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Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 A few weeks back, our foster mother was taking us shopping. All of a sudden, from outta no where, our biological mother comes up to us and hugs us, telling us how much she and my biological father miss me, and to please come back to them. Problem is each time we have contact with them, they ab*se us. We want to have contact with them, we really wish scared of them. Some of us littles want our Mummy and Daddy though. *starts to cry* But we don’t want to get h*rt again either. We are so scared now. Our lady is in another country, we’ll be moving there there later to be with biological Father and Mother who can come up to us off the streets at any time. They are always so nice when they come up to us on the streets, its only go back to them, not again, not after what they have done. But we don’t want them accosting us on the street either, so we are scared to go outside. We don’t know what to do, we are forcing ourselves to go out doors but have been on a waiting list to see now has an appointment for us, so we placed on a waiting list. Some of you may remember our posts back then, we had just realised we had D.I.D and were coming to grips with it. Since then we have made progress. At least 11 alts have made themselves known to us and we have learned to live with D.I.D We have also worked would make us whole, that the alts would become one. We don’t want to become one! Each of us have our own identity, our own existence, we don’t want to loose that. We are scared of what may happen within the *py, scared of loosing ourselves. We have our first appointment this coming Monday and we are really stressed out over it. We are just feeling scared, teary and helpless right now. Thank you for letting us unload all of this, we would welcome any comments any of you would have that could help us get through this time. Warmest Regards Overseer for Steve.
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*Takes a deep breath. Wow. What a whole lot ofstuff to have to be dealing with right now. I think you are doing very well to be coping as well as you are. You have achieved so much, to have dealt with some of the ab*se and to have learned to live with the DID. You have done all this since september? I am stunned. To have achieved that is fantastic andyou should be really pleased and proud of yourself that you have done this. I wish I had something useful to say about the whole p*rent situation. I can’t begin to get my head around that. I’m sorry. However, the therapy, maybe I can reassure you a little. I understand the fear you are feeling and it is very common to be scared of in*egr*tion(t,a). But what you need to know, is that you cant be in*egr*ted if you dont want to be. If there is still a need for those others to exist, they will do. Nobody can make you do anything you are not ready for. Your subconscious protects you against anything that you believe to be harmful. Instead perhaps you could use the therapy to help you deal with some of the stressors you are facing, and maybe improve communication between yourselves and work out how you would best like to move forward. Take what you want and need from the therapy, it is for your benefit and nobody elses. Maybe at some point in time you may wish to look into int*gr*tion but there is no rush to do that, and it wont happen overnight anyway. My understanding though is that you wouldn’t lose those other parts but instead be closer to them. However, if like me, parts of you have their own very distinct personality and there is no room for compromise then maybe this isnt the best option for you, at least for now. You can make that decision. I understand some of the littles are upset, perhaps you could reassure them that they are safe, and allow them some time to play and release some of those feelings. Wishing you much strength and wanting to let you know you are in our thoughts, and that we hope you can get some support from the therapy that is being offered rather than it being another cause of upset. Take it slow for the first appointment, say what you want from hir and look after yourselves. f.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 A few weeks back, our foster mother was taking us shopping. All of a sudden, from outta no where, our biological mother comes up to us and hugs us, telling us how much she and my biological father miss me, and to please come back to them. Problem is each time we have contact with them, they ab*se us. We want to have contact with them, we really wish scared of them. Some of us littles want our Mummy and Daddy though. *starts to cry* But we don’t want to get h*rt again either. We are so scared now. Our lady is in another country, we’ll be moving there there later to be with biological Father and Mother who can come up to us off the streets at any time. They are always so nice when they come up to us on the streets, its only go back to them, not again, not after what they have done. But we don’t want them accosting us on the street either, so we are scared to go outside.
this isn’t right. can you talk to your cps social worker and try to get an order of protection (or something) against them so they are prohibited from approaching you on the street? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -We don’t know what to do, we are forcing ourselves to go out doors but have been on a waiting list to see now has an appointment for us, so we placed on a waiting list. Some of you may remember our posts back then, we had just realised we had D.I.D and were coming to grips with it. Since then we have made progress. At least 11 alts have made themselves known to us and we have learned to live with D.I.D We have also worked would make us whole, that the alts would become one. We don’t want to become one! Each of us have our own identity, our own existence, we don’t want to loose that. We are scared of what may happen within the *py, scared of loosing ourselves. We have our first appointment this coming Monday and we are really stressed out over it. We are just feeling scared, teary and helpless right now. Thank you for letting us unload all of this, we would welcome any comments any of you would have that could help us get through this time. Warmest Regards Overseer for Steve.
