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Let’s team up. The world is NOT ready!! ;) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Yeah, I know it will be nice to have a visitor…I haven’t had trouble with people coming here so far, but I haven’t had to worry much about that, the only time anyone really comes by now is if I am watching their kids for them, or Kayla invites someone over to play and their mom picks them up. I can’t go hang out anywhere…so I guess you and I put together might handle all kinds of stuff huh? LOL R It’s okay to talk about it if you need to. Just try to focus on your accomplishments, rather than your limitations. Having your friend over will be great. When you see that she is still, after all, your friend, it will give you more strength to fight for your life. It’ll also be practice having someone over. As good as I have been doing, there has been no other human being inside my apartment but me for months. I can go hang out at the coffee shop and natter for hours, but I can’t stand having someone else in my house with me. So, give yourself a big gold star for inviting your friend over, it’ll be a good thing, whether you talk about the monster or not. Robin
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You know….if you spliced several of us on this board together, you would have the PERFECT woman for any situation. Cheryl and her quick wit, Di’s compassion, my smart mouth, your bravery at going out of the house, Jessica’s business savvy, Jackie’s brilliance, ooooohhhh there are too many of us good ones to count. But I bet the world would never be the same~ R – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Let’s team up. The world is NOT ready!! ;) Yeah, I know it will be nice to have a visitor…I haven’t had trouble with people coming here so far, but I haven’t had to worry much about that, the only time anyone really comes by now is if I am watching their kids for them, or Kayla invites someone over to play and their mom picks them up. I can’t go hang out anywhere…so I guess you and I put together might handle all kinds of stuff huh? LOL R It’s okay to talk about it if you need to. Just try to focus on your accomplishments, rather than your limitations. Having your friend over will be great. When you see that she is still, after all, your friend, it will give you more strength to fight for your life. It’ll also be practice having someone over. As good as I have been doing, there has been no other human being inside my apartment but me for months. I can go hang out at the coffee shop and natter for hours, but I can’t stand having someone else in my house with me. So, give yourself a big gold star for inviting your friend over, it’ll be a good thing, whether you talk about the monster or not. Robin
Robin
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Robin, I am glad your friend gave you a call. Could she have possibly just gotten the courage to do so? Don’t worry about the length of time it has taken her to find out/call – just build on the relationship now and enjoy her company. Let this be a time to renew your friendship and build on that… smiles, elise
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – From an officer I went to the academy with. She and I were buds and we work at neighboring facilities. She went and got married just before Wes and I did and we completely lost touch. She was blown away with all the crap we have been dealing with from work. It felt good to talk to her, but it also made me so envious because of her talking about her post, her shift, how well things are going..etc. I am happy for her, don’t get me wrong…but it is like I was saying when Cheryl mentioned the phone call…you just miss the action. Debbee and I were good friends, and we worked not even 2 miles from each other and it took it a year to get to her that I got hurt. She emailed me and was saying something about stopping by or calling sometime, but she didn’t even realize we moved to Norman (we used to live right down the street from the facility she works at). She called and it really took me by surprise even though I was expecting it. I guess in some ways I have just given up on having friends…not that I have none…but more are online than on the phone…so I just don’t really talk on the phone a lot. Anyhow, she is planning to try to come over sometime soon ( we only live a few miles apart now) and while I am excited about seeing her again, I am also anxious because I have changed so much in the last year. Physically I am at the biggest size I have ever been, I don’t take care of myself like I used to…it is unbelievable…we used to get dressed up and go OUT during the academy (when spandex body suits and tight jeans were still an option for me…not so much now…lucky to get spandex SOCKS on now UGH) But I know she was a true friend. We hit it off because we were both young, decent looking females in a male dominated job. We both had the personalities to handle it, where most females in our jobs end up with backstabbing tendencies toward other females. She and I just weren’t like that…so I know she will be a good thing for me….she’s going to probably be around a lot more than anyone since she is on day shift and her hubs is on nights. She has a 6 year old son and that will just be perfect for Cory to play with. It should be a good thing, but I am petrified to reach out there. She has even had issues with Panic Disorder, been diagnosed, had an actual attack…takes meds for it. But it is just hard for me to open back up to people….if they weren’t around in the past year, I feel like all I am doing is filling them in on misery we have dealt with…does that make any sense at all? It isn’t like she doesn’t want to know what is up, but it isn’t something you just say "oh, I have PTSD and Panic Disorder….not much changed…" when EVERYTHING she knew about me changed. Anyhow…I would really like anyone’s input on this. I know it is something that sooner or later will come up. How do you NOT talk about the monster after it has had such a grip on you for so long that you don’t know anything else. When they are interviewing for promotion and you never will….and you have to be excited about making it to the mailbox some days just to feel some sense of accomplishment? How? "It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." ~~Sally Kempton Robin
