Question:
Being in a highly triggered state, a friend I just brought in tried to help me by giving me a copy of a post. They expelled him although he didn’t know he was breaking any ‘codes’. He sincerely apologized and was told to go away and never return. I had already unsubbed. All that was asked was a simple apology and I’d errase my files. They refused. I’ve made three similar offers this morning, the last one bounced as the list owner isn’t taking my private mesages to her. I’m super aggressive and believe in ‘don’t get mad, get even’. They could stop it but won’t apoligize and they made the error. Bill – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -KristiL64 wrote: > My Opinion: It takes a low-life that wants to post 621 private emails from a > mailing list. What is your agenda, Bill? So? You didn’t like the list, you > left, and now you call everyone on there a bunch of phoneys??? I’ve been on > plenty of lists that I didn’t like before. Guess what I did?? I unsubscribed, > and didn’t give it a second thought. Why don’t you do the same, instead of > trying to cause problems? Don’t you realize that some people want to post > their private thoughts to a list so that they don’t have everyone and their > uncles reading it on a public newsgroup?? > Where is your head, Bill? You are downright mean and triggering, to boot. > Kristi
Response:
Bill Trucks wrote: > Being in a highly triggered state, a friend I just brought in tried to > help me by > giving me a copy of a post. They expelled him although he didn’t know > he was > breaking any ‘codes’. He sincerely apologized and was told to go away > and never > return. I had already unsubbed. All that was asked was a simple > apology and I’d > errase my files.
This is the beginning of a really common problem, IMHO. The attitude of "I’ll do what’s right, but only after you do it first" just doesn’t work. I think that, at times, all people decide to make their actions dependent upon the actions of others, but I think that this is especially common in PTSD. I have rarely seen people get better with this kind of attitude. They refused. I’ve made three similar offers this > morning, the > last one bounced as the list owner isn’t taking my private mesages to > her. I’m > super aggressive and believe in ‘don’t get mad, get even’. They could > stop it but > won’t apoligize and they made the error.
You’re right. They could stop it. But the easiest way to stop it is for you to take responsibility for your own actions and stop it first. You can’t control them; you can only control yourself. Regards, John
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John: I wish you had been on the list to see how Bill upset many of the members on there. He wasn’t even asked to leave – he chose to leave. Then, he had a friend of his go on as a "spy." The friend forwarded to Bill many of the posts from the group, which in turn, triggered Bill. If you ask me, with friends like that, who needs enemies. Anyway, I have no reason to apologize to Bill as I did nothing. He didn’t like my list, so he left. I too, have been on lists that I didn’t like either, so I unsubscribed and that was the end of it. I think it is a shame that Bill has nothing better to do with his time than post emails from a list to a public newsgroup. What is that proving, Bill??? Tell me what you think it is proving to all of us? Luanne
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