Question:
i didn’t mean to offend anyone when i asked for help with my homework. i just wanted to know more about BPD. i know they carry normal conversation, but i guess i didn’t make myself clear. As to when they’re mad what are some of the things they say so what bothers them. This assignment sucks. i’m sorry i was judging you guys. I don’t even know about this disorder, not until 4 weeks ago, when i took the class. As a medical billing they don’t teach us to label people but to understand where they’re coming from and to deal with them in a orderly manner. That wouldn’t upset people. Coz when they have someone who’s sick or whatever the last thing people want is to talk about how to pay the freaking bill with the insurance company. i’m really sorry. thank u for taking the time to write back. ~~bye~~. take care. Priti
Response:
On 01 May 2001 01:41:13 GMT, nikhil…@aol.com (NIKHILBOO) wrote: >i didn’t mean to offend anyone when i asked for help with my homework. i just >wanted to know more about BPD. i know they carry normal conversation, but i >guess i didn’t make myself clear. As to when they’re mad what are some of the >things they say so what bothers them. This assignment sucks. i’m sorry i was >judging you guys. I don’t even know about this disorder, not until 4 weeks ago, >when i took the class. As a medical billing they don’t teach us to label people >but to understand where they’re coming from and to deal with them in a orderly >manner. That wouldn’t upset people. Coz when they have someone who’s sick or >whatever the last thing people want is to talk about how to pay the freaking >bill with the insurance company. i’m really sorry. thank u for taking the time >to write back. ~~bye~~. take care. >Priti
That’s ok… I have to say I wouldn’t want to be doing the job you’re learning to do! It must be hard to have to ‘manage’ people all the time, especially since so many of them don’t have the money to pay their bills and are in the middle of horribly emotional life-changing experiences! Really, we’re no different to anyone else, but stress can trigger off quite a nasty reaction in us. For that matter, it can in anyone! Good luck with the assignment. Karen — be happy, be healthy, be well! Karen Come visit Kajikit’s Corner: http://kajikit.netfirms.com/
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I was dx’d with BPD almost 2 yrs ago. I have depression and PTSD. BPD isn’t what it is described as in that one paragraph in the Gen Psy text book. Try patterning it after some of the stereotyped BPD dx’d people in "In a House of Glass and Dreams," and "Love’s Executioner." Three semesters ago I took Gen Psy, and the text book gave Glenn Close in "Fatal Attraction" as an example of someone with BPD. Grrrrrr. No one, not even my therp until my seventh year of therapy, thought about BPD in connection with me. The last time I was in-patient, a guy thought I was a member of the treating staff. However, I understand what your assignment is, and unfortunately, it’s a BPD assignment that focuses on the aspect of BPD that makes us seem flaky and irrational. Fine. I grant that some people with BPD are like that at times (yo, me), it just would be nice if the other aspects of BPD were touched on. BPD is tricky, and I believe a lot of it is internal thought processes. Your assignment will be much better, much more compassionate, if you bring into the conflict what might cause someone to feel the way a person with BPD does…there are reasons. I can’t stress that enough! I could get mad for many different reasons. I’ve been furious at someone when they said something heartfelt and kind to me…"why do you miss your friend?" Inwardly and suddenly I raged. I glared at him. However, this was a person I was emotionally attached to, not a virtual stranger in the billing dept. He was bewildered at my anger, and nothing he said would get me to thaw out or speak to him after that. I was hurting about my friend, grieved her moving away like a death, and I felt like his question was shallow because he wasn’t my friend, he was my doctor, and was just asking to seem nice, etc. That was a BPD moment. ah, billing and insurance. Grrr. My hmo called me once and asked me how I was doing in therapy. Wanted me to justify why I was seeing my therp. said I had to be depressed in order to keep seeing him, blah blah. I ranted at her. Ask my therp, don’t ask me! How the hell should I know when I’m sick? It was all very invalidating!!! Prescription lady. called and said that when I was in the store, I only paid $6.00 and I owed $8.00 more dollars for my medicine. Oh I said, ok, I’m sorry. I felt awful, like I did something wrong. Then I realized that when i got my med, I was ONLY charged $6.00 and not told the system was down, etc, and might owe more later. I called her back and ranted…"You don’t call me, the customer, and word it like I did something wrong when it was your mistake!!" Not very stereotypical BPD as I can think of many people who would do the same. I suggest looking in books, though, because most of the people with BPD who rant and rave like what you are thinking of have very little idea of what is going on in the situation. Almost blind rage, some of them. Again, look into why these people react the way they do, and you will understand better where they are coming from in any situation. Read "Imbroglio" by Cauwells, in your college library. –Tezza On 01 May 2001 01:41:13 GMT, nikhil…@aol.com (NIKHILBOO) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->i didn’t mean to offend anyone when i asked for help with my homework. i just >wanted to know more about BPD. i know they carry normal conversation, but i >guess i didn’t make myself clear. As to when they’re mad what are some of the >things they say so what bothers them. This assignment sucks. i’m sorry i was >judging you guys. I don’t even know about this disorder, not until 4 weeks ago, >when i took the class. As a medical billing they don’t teach us to label people >but to understand where they’re coming from and to deal with them in a orderly >manner. That wouldn’t upset people. Coz when they have someone who’s sick or >whatever the last thing people want is to talk about how to pay the freaking >bill with the insurance company. i’m really sorry. thank u for taking the time >to write back. ~~bye~~. take care. >Priti
