Question:
by now, most of us have seen the post about the husband’s violent reaction to his wife’s cutting and ASD. his message may have been phrased wrong, but he has made some important points. i cannot agree with his condemning ASD or his generalizations, but there is something in his message that does ring true. first off, he loves his wife. how do i know this, well, i don’t. something inside tells me that he must, he went through a lot of trouble to make contact with us. second, don’t condemn someone for stating the truth. just by reading and exposing ourselves to the subjects of ASD, we fill our little heads with ideas. sometimes they are helpful, sometimes harmful. since i began reading ASD, i have almost constant thoughts of cutting, something i never thought about until reading. in another instance, my brother has been transformed into a monster by "counciling". some people are just more susceptable to the surroundings. in the same way positive posts reenforce, negative topics can cause great damage. i see a lot of people yelling, attacking, but few offering help. he does not sound like he knows what he is really dealing with. he needs help in learning to cope too. this is suposed to be a support group and that should apply to all of those he need it, whether they act civil or not. please dont take offense at this post, just wanted to remind us what we are about. sometimes we need to be waken. — For more information about this service, send e-mail to:
Response:
You’re okay, carina. I would have done precisely what you did had I not seen gale’s post before I reacted. What you did was a thoughtful, caring thing to do, something we should all aspire to. That is the most any of us can do unless we know more about the "RL" situation. Everyone here understands that (and if they don’t – screw ‘em). I had many "ex-friends" ready to come to my first husband’s defense because they thought I was leaving a "wonderful man". They could not see the abuse. The bruises were well placed and many were psychological. I don’t blame those people for misreading my ex. I blame him for manipulating them and myself for being too scared to get out sooner. Do not be upset with yourself at all, please. KCat
yeah, i hear you… and it turns out i really didnt have the facts and my original post may have been more on track. sigh. i’m going to listen to my own heart from now on and not react as i think i "should" react. thanks for the support {{{kcat}}} carina —
If you like this post and would like to receive updates from this blog, please subscribe our feed.