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My parents filed for divorce. Not much to say on that one, they’ve been miserable with each other for years and I guess with empty nest they moved on to other people, another life. And to be quite truthful, I’m happy as one can be on that subject. I’d be happier if my mother did not continue to harp about my father. She has another individual that makes her happy and I think she’s spending too much negative energy towards Dad. And the same could go the other way. Dad’s undergoing Hep C treatments right now and he’s timesharing energy and emotions that he can’t afford to invest into something that should be dealt with and done. I haven’t spent that much time around Steve (mom’s guy) since the seperation but he’s always made her laugh (a former employee of their, Mom/dad, shared company) and she’s been able to talk to him about things that she’s not comfortable discussing with others. They bonded I suppose. Dad’s girlfriend, Cami, is the co-owner of the daycare that Abi has been going to (as well as Eve and Kallye my niece and now Donovon my nephew, 9 months btw) so she blended right in. We knew her, her family, everybody and it was like "family" to begin with because of so much in the last four-ish years. So it was kind of neat. I adore Cami though, she’s wonderful and beautiful and my mother would have nine fits to hades if she heard me say that. (Another one of those, I’m supposed to like Steve and hate Cami… yes it’s been a hell of a road on that part but I’ve always hated disrespecting my parents so I’ll leave it at that) Cami lost a husband to cancer about five years ago, and she’s also a registered nurse so she’s been a boon to my father during his treatments and we always have a very willing nurse to take care of minor emergencies and whatnot. The other day Abi cut a gash in her foot, by stepping on some glass, blood everywhere on the floor, soaking three paper towels.. I was in a panic. Without explaining all I had to do was call her when she and Dad went out on a "date" and ask that she come home quick. She was able to correctly determine Abi’s blood triggered me and I.. wasn’t very helpful 
. She also has a four year old and oh.. Yeah, I like her… alot. I hope she stays around. The accident…. Since I’m on a vicodin high of sorts with this tooth, and I guess.. it’s time… Loosely put together… On Sunday afternoon my sister in law and her husband, my other sister in law, my brother in law and his girlfriend and my father in law was over visiting. I was out of town. Jody was inside playing host cooking and cleaning up from cooking lunch for everybody else. The others were outside, in and out basically cleaning out our trailer because my sister in law and her husband bought it after we moved into the house. William, my brother in law, was backing up and at the same time Eve saw a toy next to the tire. There wasn’t anything anybody could do. She took off and everybody was out of reach and couldn’t stop her. I guess… But.. that’s what happened. As brief as I can put it. I’m sure Bridget clued a few in, who told a few more so I’m assuming you know most of the details there. Grief therapy…. We’re seeing a counsellor that’s done wonders for us. She’s helped Jody with his post traumatic stress and coached him through completing his grief process over his mother which he never fully finished (as much as you can be) before this accident. She’s also helped clear up a few marital issues that we’ve had. What was going on before the accident became a moot point, a non issue but to keep them from popping up years later we’re wading through them as a precaution of sorts. Which makes it a very very easy process because neither one of us is arguing about it. Mary and I had a disagreement the other day. She said to call her cell phone (which she gave us first day and rarely gives it to clients) if I need to during the holidays. Mary has fibro. I flat out refused, saying that she has a full day number one, number two she may not feel physically and mentally ready to deal with my grief after hours because honestly, it’s going to pass regardless if I speak to her or not. A rough night, or day, or hour is a fact of life right now and will be the rest of our lives. She helps, I wouldn’t trade in the hours with her for anything less than having Eve returned to us. That’s how important her place in my life is right now. And I believe she’s important in Jody’s too, but he’s a guy and just not *that* passionate about how well she’s been for us. But at the same time, talking to her isn’t going to prevent some of these emotions. So, I do find it