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It’s okay to talk about it if you need to. Just try to focus on your accomplishments, rather than your limitations. Having your friend over will be great. When you see that she is still, after all, your friend, it will give you more strength to fight for your life. It’ll also be practice having someone over. As good as I have been doing, there has been no other human being inside my apartment but me for months. I can go hang out at the coffee shop and natter for hours, but I can’t stand having someone else in my house with me. So, give yourself a big gold star for inviting your friend over, it’ll be a good thing, whether you talk about the monster or not. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – From an officer I went to the academy with. She and I were buds and we work at neighboring facilities. She went and got married just before Wes and I did and we completely lost touch. She was blown away with all the crap we have been dealing with from work. It felt good to talk to her, but it also made me so envious because of her talking about her post, her shift, how well things are going..etc. I am happy for her, don’t get me wrong…but it is like I was saying when Cheryl mentioned the phone call…you just miss the action. Debbee and I were good friends, and we worked not even 2 miles from each other and it took it a year to get to her that I got hurt. She emailed me and was saying something about stopping by or calling sometime, but she didn’t even realize we moved to Norman (we used to live right down the street from the facility she works at). She called and it really took me by surprise even though I was expecting it. I guess in some ways I have just given up on having friends…not that I have none…but more are online than on the phone…so I just don’t really talk on the phone a lot. Anyhow, she is planning to try to come over sometime soon ( we only live a few miles apart now) and while I am excited about seeing her again, I am also anxious because I have changed so much in the last year. Physically I am at the biggest size I have ever been, I don’t take care of myself like I used to…it is unbelievable…we used to get dressed up and go OUT during the academy (when spandex body suits and tight jeans were still an option for me…not so much now…lucky to get spandex SOCKS on now UGH) But I know she was a true friend. We hit it off because we were both young, decent looking females in a male dominated job. We both had the personalities to handle it, where most females in our jobs end up with backstabbing tendencies toward other females. She and I just weren’t like that…so I know she will be a good thing for me….she’s going to probably be around a lot more than anyone since she is on day shift and her hubs is on nights. She has a 6 year old son and that will just be perfect for Cory to play with. It should be a good thing, but I am petrified to reach out there. She has even had issues with Panic Disorder, been diagnosed, had an actual attack…takes meds for it. But it is just hard for me to open back up to people….if they weren’t around in the past year, I feel like all I am doing is filling them in on misery we have dealt with…does that make any sense at all? It isn’t like she doesn’t want to know what is up, but it isn’t something you just say "oh, I have PTSD and Panic Disorder….not much changed…" when EVERYTHING she knew about me changed. Anyhow…I would really like anyone’s input on this. I know it is something that sooner or later will come up. How do you NOT talk about the monster after it has had such a grip on you for so long that you don’t know anything else. When they are interviewing for promotion and you never will….and you have to be excited about making it to the mailbox some days just to feel some sense of accomplishment? How? "It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." ~~Sally Kempton Robin
Response:
Hi Robin! You have made accomplishments in your life. Your accomplishments are not to be compared to others, they are yours. Your friend will understand. We can not compare ourselves and become depressed because we fight a different battle and climb a different ladder that most will never understand. You will make more accomplishments in your battle against the monster than most do in a life time. It may seem like it is trivial at times, but no way. I can remember the first time I went to the back of the store where my wife worked (Wal-Mart) and man what a day that was. It had been years that I had been inside of a store without literally running out. If I compared that to someone who graduated from a school or something, I could lose that sense, and therefore keep feeding the monster. You will achieve everyday. Today walk, tomorrow, who knows, but it will be accomplishment today. :)J