int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. anyway, in our experience, int*gration didn’t mean that anyone went away or stopped existing. people just kind of naturally grew together and continued existing, but in a different way. i’m everyone i was before, and i’m different from everyone i was before (in the same way that an adolescent is different from the child sie used to be and an adult is different from the adolescent sie used to be). i hope this didn’t just confuse you completely. — astri
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[seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now.
what astri suggested with that, too] – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri
Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!] — For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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good for you. anyone who calls himself a tpist yet tries to force religion and his own goals for you onto you isn’t and can’t be therapeutic. see if you can get a nonreligious tpist next time. did your foster parents choose this one? — astri – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi ZebraBeard, Astri, and Frankii, appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve [seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. what astri suggested with that, too] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!] — For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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Hi ZebraBeard, Astri, and Frankii, appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – [seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. what astri suggested with that, too] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!] — For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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Aye My foster mother picked it, She has no idea how distressing it was to triggered the way that guy triggered. He even suggested I had that need to be cast out. We don’t want to reveal ourselves to someone and be rejected by them, we have a hard enough time trusting anyone as it is. S. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – good for you. anyone who calls himself a tpist yet tries to force religion and his own goals for you onto you isn’t and can’t be therapeutic. see if you can get a nonreligious tpist next time. did your foster parents choose this one? — astri Hi ZebraBeard, Astri, and Frankii, appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve [seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. what astri suggested with that, too] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!] — For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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Yarghhhh!!!!!!! Good for you, Steve – I am going to put a spoiler in, because this is exactly the kind of thing that can flip people out here at asd, this (Xian) rlgn stuff being put forward as a necessity and an agenda for all kinds of other stuff. One more comment below the spoiler. 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 Steve: I am as sure as I am breathing that Jesus would never recognize these people as having anything to do w/what he taught – which is love, pure and simple. Just love. That’s it. The rest of what they are telling you is lies. Beauty. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Hi ZebraBeard, Astri, and Frankii, appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve [seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. what astri suggested with that, too] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!] — For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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Good for you, Steve! That was *not* someone who had the slightest chance of being helpful to you. So glad to hear that you took care of yourself and got out, and cancelled any further appointments with this person. So sorry you got triggered so much by him, though. Not sure what services are available in Australia (I think I remember that that is what the "au" at the end of your e-mail address means you’re living?)… in the US, there are state groups which can help people find appropriate ther*pists. Maybe where you are try the business pages of the phone book (or call information) for the country-wide "Psychological Association" (if such a thing exists there) and see if they can help. There may also be ‘continuing education’ training for dissociation (such as DID) that ‘pass through’ the area you are in, which might provide some names of reputable treaters who – unlike this person you saw – actually know what they are doing in this area. By all means: when you do seek further help, make sure *you* are the one picking the ther*pist. Good luck to you, and continue to post if and when you want. -ZebraBeard P.S. Not a big deal, but just so you know, some programs read anything with color and underline them (actually drawing _more_ attention to them). Maybe try the "*" symbol for splatting. As far as which words you are splatting, you’re doing great! :) Take care. Sent: Sunday, March 16, 2003 8:58 PM – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi ZebraBeard, Astri, and Frankii, appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve [seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. support what astri suggested with that, too] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!]