hard to justify intruding in her offhours life. I call certain family members for that sort of thing and talking to Jody or Cami really helps. If they were unavailable then yes I’d call Mary. Well, finally after a debate on whether or not I call her, we agreed if she is under the weather or is stressed or can’t talk or it’s a bad time, she’ll tell me. I trust her to tell me if she can’t do it, and she’ll trust me to call if I need her. She also said she’ll charge me so it’s not a "freebie" it’s a service that I’m paying for. Bah… that’s all second to the fact I know how tired and aching and bad she can feel some days, and if she’s not in the office because of it, then there’s a reason. etc etc. Mary said that Abi’s adjusting well. Abi goes to see Ronda who has kidlets her age (Ronda is Cami’s sister and second owner of the daycare) and spends the night once in a while there. While we were in Vegas last week, more on that in a bit, Cami and Dad took Abi and Adam (her son) to a birthday party, to the skating rink and all sorts of other things. Cami and Abi went shopping too so she’s a very social child and Mary indicated that’s healthy and indicative of a well adapting child to the accident. Of course she’s going to have rough days, we all are but overall she’s doing very good. She’s missed quite a few days of school, but she’s maintained the honor roll. I spoke to the school board president (my dentist actually) and he assured me that we can get the missed days waived if she goes over her allotted amount. Because some days I don’t want her to be out of my sight either, so I keep her home just to be near her. Explaining that, he said he doubted I’d find anyone who didn’t understand. So no worries on Abi’s part . Vegas.. We spent five days there, two days drive there and two days back. I was a tired puppy. But we saw a Cirque du Soleil show, a couple Vegas style shows and walked the entire strip in one day. I enjoyed it the first two days but nine days was a long time to be gone. Abi stayed with Dad and Cami the entire time, had a blast and rarely missed Mommy . (Mom stays on the road with her guy, he’s a long haul truck driver similar to Dan M.). We stayed in the Mandalay Bay Hotel and saw their predator aquarium exhibit. They host the only USA located hammerhead shark, which was truly awesome. They also had sawtooth fish, a great white and a few other sharks. I saw my first swimming sea turtle as well, a gorgeous creature. I think that’s about it. I’ll update again in a little while if I think of anything else. I think it’s the vicodin for my root canal, I truly do, that is making me chatty this morning. Ordinarily I haven’t been this talkative in a while.. It’s nice to be relaxed for a change. But now my eyes are beginning to cross . Love ya’ll!!
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{{{{Grace}}}}} Wishing you well in all things, and swift recovery from the root canal (I *hate* those things!). Ginger-lyn
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Vegas.. We spent five days there, two days drive there and two days back. I was a tired puppy. But we saw a Cirque du Soleil show, a couple Vegas style shows and walked the entire strip in one day. I enjoyed it the first two days but nine days was a long time to be gone. Abi stayed with Dad and Cami the entire time, had a blast and rarely missed Mommy . (Mom stays on the road with her guy, he’s a long haul truck driver similar to Dan M.). We stayed in the Mandalay Bay Hotel and saw their predator aquarium exhibit. They host the only USA located hammerhead shark, which was truly awesome. They also had sawtooth fish, a great white and a few other sharks. I saw my first swimming sea turtle as well, a gorgeous creature. I think that’s about it. I’ll update again in a little while if I think of anything else. I think it’s the vicodin for my root canal, I truly do, that is making me chatty this morning. Ordinarily I haven’t been this talkative in a while.. It’s nice to be relaxed for a change. But now my eyes are beginning to cross . Love ya’ll!!
I love aquariums, if you’re ever in Tampa check out the Tampa Bay Aquar. Bostons New England Aquar. is great too. Maybe vicodin is a "good thing". Yes I’m avoiding the emotional items. I’m more articulate in person. {{{{{hugs}}}}} for you all. Suz Macmoosette =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= "People that hate cats will come back as mice in their next life." –Faith Resnick |__/| (=’:'=) (")_(")
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<snip Grace update Hugz to you & yours. Yowie — Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).
