Question:
Hi, my son is in trouble and I am trying to find some help for him—-he is active duty army, came home on emergency leave (death in the family) after 7 months in Iraq and had a breakdown, attempted suicide and was hospitalized. He is not the same person I knew, very depressed! Now the army is bringing some serious charges aganst him and ignoring his emotional problems, they want him punished for failure to report and awol, among other things. My son needs help, not punishment–I am desperate to find someone who can help him. Thanks
Response:
Find the local Chaplin fast ! See if DAV can help out, they may not go for it. Life in War is tough on everyone. All in DAV have been Wounded, some just hurt in time of War. He has to handle this alone, if he can pull himself together he can do anything. I don’t want to come across mean, but others have it harder. Some thrive some fall apart. He needs to be with his Unit only they can help him. They are his family now not you. 5 minutes with his Col. will help him providing he is a War Vet. They know how to talk, he will not threaten him. Its hot, dirty, living is basic survival. Its a mindset thing. The closer he is with his Unit the better it is. He must share his misery with his people. They are all into this together. The Military will not look kindly on this nor should they. He took an Oath and must stand by it. Read Lt. Col. Grossman’s ‘ On Killing.’ Read Shays ‘Achilles in Vietnam.’ Shay used fake Vets, but his ideas are brilliant. If Dr.Shay used real Vets his book would of been an Icon. I found his fake Vets disgusting, but his ideas are like I said, Brilliant. If you buy it get Homers Achilles and follow it along with his book. Should your Son blow it now, he Shall regret it the rest of his life and live a life of PTSD. He has it now, but its not too late to get away from it. Find that Chaplin or a Retired Special Forces man FAST ! You can find a local SF by going to teamhouse tni no dot, just as I spelled it. One will come over and talk to him. Or, google> special operations or special forces. Someone lives near you. God Bless – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -<suzi…@webtv.net> wrote in message news:25721-3F76455F-262@storefull-2192.public.lawson.webtv.net… > Hi, my son is in trouble and I am trying to find some help for him—-he > is active duty army, came home on emergency leave (death in the family) > after 7 months in Iraq and had a breakdown, attempted suicide and was > hospitalized. He is not the same person I knew, very depressed! Now the > army is bringing some serious charges aganst him and ignoring his > emotional problems, they want him punished for failure to report and > awol, among other things. My son needs help, not punishment–I am > desperate to find someone who can help him. Thanks
Response:
Hi suzipeg! I second a lot of what fob says, specifically that your son needs to return to his unit as soon as his leave is finished … no matter his condition, physical and emotional. > He has to handle this alone, if he can pull himself together > he can do anything. > I don’t want to come across mean, but others have it > harder. Some thrive some fall apart. He needs to be > with his Unit only they can help him. They are his family > now not you. 5 minutes with his Col. will help him > providing he is a War Vet. They know how to talk, > he will not threaten him. > Its hot, dirty, living is basic survival. Its a mindset thing. > The closer he is with his Unit the better it is. He must > share his misery with his people. They are all into this together. > The Military will not look kindly on this nor should they. > He took an Oath and must stand by it.
And, I specifically agree with the following: > Should your Son blow it now, he Shall regret it the > rest of his life and live a life of PTSD. He has it now, > but its not too late to get away from it. > Find that Chaplin or a Retired Special Forces man FAST !
IME, he is no longer your son … he is a _man_ who needs to make his own decisions. If he remains AWOL, in hiding or whatever, without a medical excuse or visitng a Chaplain, he has become a common criminal. Do not, as his mother, enable this bad behavior. This is the toughest part for a mother, I know. Been there, done that by mistake, no longer am doing it. If he is trying to get you into his criminal conspiracy by using guilt, find some help for yourself. You will need it before this is over IME. Smile and there will be something to smile about! Nancy
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