, go, hmm, well he’s upset, isn’t he, and move on. That’s a degree of equanimity that I’m just getting to, and it makes things so much easier. It’s like, this is my stuff, but that’s *your* stuff, and I just don’t get wrapped up in other people’s stuff so much any more. At least, that’s the theory! 
Katherine
Response:
Hi Katherine! > Nancy, my hat’s off to you. It’s wonderful that you were able to > watch a person scream their guts out at you, go, hmm, well he’s upset, > isn’t he, and move on.
It is rather easy when I remember to take responsibility for myself, and only myself. It just takes time to internalize, lots of time. :/ I’ve had about 20 years of weekly reminders that ‘I did not cause it, I cannot cure it, move on … wake up and smell the coffee’. But, remember, I did not ‘watch a person scream their guts out at you’. I chose to not become involved with someone howling in pain … that I did not cause and cannot cure … and did not read his post beyond the first paragraph. > That’s a degree of equanimity that I’m just > getting to, and it makes things so much easier. It’s like, this is my > stuff, but that’s *your* stuff, and I just don’t get wrapped up in > other people’s stuff so much any more. At least, that’s the theory! >
The theory works, I guess, but it has taken me a lot of time to internalize it, and I cannot claim complete mastery of it. I guess that I was lucky this time. 
Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
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