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I think that’s about it. I’ll update again in a little while if I think of anything else. I think it’s the vicodin for my root canal, I truly do, that is making me chatty this morning. Ordinarily I haven’t been this talkative in a while.. It’s nice to be relaxed for a change. But now my eyes are beginning to cross .
Purrs and hugs for you all, Gracie. It sounds like you are progressing normally and, though dealing with a lot, are doing well. BTW, you shouldn’t whisper gaming sites to my daughter, the two of you have me addicted to some stupid Yahoo game. Pam S. giggling
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I think that’s about it. I’ll update again in a little while if I think of anything else. I think it’s the vicodin for my root canal, I truly do, that is making me chatty this morning. Ordinarily I haven’t been this talkative in a while.. It’s nice to be relaxed for a change. But now my eyes are beginning to cross . Love ya’ll!!
We love ya back, Gracie, and we’re happy to see you back. Hugs and purrs to you and your family. Sam.
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sending purrs that you recover quickly. I said I wasn’t going to post for a while, but I had to respond to this one just to tell you I’m so glad you’re back and posting again. I haven’t gotten to know you very well because I fairly new "again", having been away from the group for years (I’m one of the original rpc’ers who was abducted and took a trip on the mothership for a while). So I’m dearly looking forward to getting to know you lots better soon. Hugs, CatNipped
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -My parents filed for divorce. Not much to say on that one, they’ve been miserable with each other for years and I guess with empty nest they moved on to other people, another life. And to be quite truthful, I’m happy as one can be on that subject. I’d be happier if my mother did not continue to harp about my father. She has another individual that makes her happy and I think she’s spending too much negative energy towards Dad. And the same could go the other way. Dad’s undergoing Hep C treatments right now and he’s timesharing energy and emotions that he can’t afford to invest into something that should be dealt with and done. I haven’t spent that much time around Steve (mom’s guy) since the seperation but he’s always made her laugh (a former employee of their, Mom/dad, shared company) and she’s been able to talk to him about things that she’s not comfortable discussing with others. They bonded I suppose. Dad’s girlfriend, Cami, is the co-owner of the daycare that Abi has been going to (as well as Eve and Kallye my niece and now Donovon my nephew, 9 months btw) so she blended right in. We knew her, her family, everybody and it was like "family" to begin with because of so much in the last four-ish years. So it was kind of neat. I adore Cami though, she’s wonderful and beautiful and my mother would have nine fits to hades if she heard me say that. (Another one of those, I’m supposed to like Steve and hate Cami… yes it’s been a hell of a road on that part but I’ve always hated disrespecting my parents so I’ll leave it at that) Cami lost a husband to cancer about five years ago, and she’s also a registered nurse so she’s been a boon to my father during his treatments and we always have a very willing nurse to take care of minor emergencies and whatnot. The other day Abi cut a gash in her foot, by stepping on some glass, blood everywhere on the floor, soaking three paper towels.. I was in a panic. Without explaining all I had to do was call her when she and Dad went out on a "date" and ask that she come home quick. She was able to correctly determine Abi’s blood triggered me and I.. wasn’t very helpful . She also has a four year old and oh.. Yeah, I like her… alot. I hope she stays around. The accident…. Since I’m on a vicodin high of sorts with this tooth, and I guess.. it’s time… Loosely put together… On Sunday afternoon my sister in law and her husband, my other sister in law, my brother in law and his girlfriend and my father in law was over visiting. I was out of town. Jody was inside playing host cooking and cleaning up from cooking lunch for everybody else. The others were outside, in and out basically cleaning out our trailer because my sister in law and her husband bought it after we moved into the house. William, my brother in law, was backing up and at the same time Eve saw a toy next to the tire. There wasn’t anything anybody could do. She took off and everybody was out of reach and couldn’t stop her. I guess… But.. that’s what happened. As brief as I can put it. I’m sure