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I have been constantly teased throughout high school , many years ago, for my looks (facial features)..Because of the constant teasing I became very depressed and did not know that I had an Illness. I am currently in therapy for the teasing. I also suffer from PTSD because of the teasing. Sometimes I am very afraid to leave the house fearing that someone will make a negative comment about my appearance..
Yep! I got it too. It finally took some cognitive therapy to figure out that I don’t have to listen to those old voices any more. That’s not my voice, it’s theirs, and I can tell it to go fuck off. Sometimes I do, right out loud, because what it says is just so patently ridiculous. But I still feel uncomfortable around groups of teenagers, or when I hear people laughing. I have to tell myself that they’re probably talking about something entirely different, not me at all. It’s a struggle, but I’m doing better. It just makes me angry that it’s taken so long for people to start taking teasing seriously. Finally people are seeing it for the abuse that it is. Welcome, Peter. Good luck. Melissa In some cultures what I do would be considered normal.
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This too. I was raised by Mike and Carol Brady. They couldn’t seem to comprehend that there are mean people out there who really will step all over you and get off on your pain. I have a good friend who’s quite heavy, and he didn’t seem to suffer as much as I did socially. He was very blue collar, with a big "fuck you" attitude, and I think that helped him. I was a hapless puppy dog wondering why everyone was so mean to me. Basically I had a big target painted on me wherever I went. Some people are more than happy to shoot fish in a barrel. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m guessing you were raised to be a nice person… people like that often have trouble dealing with this sort of thing. see my parents both have kind of a well fuck you attitude its not that they are all bad but if someone didn’t like something about them thier attitude was always "FUCK YOU… who the hell are you anyway" i would suggest you try adopting this attitude it may not be preety but hey sometimes you have to make a deal with the devil to survive in this world… you may find that a little negativity can be a blessing and just remember that NO ONE should be able to make you feel anything you do not want to YOU and YOU alone own your feelings. that’s my 2 cents i hope it helps. good luck.
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p’d and e’d: This is my life. There are some really shitty people out there in the world who would laugh if they teased you so much that you killed yourself. And you will get a lot of people telling you that this CAN’T be possible, how would anyone tease you about something like this, blah blah blah. Listen to your gut. Don’t let people tell you that you are crazy!!! In my opinion, I doubt you suffer from an "illness" due to teasing. If someone is in a shitty life situation, I think it’s pretty damn normal to be depressed. There are things you can do to vastly improve your life situation. What helped me immensely was placing myself in environments that were good for me. For example, I stopped trying to go to pickup bars with my pretty-boy friends (just to watch them hook up, yeah, great fun.) I avoid people and environments where I am more likely to be judged on my looks. There are people and environments that will be much more accepting of you, you just need to seek them out. This is partly why I sought out cleaning buildings. My customers could care less what I look like. In fact, they kind of expect a janitor to look like a schmuck. Which is fine with me, cause I have a nice little business, my customers love me cause I give them a clean building, and I’ve never been happier in my life. I even found a woman to marry me, which I never thought would happen ever. So if you keep an open mind, and trust your instincts, you can create better venues for yourself that maximize your contentedness and minimize the shittiness that other people throw at you. and when you do this, you will be strong enough to handle the remaining shittiness that you do encounter. You can’t make it all go away, but you can build a viable, contented existence. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been constantly teased throughout high school , many years ago, for my looks (facial features)..Because of the constant teasing I became very depressed and did not know that I had an Illness. I am currently in therapy for the teasing. I also suffer from PTSD because of the teasing. Sometimes I am very afraid to leave the house fearing that someone will make a negative comment about my appearance..
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I have been constantly teased throughout high school , many years ago, for my looks (facial features)..Because of the constant teasing I became very depressed and did not know that I had an Illness. I am currently in therapy for the teasing. I also suffer from PTSD because of the teasing. Sometimes I am very afraid to leave the house fearing that someone will make a negative comment about my appearance..
the hardest lesson for me to learn was that when i’m out, most ppl don’t notice me, nor do they care to — they’re tuned in to their own thing. I dealt w/more than my share of teasing — for the longest time I was the shortest and thinnest boy in school, and then after growing nearly 3/4 of a foot in a year merely the thinnest. i’ve found that on those rare occasions when i fly into a rage it’s due to some situation similar to a jr high school or high school situation that i’d encountered, and it was years befoere i developed enough confidence in my abilities to do much of anything right. recovery is a long-term endeavor. good luck. James "Vision is both revelation and revolution. It is the call AND the response." — James Benjamin (2000) http://www.geocities.com/the_bokononist/
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Ditto on the teasing. It’s caused me many problems throughout my life. I’d write more about it now, but I’m kind’ve zoned out right now. -SM
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I have been constantly teased throughout high school , many years ago, for my looks (facial features)..Because of the constant teasing I became very depressed and did not know that I had an Illness. I am currently in therapy for the teasing. I also suffer from PTSD because of the teasing. Sometimes I am very afraid to leave the house fearing that someone will make a negative comment about my appearance..
i just want to say that i know how you feel….i was teased all throughout gradeschool and high school, and it pretty much left me depressed and cold torwards the world, leaving me with no desire to go out and i still have a really hard time making friends. Nobody could see there was a problem, even though i tried many times to tell them. I never thought the teasing could cause PTSD, but when my doc brought it up, i didn’t know what to think….i never told him about the teasing, he just said i showed signs of PTSD. I was brought up to be a nice person, to be open minded and respectful, and i think that is why it affected me so much. I think another one of my problems is that my dad is so negative all the time, and that has caused me to focus on negative things, which made it even worse. Anyway, enough about me, this post is about you. i really don’t know what would help, i guess you just have to learn to ignore what people say or think about you and be confident in yourself and know that you are better than those people. I know it is hard to do, it’s something that takes time and maybe talking to a therapist would help….i know it is helping me with this problem. i don’t know if i’ve been any help at all, but you can e-mail me anytime if you want to talk more…..i really hope things get better for you. -ship www.geocities.com/burnedoutshells
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I’m guessing you were raised to be a nice person… people like that often have trouble dealing with this sort of thing. see my parents both have kind of a well fuck you attitude its not that they are all bad but if someone didn’t like something about them thier attitude was always "FUCK YOU… who the hell are you anyway" i would suggest you try adopting this attitude it may not be preety but hey sometimes you have to make a deal with the devil to survive in this world… you may find that a little negativity can be a blessing and just remember that NO ONE should be able to make you feel anything you do not want to YOU and YOU alone own your feelings. that’s my 2 cents i hope it helps. good luck.
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I have been constantly teased throughout high school , many years ago, for my looks (facial features)..Because of the constant teasing I became very depressed and did not know that I had an Illness. I am currently in therapy for the teasing. I also suffer from PTSD because of the teasing. Sometimes I am very afraid to leave the house fearing that someone will make a negative comment about my appearance..
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