Question:
If compulsive eating has nothing to do with being hungry, then why are the weight management tapes my therapist gave me working! They tell my subconscious that it’s OK to be hungry… but my eating problem had nothing to do with being hungry… Also, does anyone else have an obsession about never being good enough? It’s very frustrating and I think it’s ruining my life. I can’t make myself beleive that anyone could love or care about me. Therapy is helping, but I don’t know….
Response:
On Fri, 26 Mar 1999 10:48:32 -0800, cnjjo…@postoffice.pacbell.net wrote: >I can’t make myself beleive that anyone could love or care about me. Therapy is >helping, but I don’t know….
With all my problems, I don’t see how anyone could love me romantically.
Response:
kbeth wrote in message <36fd0790.1531…@news.asan.com>… >On Fri, 26 Mar 1999 10:48:32 -0800, cnjjo…@postoffice.pacbell.net >wrote: >>I can’t make myself beleive that anyone could love or care about me. Therapy is >>helping, but I don’t know…. >With all my problems, I don’t see how anyone could love me >romantically.
Kbeth, I lived with a woman suffering an undiagnosed PTSD for 12 years. I knew her for about 4 years before that. She was my first and only love. Had her condition been recognised and treated earlier we might still be together now. It was her constant abuse of me and unwillingness to be responsible for her own problems that took the toll. Love has a power of its own and gives of its own accord. I loved the woman I saw within and it withstood a hellish level of abuse before it died. You are aware of your problems and are working hard at sorting them out. That sort of honesty alone is an attractive quality, as is your willingness to help others. Honesty and goodness are rare in this world. Your time will come I’m sure. Regards, Trevor
Response:
kbeth wrote in message <36fd0790.1531…@news.asan.com>… >On Fri, 26 Mar 1999 10:48:32 -0800, cnjjo…@postoffice.pacbell.net >wrote: >>I can’t make myself beleive that anyone could love or care about me. Therapy is >>helping, but I don’t know…. >With all my problems, I don’t see how anyone could love me >romantically.
I didn’t think anyone could love me romantically, either but I know my husband does. (still don’t know what he sees in me, though). When we got married, I was so skinny, I looked like Olive Oyl from the Popeye cartoon. Not to mention this stupid OCD. But then again, my husband is balding and overweight and I still love him more than I can even express in this e-mail so I don’t think our physical attributes mean as much as we give them credit for. And yeah, I have my quirks but I work hard and I do love him and he knows it. He could have some Barbie looking "Stepford-wife" who is only with him for his money or because she can’t get anything better, I guess. At least he knows I am with him because I truely enjoy his company and I want to be with him. That has got to count for something, even though I have flaws. Hell, everyone has some kind of ax to bear. Some of my co-workers tell me about stuff going on in their lives that makes my problems seem tame. You are NOT unlovable, Kbeth. You can (and probably will) find happiness. It took me a while, too. Ida
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