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – From an officer I went to the academy with. She and I were buds and we work at neighboring facilities. She went and got married just before Wes and I did and we completely lost touch. She was blown away with all the crap we have been dealing with from work. It felt good to talk to her, but it also made me so envious because of her talking about her post, her shift, how well things are going..etc. I am happy for her, don’t get me wrong…but it is like I was saying when Cheryl mentioned the phone call…you just miss the action. Debbee and I were good friends, and we worked not even 2 miles from each other and it took it a year to get to her that I got hurt. She emailed me and was saying something about stopping by or calling sometime, but she didn’t even realize we moved to Norman (we used to live right down the street from the facility she works at). She called and it really took me by surprise even though I was expecting it. I guess in some ways I have just given up on having friends…not that I have none…but more are online than on the phone…so I just don’t really talk on the phone a lot. Anyhow, she is planning to try to come over sometime soon ( we only live a few miles apart now) and while I am excited about seeing her again, I am also anxious because I have changed so much in the last year. Physically I am at the biggest size I have ever been, I don’t take care of myself like I used to…it is unbelievable…we used to get dressed up and go OUT during the academy (when spandex body suits and tight jeans were still an option for me…not so much now…lucky to get spandex SOCKS on now UGH) But I know she was a true friend. We hit it off because we were both young, decent looking females in a male dominated job. We both had the personalities to handle it, where most females in our jobs end up with backstabbing tendencies toward other females. She and I just weren’t like that…so I know she will be a good thing for me….she’s going to probably be around a lot more than anyone since she is on day shift and her hubs is on nights. She has a 6 year old son and that will just be perfect for Cory to play with. It should be a good thing, but I am petrified to reach out there. She has even had issues with Panic Disorder, been diagnosed, had an actual attack…takes meds for it. But it is just hard for me to open back up to people….if they weren’t around in the past year, I feel like all I am doing is filling them in on misery we have dealt with…does that make any sense at all? It isn’t like she doesn’t want to know what is up, but it isn’t something you just say "oh, I have PTSD and Panic Disorder….not much changed…" when EVERYTHING she knew about me changed. Anyhow…I would really like anyone’s input on this. I know it is something that sooner or later will come up. How do you NOT talk about the monster after it has had such a grip on you for so long that you don’t know anything else. When they are interviewing for promotion and you never will….and you have to be excited about making it to the mailbox some days just to feel some sense of accomplishment? How? "It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." ~~Sally Kempton Robin
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Yeah, I know it will be nice to have a visitor…I haven’t had trouble with people coming here so far, but I haven’t had to worry much about that, the only time anyone really comes by now is if I am watching their kids for them, or Kayla invites someone over to play and their mom picks them up. I can’t go hang out anywhere…so I guess you and I put together might handle all kinds of stuff huh? LOL R It’s okay to talk about it if you need to. Just try to focus on your accomplishments, rather than your limitations. Having your friend over will be great. When you see that she is still, after all, your friend, it will give you more strength to fight for your life. It’ll also be practice having someone over. As good as I have been doing, there has been no other human being inside my apartment but me for months. I can go hang out at the coffee shop and natter for hours, but I can’t stand having someone else in my house with me. So, give yourself a big gold star for inviting your friend over, it’ll be a good thing, whether you talk about the monster or not.
Robin
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No, she really just found out about the accident. We have a message board for employees, she was told to check it out because of another post and just happened to see my name. She would have called that day had she known, and I know that. It just makes it really hard after being around just Wes for so long. R Robin, I am glad your friend gave you a call. Could she have possibly just gotten the courage to do so? Don’t worry about the length of time it has taken her to find out/call – just build on the relationship now and enjoy her company. Let this be a time to renew your friendship and build on that… smiles, elise
Robin
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Robin, the anxiety and panic have been a part of your life for the last year, but there are many other good things to talk about too! You have two wonderful children, a wonderful husband, plus all the neat changes you have made in your home. If Debbee has anxiety too, she might find it interesting and educational to talk with you about it. She might even be a good catalyst for you….someone besides your hubby to share your feelings with. Give her a chance. She may surprise you, and become very important in your recovery. Ten minutes after you are chatting, the fears about your physical changes will dissolve and not be an issue any more. Wishing you the best! Liz – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – From an officer I went to the academy with. She and I were buds and we work at neighboring facilities. She went and got married just before Wes and I did and we completely lost touch. She was blown away with all the crap we have been dealing with from work. It felt good to talk to her, but it also made me so envious because of her talking about her post, her shift, how well things are going..etc. I am happy for her, don’t get me wrong…but it is like I was saying when Cheryl mentioned the phone call…you just miss the action. Debbee and I were good friends, and we worked