– For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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Thx All for your support on this, we were feeling very unsure and insecure over it. Yes we are in Australia however in 6 months time we’ll be in New Zealand so we’ll have to search out services over there when we are ready. In our intial post we spoke about our parients coming up to us on the streets. Many here mentioned taking a restraining order out on them. We have looked into this, and the legal counsel we have recieved is that that it is very unlikely that we would be granted an restraining order against them as they haven’t actually "threatened" us when they approached us off the streets. Of course the fact that our legal system discrimates against males. If we were female we wouldn’t have a problem getting a restraining order, but because we are male we have all sorts of problems. Anyway we’ll be moving in six months time and leaving our biological parients well behind us. Until then we just have to be careful. Overseer for Steve – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Good for you, Steve! That was *not* someone who had the slightest chance of being helpful to you. So glad to hear that you took care of yourself and got out, and cancelled any further appointments with this person. So sorry you got triggered so much by him, though. Not sure what services are available in Australia (I think I remember that that is what the "au" at the end of your e-mail address means you’re living?)… in the US, there are state groups which can help people find appropriate ther*pists. Maybe where you are try the business pages of the phone book (or call information) for the country-wide "Psychological Association" (if such a thing exists there) and see if they can help. There may also be ‘continuing education’ training for dissociation (such as DID) that ‘pass through’ the area you are in, which might provide some names of reputable treaters who – unlike this person you saw – actually know what they are doing in this area. By all means: when you do seek further help, make sure *you* are the one picking the ther*pist. Good luck to you, and continue to post if and when you want. -ZebraBeard P.S. Not a big deal, but just so you know, some programs read anything with color and underline them (actually drawing _more_ attention to them). Maybe try the "*" symbol for splatting. As far as which words you are splatting, you’re doing great! :) Take care. Sent: Sunday, March 16, 2003 8:58 PM Hi ZebraBeard, Astri, and Frankii, appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve [seem to be piggy-backing on astri's posts lately... this is two (so far) tonight] [snipping a bunch, not because it wasn't important, but because I had nothing new to add to it that someone hadn't already said] First, Hello Steve, nice to meet you, and glad you joined us here. Sent: Saturday, March 15, 2003 9:17 PM Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. support what astri suggested with that, too] 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 int*gration only happens if it is right for your system. people can grow in all sorts of ways in or out of therapy. int*gration is one of the ways that someone can grow, but won’t happen for everyone. no t’pist can force integration — if they try, it usually falls apart pretty soon. — astri Also, if a th*rapist tries *anything* against your will: it is time to get a different therapist *immediately*. Just felt I needed to add that. Welcome, again, Steve. -ZebraBeard [If posting a reply to this, *please* e-mail a copy to me, my news server only recently started showing my posts and the responses to them, and I don't quite trust it fully yet. (Anyone who e-mails someone with a twwells address automatically gets their own anonymous twwells address if they don't already have one, so I would never see your 'real' address if you have concerns about that). Thank you!] — For info about this service, see http://anon.twwells.com/help/ or e-mail:
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Hi Frankii and ZebraBeard, Also, thanks to ZebraBeard for pointing out about the asterisks, you’re doing fab at splatting, and by using a different character will be perfick, thanks 
Take care, frankii.
Thanks for the input about splats, we’ll do our best to remember to use a different character next time we splat a word. Sorry in advance to Warmest Regards Overseer for Steve.
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Hi Steve, well done for being able to tell the therapist you weren’t interested in his idea of therapy. Im really glad you were able to do that as that sort of help you dont need. And yes, the best therapist will be one you choose yourself and feel comfortable with, at a time you feel ready for it. Im sorry you had such a rough time and got triggered so badly but Im glad you were able to keep control of the situation and walk away even if it did risk upsetting your foster m*ther. Also, thanks to ZebraBeard for pointing out about the asterisks, you’re doing fab at splatting, and by using a different character will be perfick, thanks Take care, frankii.
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First, hello Steve and Distainer (hope that’s right). I’m Jevean. Nice to meet you. :-) I didn’t get a chance to respond to your other posts, though I wanted to. am sure it took a lot of guts to put yourself out there and go to a tpist in the first place, and I commend you for that. I am just so sorry that it turned out the way that it did. But, I am very proud of you for standing up for yourselves and canceling all further appointments. Spoiler for and : 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 1 don’t know if he knew your history about so-called Xians hurting you before he mentioned this…but even if he didn’t, there are so many of us out there who have been hurt by ""…this guy sounds like he has no sensitivity to his clients. How can a thpist be so inflexible? Saying you have to accept with this jerk. But, like I said, I am so happy, and relieved, that you stood up for yourself. You deserve much better than what this guy has to offer. I just hope that you are able to get what it is that you truly need when you are yourselves. You surely deserve the best there is to receive. Oh, and btw, I wholeheartedly agree with Beauty when she said that the only thing Jesus is associated with is love, pure and simple. I, too, was abused in the name of "religion." Over the past few years, I drew away from God and Christianity b/c of the things that I remembered was done to me. The ppl who abused me were "Christians" by day and the total opposite at night But this year I realized that God had nothing to do with those people. And I can’t blame Him for their actions. Steve, please don’t think I’m preaching to you or trying to tell you what you should think, here. I truly understand if you don’t want anything to do with God or "Christians" or whatever. I’m sort of wanting to delete this paragraph but I will leave it in. Please, if what I’ve said here bothers you, please let me know. And, if it does, I am so sorry. After all, this is just my opinion and how I feel…just me. I’m sorry. Take care. ~~Jevean
appointments with him and walked out. Our foster m#th#r did not approve of us doing this. Distainer for Steve<<
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Hello Steve – We are taking the risk of replying w/out having read the other replies and your re-replies, etc., so we may have some redundancy and questions/comments which are no longer pertinent. See you below your spoiler (which we think was well done) – – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Hi All Well we’ve decided to face up to our fears and make this post. The littles are a tad upset, so we are feeling kinda scared and emotional right now. But we could really do with some some support, as we are feeling very vulnerable right now. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 A few weeks back, our foster mother was taking us shopping. All of a sudden, from outta no where, our biological mother comes up to us
This alone would have been enough to deeply upset me. Isn’t there a restraining order about how and when she can have contact w/you – like certain visitation, w/certain supervision and stuff – not just coming up to you any old where? If so, and she has broken this order, the authorities need to know. Your emotional well being should not be compromised in this way. and hugs us, telling us how much she and my biological father miss me, and to please come back to them.