Response:
thank you very much for the reply. i was able to use some of that in class. we had our final today and i passed with a B. i don’t think that i would have been able to pull that out without your help. thank you so much. good luck. take care. ~~bye~~ priti
Response:
Hahaha Tezz, i can relate to what you said about being mistaken for one of the staff in treatment situations, it’s happened to me many times too. In fact, when i meet someone, known them for a while and then when i tell them i’m a borderline, they’re extremely surprised. hehehe most people see me as the stereotypical ‘normal’. "Tezza" <tezzal…@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:52bsetotvreclplui0m283mbvf5gmgscka@4ax.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I was dx’d with BPD almost 2 yrs ago. I have depression and PTSD. > BPD isn’t what it is described as in that one paragraph in the Gen Psy > text book. > Try patterning it after some of the stereotyped BPD dx’d people in "In > a House of Glass and Dreams," and "Love’s Executioner." > Three semesters ago I took Gen Psy, and the text book gave Glenn Close > in "Fatal Attraction" as an example of someone with BPD. Grrrrrr. No > one, not even my therp until my seventh year of therapy, thought about > BPD in connection with me. The last time I was in-patient, a guy > thought I was a member of the treating staff. > However, I understand what your assignment is, and unfortunately, it’s > a BPD assignment that focuses on the aspect of BPD that makes us seem > flaky and irrational. Fine. I grant that some people with BPD are > like that at times (yo, me), it just would be nice if the other > aspects of BPD were touched on. > BPD is tricky, and I believe a lot of it is internal thought > processes. Your assignment will be much better, much more > compassionate, if you bring into the conflict what might cause someone > to feel the way a person with BPD does…there are reasons. I can’t > stress that enough! > I could get mad for many different reasons. I’ve been furious at > someone when they said something heartfelt and kind to me…"why do > you miss your friend?" Inwardly and suddenly I raged. I glared at > him. However, this was a person I was emotionally attached to, not a > virtual stranger in the billing dept. He was bewildered at my anger, > and nothing he said would get me to thaw out or speak to him after > that. I was hurting about my friend, grieved her moving away like a > death, and I felt like his question was shallow because he wasn’t my > friend, he was my doctor, and was just asking to seem nice, etc. > That was a BPD moment. > ah, billing and insurance. Grrr. My hmo called me once and asked me > how I was doing in therapy. Wanted me to justify why I was seeing my > therp. said I had to be depressed in order to keep seeing him, blah > blah. I ranted at her. Ask my therp, don’t ask me! How the hell > should I know when I’m sick? It was all very invalidating!!! > Prescription lady. called and said that when I was in the store, I > only paid $6.00 and I owed $8.00 more dollars for my medicine. Oh I > said, ok, I’m sorry. I felt awful, like I did something wrong. Then > I realized that when i got my med, I was ONLY charged $6.00 and not > told the system was down, etc, and might owe more later. I called her > back and ranted…"You don’t call me, the customer, and word it like I > did something wrong when it was your mistake!!" Not very > stereotypical BPD as I can think of many people who would do the same. > I suggest looking in books, though, because most of the people with > BPD who rant and rave like what you are thinking of have very little > idea of what is going on in the situation. Almost blind rage, some of > them. Again, look into why these people react the way they do, and > you will understand better where they are coming from in any > situation. > Read "Imbroglio" by Cauwells, in your college library. > –Tezza > On 01 May 2001 01:41:13 GMT, nikhil…@aol.com (NIKHILBOO) wrote: > >i didn’t mean to offend anyone when i asked for help with my homework. i just > >wanted to know more about BPD. i know they carry normal conversation, but i > >guess i didn’t make myself clear. As to when they’re mad what are some of the > >things they say so what bothers them. This assignment sucks. i’m sorry i was > >judging you guys. I don’t even know about this disorder, not until 4 weeks ago, > >when i took the class. As a medical billing they don’t teach us to label people > >but to understand where they’re coming from and to deal with them in a orderly > >manner. That wouldn’t upset people. Coz when they have someone who’s sick or > >whatever the last thing people want is to talk about how to pay the freaking > >bill with the insurance company. i’m really sorry. thank u for taking the time > >to write back. ~~bye~~. take care. > >Priti
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