not even 2 miles from each other and it took it a year to get to her that I got hurt. She emailed me and was saying something about stopping by or calling sometime, but she didn’t even realize we moved to Norman (we used to live right down the street from the facility she works at). She called and it really took me by surprise even though I was expecting it. I guess in some ways I have just given up on having friends…not that I have none…but more are online than on the phone…so I just don’t really talk on the phone a lot. Anyhow, she is planning to try to come over sometime soon ( we only live a few miles apart now) and while I am excited about seeing her again, I am also anxious because I have changed so much in the last year. Physically I am at the biggest size I have ever been, I don’t take care of myself like I used to…it is unbelievable…we used to get dressed up and go OUT during the academy (when spandex body suits and tight jeans were still an option for me…not so much now…lucky to get spandex SOCKS on now UGH) But I know she was a true friend. We hit it off because we were both young, decent looking females in a male dominated job. We both had the personalities to handle it, where most females in our jobs end up with backstabbing tendencies toward other females. She and I just weren’t like that…so I know she will be a good thing for me….she’s going to probably be around a lot more than anyone since she is on day shift and her hubs is on nights. She has a 6 year old son and that will just be perfect for Cory to play with. It should be a good thing, but I am petrified to reach out there. She has even had issues with Panic Disorder, been diagnosed, had an actual attack…takes meds for it. But it is just hard for me to open back up to people….if they weren’t around in the past year, I feel like all I am doing is filling them in on misery we have dealt with…does that make any sense at all? It isn’t like she doesn’t want to know what is up, but it isn’t something you just say "oh, I have PTSD and Panic Disorder….not much changed…" when EVERYTHING she knew about me changed. Anyhow…I would really like anyone’s input on this. I know it is something that sooner or later will come up. How do you NOT talk about the monster after it has had such a grip on you for so long that you don’t know anything else. When they are interviewing for promotion and you never will….and you have to be excited about making it to the mailbox some days just to feel some sense of accomplishment? How? "It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." ~~Sally Kempton Robin
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From an officer I went to the academy with. She and I were buds and we work at neighboring facilities. She went and got married just before Wes and I did and we completely lost touch. She was blown away with all the crap we have been dealing with from work. It felt good to talk to her, but it also made me so envious because of her talking about her post, her shift, how well things are going..etc. I am happy for her, don’t get me wrong…but it is like I was saying when Cheryl mentioned the phone call…you just miss the action. Debbee and I were good friends, and we worked not even 2 miles from each other and it took it a year to get to her that I got hurt. She emailed me and was saying something about stopping by or calling sometime, but she didn’t even realize we moved to Norman (we used to live right down the street from the facility she works at). She called and it really took me by surprise even though I was expecting it. I guess in some ways I have just given up on having friends…not that I have none…but more are online than on the phone…so I just don’t really talk on the phone a lot. Anyhow, she is planning to try to come over sometime soon ( we only live a few miles apart now) and while I am excited about seeing her again, I am also anxious because I have changed so much in the last year. Physically I am at the biggest size I have ever been, I don’t take care of myself like I used to…it is unbelievable…we used to get dressed up and go OUT during the academy (when spandex body suits and tight jeans were still an option for me…not so much now…lucky to get spandex SOCKS on now UGH) But I know she was a true friend. We hit it off because we were both young, decent looking females in a male dominated job. We both had the personalities to handle it, where most females in our jobs end up with backstabbing tendencies toward other females. She and I just weren’t like that…so I know she will be a good thing for me….she’s going to probably be around a lot more than anyone since she is on day shift and her hubs is on nights. She has a 6 year old son and that will just be perfect for Cory to play with. It should be a good thing, but I am petrified to reach out there. She has even had issues with Panic Disorder, been diagnosed, had an actual attack…takes meds for it. But it is just hard for me to open back up to people….if they weren’t around in the past year, I feel like all I am doing is filling them in on misery we have dealt with…does that make any sense at all? It isn’t like she doesn’t want to know what is up, but it isn’t something you just say "oh, I have PTSD and Panic Disorder….not much changed…" when EVERYTHING she knew about me changed. Anyhow…I would really like anyone’s input on this. I know it is something that sooner or later will come up. How do you NOT talk about the monster after it has had such a grip on you for so long that you don’t know anything else. When they are interviewing for promotion and you never will….and you have to be excited about making it to the mailbox some days just to feel some sense of accomplishment? How? "It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." ~~Sally Kempton Robin
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