And of course this goes straight to your emotions – the ones that want it to have been okay, want it to have been that you had a wonderful Mummy and Daddy, and all – in other words, they are going straight to the most vulnerable spot. Problem is each time we have contact with them, they ab*se us. We want to have contact with them, we really wish scared of them.
And now look at all the good reasons you have – and keep being reminded of, and given more of, that this never was and is not going to be a "good parents" kind of thing. Tragic beyond my understanding, and if I could do anything at all to change it, I would – truly, I would. If I could start time all over and make sure you were placed into a family who would love you as a beautiful and treasured person, that is what I would do. Some of us littles want our Mummy and Daddy though. *starts to cry*
Of course! And how natural that is! Who else did you have to turn to? And they did give you everything you ever knew of love (albeit of a very strange and hurtful kind) for a while – and they fed you and clothed you and so forth. And even if they did all of these things badly, they were and are your only Mummy and Daddy, and it’s pretty hard to stop wanting that, isn’t it? It wouldn’t be human not to have some part of that want still alive – it’s a question now of where to go with it, how to care for it. But we don’t want to get h*rt again either. We are so scared now. Our lady is in another country, we’ll be moving there there later to be with biological Father and Mother who can come up to us off the streets at any time.
Is the Foster Mother a legal guardian? If you have a restraining order put on people who are hurting you, they are not allowed to approach you. They are always so nice when they come up to us on the streets, its only
Yes, they want their secrets kept. Part of why they want you back is that you carry part of their secrets – yes? We are not going to go back to them, not again, not after what they have done.
Good, good, good. But we don’t want them accosting us on the street either, so we are scared to go outside. We don’t know what to do, we are forcing ourselves to go out doors but
Once again: restraining orders? Possible? Won’t help the stress, probably, but might change the behaviors on their part. have been on a waiting list to see now has an appointment for us, so we placed on a waiting list. Some of you may remember our posts back then, we had just realised we had D.I.D and were coming to grips with it. Since then we have made progress. At least 11 alts have made themselves known to us and we have learned to live with D.I.D We have also worked
Good that you have done some tr*uma work and good that you have a place w/someone you want to work with. would make us whole, that the alts would become one.
Which Mum is this? The Foster Mum? We don’t want to become one! Each of us have our own identity, our own existence, we don’t want to loose that. We are scared of what may happen within the *py, scared of loosing ourselves. We have our first appointment this coming Monday and we are really stressed out over it. We are just feeling scared, teary and helpless right now. Thank you for letting us unload all of this, we would welcome any comments any of you would have that could help us get through this time.
In our experience, and in what we have heard here at the ng – there are a range of opinions about DID, including that it doesn’t exist. But many, many people believe that the point of therapy is to set your own goals – there are many ways to work w/DID to become more functional. You don’t have to do it by becoming one – and if you don’t want to become one, it isn’t going to happen. It’s like being put into trance – if you don’t want it, it isn’t going to happen – the brain simply won’t go there. There are many approaches to working w/DID and all the related phenomena – like, you said you’d done some work on the sxl stuff – and then there is the PTSD stuff – and whatever other stuff. There are all kinds of ways to go in. I wouldn’t go in second-guessing this therapist, but I would go in w/my own views about what I do hope to gain from therapy, and what I do not want to have happen (at least at this time – these things can always be re-negotiated). If a therapist is so rigid as not to be able to hear the client’s point of view on things, if it were me, I would seek another therapist, and fast. Take care – much luck for the first visit, we hope it goes well – Beauty. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Warmest Regards Overseer for Steve.
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