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yes. i have 2 suggestions: 1. stick with the thpy. it takes a LONG time. 2. post a minimum of 10 posts a day to this newsgroup. :-D …though that 2nd post is a bit of an in-joke – there are ppl who read this group who never have enough to read, and one of them instituted the 10-post minimum 
– the suggestion is valid: i have found this group to be enormously valuable in my healing journey, and the opportunity to give support as well as receive (how the heck do you spell that word???) it is incredible. also, this group makes a really good forum for working out interpersonal difficulties in a healthy, supportive way, imo. we’uns really work hard to understand each other, especially when there’s a disagreement. we’re also very friendly and welcoming…Welcome!, btw… 
…and accepting. i personally found acceptance to be the name of the game in dealing with being multiple myself. once i started accepting that any voice in my head, any impulse i had, anything that i knew to be internal, not external, was *me*, i began accepting all of those voices n whatnot, regardless of how difficult they made it. *smiles* so we work together now, trying to heal each other, and trying to achieve our goals in life and have some fun in the process. anyways, please feel free to hang around here, read the FAQ and SYSK (stuff you should know), ask tons of questions, n tell us a bit about yourself. we’d love for you to join us! jt
I was diagnosed with D.I.D. after many years of other
diagnoses. I’m on my – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – third therapist in 4 years. I feel as if I’m in a stuck spot. I guide the therapy sessions and I think I need more guidance. Any ideas?
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I was diagnosed with D.I.D. after many years of other diagnoses. I’m on my third therapist in 4 years. I feel as if I’m in a stuck spot. I guide the therapy sessions and I think I need more guidance. Any ideas?
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I was diagnosed with D.I.D. after many years of other diagnoses. I’m on my third therapist in 4 years. I feel as if I’m in a stuck spot. I guide the therapy sessions and I think I need more guidance. Any ideas?
hard to say just from this. you don’t say what issues you’re dealing with, whether you have good or bad or no internal communication or cooperation, whether your t has any knowledge, or is willing to get knowledge, or whether you like hir. all that said, we really can’t give guidance from behind the screen. what we can do is talk from our own experience. ime, some of the most important tasks (in no particular order) were: ~learn how to talk with each other ~learn how to compromise with each other ~learn how to live with each other ~learn how to refrain from sabotaging each others’ efforts ~learn how to refrain from rescuing ourselves from the brink of success ~learn how to deal in the here-and-now with the here-and-now ~learn how to have more realistic expectations of others ~learn what trust is ~learn how to how to determine whether someone else was trustworthy ~learn how to trust ourselves (this one came really late and just kind of snuck up on us) ~learn how to tolerate feelings without panicking about having them i’m sure there’s more. i just can’t think of them right now. other people have said that they really couldn’t stand it when their t’pist tried to direct t’py. i really needed someone who was able to stand in front of me on the path and gesture for me to come a bit further on. that’s the only way i could believe i wasn’t about to step over the brink and fall into an endless pit. the metaphor we used to use was that we were riding a bicycle. we were pedalling, but the t’pist was doing a whole bunch of the steering. we were in control to the extent that if we pedalled harder we went faster, and vice versa. we also had the power to stop pedalling altogether. and we could talk with the t’pist about where we were going. it didn’t work beyond a certain point for us to steer, since we had no clue where to go. we were in t’py for years (and some of it was very good t’py) and the t’pists let us steer. by the time we got to our last t’pist, we had been going in so many circles for a while, and we were so lost, that it was a relief to find someone who was willing to help steer. that doesn’t mean that all those years beforehand were wasted, but that we had done all we could and needed more input than we were getting from the t’pists that wanted us to do all the steering as well as all the pedalling. haven’t been in t’py for something like 4 years at this point. we’re cured. — astri
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This gets to be a ‘me too’ post and ‘what she said’ and all that cause I’m busy packing. But welcome and I’m glad you found us also. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I was diagnosed with D.I.D. after many years of other diagnoses. I’m on my third therapist in 4 years. I feel as if I’m in a stuck spot. I guide the therapy sessions and I think I need more guidance. Any ideas? hard to say just from this. you don’t say what issues you’re dealing with, whether you have good or bad or no internal communication or cooperation, whether your t has any knowledge, or is willing to get knowledge, or whether you like hir. all that said, we really can’t give guidance from behind the screen. what we can do is talk from our own experience.