Bridget clued a few in, who told a few more so I’m assuming you know most of the details there. Grief therapy…. We’re seeing a counsellor that’s done wonders for us. She’s helped Jody with his post traumatic stress and coached him through completing his grief process over his mother which he never fully finished (as much as you can be) before this accident. She’s also helped clear up a few marital issues that we’ve had. What was going on before the accident became a moot point, a non issue but to keep them from popping up years later we’re wading through them as a precaution of sorts. Which makes it a very very easy process because neither one of us is arguing about it. Mary and I had a disagreement the other day. She said to call her cell phone (which she gave us first day and rarely gives it to clients) if I need to during the holidays. Mary has fibro. I flat out refused, saying that she has a full day number one, number two she may not feel physically and mentally ready to deal with my grief after hours because honestly, it’s going to pass regardless if I speak to her or not. A rough night, or day, or hour is a fact of life right now and will be the rest of our lives. She helps, I wouldn’t trade in the hours with her for anything less than having Eve returned to us. That’s how important her place in my life is right now. And I believe she’s important in Jody’s too, but he’s a guy and just not *that* passionate about how well she’s been for us. But at the same time, talking to her isn’t going to prevent some of these emotions. So, I do find it hard to justify intruding in her offhours life. I call certain family members for that sort of thing and talking to Jody or Cami really helps. If they were unavailable then yes I’d call Mary. Well, finally after a debate on whether or not I call her, we agreed if she is under the weather or is stressed or can’t talk or it’s a bad time, she’ll tell me. I trust her to tell me if she can’t do it, and she’ll trust me to call if I need her. She also said she’ll charge me so it’s not a "freebie" it’s a service that I’m paying for. Bah… that’s all second to the fact I know how tired and aching and bad she can feel some days, and if she’s not in the office because of it, then there’s a reason. etc etc. Mary said that Abi’s adjusting well. Abi goes to see Ronda who has kidlets her age (Ronda is Cami’s sister and second owner of the daycare) and spends the night once in a while there. While we were in Vegas last week, more on that in a bit, Cami and Dad took Abi and Adam (her son) to a birthday party, to the skating rink and all sorts of other things. Cami and Abi went shopping too so she’s a very social child and Mary indicated that’s healthy and indicative of a well adapting child to the accident. Of course she’s going to have rough days, we all are but overall she’s doing very good. She’s missed quite a few days of school, but she’s maintained the honor roll. I spoke to the school board president (my dentist actually) and he assured me that we can get the missed days waived if she goes over her allotted amount. Because some days I don’t want her to be out of my sight either, so I keep her home just to be near her. Explaining that, he said he doubted I’d find anyone who didn’t understand. So no worries on Abi’s part . Vegas.. We spent five days there, two days drive there and two days back. I was a tired puppy. But we saw a Cirque du Soleil show, a couple Vegas style shows and walked the entire strip in one day. I enjoyed it the first two days but nine days was a long time to be gone. Abi stayed with Dad and Cami the entire time, had a blast and rarely missed Mommy . (Mom stays on the road with her guy, he’s a long haul truck driver similar to Dan M.). We stayed in the Mandalay Bay Hotel and saw their predator aquarium exhibit. They host the only USA located hammerhead shark, which was truly awesome. They also had sawtooth fish, a great white and a few other sharks. I saw my first swimming sea turtle as well, a gorgeous creature. I think that’s about it. I’ll update again in a little while if I think of anything else. I think it’s the vicodin for my root canal, I truly do, that is making me chatty this morning. Ordinarily I haven’t been this talkative in a while.. It’s nice to be relaxed for a change. But now my eyes are beginning to cross . Love ya’ll!!
Ooo. Purrs for your poor mouth. I hate root canals. VIcodin is a weird drug. I got it after surgery, probably actually liked it a little too much. It’s a good thing it’s not OTC. You’ve got a wonderful attitude about your parents. It’s a giant plus that you like Cami, too. Take care of yourself! Sherry
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