Question:
Hi Lefty! > with my ptsd, I feel as though I must control everyone and every > situation….I feel that something bad will happen if I don’t. > Well, another great friendship has been lost because of it…….any > suggestions?
IME this is a rather standard fear reaction. I used to believe that I had some control over myself, even. :/ Acting as if I could control something or someone else made my world less fearful .. to me. But … it is all a mirage of distorted thinking based in fear. And, it made my world less palatable. The Serenity Prayer works if you believe that the only thing you can control is yourself. Once I learned that even the ability to control myself was a sometime thing, I learned to stop acting as though I had the power to control other folks. I did not and do not. YMMV Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
Response:
Hi Lefty, I can’t seem to stop myself from pointing out *what’s not right* with………. you name it. It often comes across as perfectionism, criticism, being anal, being…. being… being…. DAS COMMANDANT! It comes out of my mouth or my hand moves something, or I get a look on my face………… and damn I’ve done it again. I also feel guilty when I enjoy myself. Hey anyone, what iz up with that one????????? Z55 Lefty <left…@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:b7020f22.0301270630.5355ebb1@posting.google.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> with my ptsd, I feel as though I must control everyone and every > situation….I feel that something bad will happen if I don’t. > Well, another great friendship has been lost because of it…….any > suggestions? I am really feeling down about this…..I don’t know why > I can’t stop doing the things that hurt me and others. I don’t know > why I feel guilty whenever I go out and actually enjoy myself. My > kids hate the fact that I am hyper-vigilant and so > over-protective…..
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with my ptsd, I feel as though I must control everyone and every situation….I feel that something bad will happen if I don’t. Well, another great friendship has been lost because of it…….any suggestions? I am really feeling down about this…..I don’t know why I can’t stop doing the things that hurt me and others. I don’t know why I feel guilty whenever I go out and actually enjoy myself. My kids hate the fact that I am hyper-vigilant and so over-protective…..
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