‘pay no attention the man behind the screen’ *snicker* – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -ime, some of the most important tasks (in no particular order) were: ~learn how to talk with each other ~learn how to compromise with each other ~learn how to live with each other ~learn how to refrain from sabotaging each others’ efforts ~learn how to refrain from rescuing ourselves from the brink of success ~learn how to deal in the here-and-now with the here-and-now ~learn how to have more realistic expectations of others ~learn what trust is ~learn how to how to determine whether someone else was trustworthy ~learn how to trust ourselves (this one came really late and just kind of snuck up on us) ~learn how to tolerate feelings without panicking about having them i’m sure there’s more. i just can’t think of them right now.
Learn how to get a handle on the ptsd type stuff cause it can knock you for a loop? other people have said that they really couldn’t stand it when their t’pist tried to direct t’py. i really needed someone who was able to stand in front of me on the path and gesture for me to come a bit further on. that’s
And I had a t’pist who’s job it was to do anything but let me follow the path cause I was _way_ too serious and intent on getting done ‘correctly’ and ‘on time’. He was sort of the comic relief – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -the only way i could believe i wasn’t about to step over the brink and fall into an endless pit. the metaphor we used to use was that we were riding a bicycle. we were pedalling, but the t’pist was doing a whole bunch of the steering. we were in control to the extent that if we pedalled harder we went faster, and vice versa. we also had the power to stop pedalling altogether. and we could talk with the t’pist about where we were going. it didn’t work beyond a certain point for us to steer, since we had no clue where to go. we were in t’py for years (and some of it was very good t’py) and the t’pists let us steer. by the time we got to our last t’pist, we had been going in so many circles for a while, and we were so lost, that it was a relief to find someone who was willing to help steer. that doesn’t mean that all those years beforehand were wasted, but that we had done all we could and needed more input than we were getting from the t’pists that wanted us to do all the steering as well as all the pedalling.
*grin* I just got a lot better when Rob pointed out that I wasn’t having much fun riding a bike and wouldn’t I rather row a boat for a while. haven’t been in t’py for something like 4 years at this point. we’re cured. — astri
*grin* Rainbow Colors (Jill) — The colors blend, the edges soften. Swirling and mixing we are becoming white light.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – This gets to be a ‘me too’ post and ‘what she said’ and all that cause I’m busy packing. But welcome and I’m glad you found us also. I was diagnosed with D.I.D. after many years of other diagnoses. I’m on my third therapist in 4 years. I feel as if I’m in a stuck spot. I guide the therapy sessions and I think I need more guidance. Any ideas? hard to say just from this. you don’t say what issues you’re dealing with, whether you have good or bad or no internal communication or cooperation, whether your t has any knowledge, or is willing to get knowledge, or whether you like hir. all that said, we really can’t give guidance from behind the screen. what we can do is talk from our own experience. ‘pay no attention the man behind the screen’ *snicker* ime, some of the most important tasks (in no particular order) were: ~learn how to talk with each other ~learn how to compromise with each other ~learn how to live with each other ~learn how to refrain from sabotaging each others’ efforts ~learn how to refrain from rescuing ourselves from the brink of success ~learn how to deal in the here-and-now with the here-and-now ~learn how to have more realistic expectations of others ~learn what trust is ~learn how to how to determine whether someone else was trustworthy ~learn how to trust ourselves (this one came really late and just kind of snuck up on us) ~learn how to tolerate feelings without panicking about having them i’m sure there’s more. i just can’t think of them right now. Learn how to get a handle on the ptsd type stuff cause it can knock you for a loop? other people have said that they really couldn’t stand it when their t’pist tried to direct t’py. i really needed someone who was able to stand in front of me on the path and gesture for me to come a bit further on. that’s And I had a t’pist who’s job it was to do anything but let me follow the path cause I was _way_ too serious and intent on getting done ‘correctly’ and ‘on time’. He was sort of the comic relief the only way i could believe i wasn’t about to step over the brink and fall into an endless pit. the metaphor we used to use was that we were riding a bicycle. we were pedalling, but the t’pist was doing a whole bunch of the steering. we were in control to the extent that if we pedalled harder we went faster, and vice versa. we also had the power to stop pedalling altogether. and we could talk with the t’pist about where we were going. it didn’t work beyond a certain point for us to steer, since we had no clue where to go. we were in t’py for years (and some of it was very good t’py) and the t’pists let us steer. by the time we got to our last t’pist, we had been going in so many circles for a while, and we were so lost, that it was a relief to find someone who was willing to help steer. that doesn’t mean that all those years beforehand were wasted, but that we had done all we could and needed more input than we were getting from the t’pists that wanted us to do all the steering as well as all the pedalling. *grin* I just got a lot better when Rob pointed out that I wasn’t having much fun riding a bike and wouldn’t I rather row a boat for a while.
*rotfl* haven’t been in t’py for something like 4 years at this point. we’re cured. — astri *grin* Rainbow Colors (Jill)
— astri
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