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I’m new too. First time using a newsgroup, actually. I’m 27 and have poor social skills. I had severe deperssion and was reclusive for several years. I haven’t really had panic trouble for a while, but my social anxiety keeps me pretty isolated. I got help and I’ve made progress. I enrolled in school, and was doing pretty well for a while. The social life is always the most lacking area.. I had to quit school for a while, and ever since, I’ve just been sitting around. I’m mostly online. I don’t work. I live with my mom. Since I’ve been out of school, I’ve felt pretty set back. I need to get a job, but I haven’t worked since I was 17! I don’t know how the hell to meet girls, and date…. I’m feeling stuck. I’ve never lived on my own, haven’t had much independence or autonomy….
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Hi, I’m Pat and this is my first visit to the group. I suffer from sever panic/anxiety. I also am very depressed. I wake up every morning crying. I lived with my girlfriend in Arizona for ten years. Last week she told me she couldn’t take it anymore and kicked me out. I had to move back to Calif. with my parents. I’m worse than ever now that I miss her and her kids I helped raise for 10 years. I hate the crying, being a 40 year old male. I’m on a bunch of meds, but they don’t seem to work. Thanks for letting me vent. Pat
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Hi, I’m Pat and this is my first visit to the group. I suffer from sever panic/anxiety. I also am very depressed. I wake up every morning crying. I lived with my girlfriend in Arizona for ten years. Last week she told me she couldn’t take it anymore and kicked me out. I had to move back to Calif. with my parents. I’m worse than ever now that I miss her and her kids I helped raise for 10 years. I hate the crying, being a 40 year old male. I’m on a bunch of meds, but they don’t seem to work. Thanks for letting me vent. Pat
Hi Pat, This Al, also a sufferer of sever panic/anxiety. I’m 45 and am also on a "whole bunch of meds." I’ve cried at age 45 so it’s alright for you to cry at 40. I’m glad you posted because I would guess that you are also suffering from "Post Traumatic Stress" right now because of the recent break up of your long time relationship. It’s perfectly OK for you to vent to this group, because we’re all pretty well a decent and understanding lot. My personal advise to you would be to contact a local Dr., explain to them what you’re feeling right now and follow their advise. They might put you on different meds, or increase the dosage for you, in this your most anxious period. You’re back at your parents place in California? That sounds like a safe place for you to be right now. Have tried any relaxation exercises and have they worked? What about hobbies or something else to just get you out and about? When I’m really anxious, I try relaxation exercises first. If that doesn’t help, I go somewhere where there is the sound of waves an water. I have found this helps me. For you this may turn you off completely. It doesn’t matter. Find something that helps you. Please see a Dr. You can use their help. Al AKA Weasel If you want my real email, remove all the *’s. Excite.com has gone FUBAR again! Surprise, Surprise!! So, here’s my other email. Give it a shot! "Compared to Bach, it’s not hard at all. I just open my mouth and let her rip. Standing up all that time is hard on the feet." Eileen Farrell on singing Cherubini’s "Medea."
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Welcome to ASAP, Pat… you’ll find you can open up and unload whenever you like on here… the more information we have does help us help you though.. 
But feel free to post as much or as little as you like. Much Love, Brooke
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, I’m Pat and this is my first visit to the group. I suffer from sever panic/anxiety. I also am very depressed. I wake up every morning crying. I lived with my girlfriend in Arizona for ten years. Last week she told me she couldn’t take it anymore and kicked me out. I had to move back to Calif. with my parents. I’m worse than ever now that I miss her and her kids I helped raise for 10 years. I hate the crying, being a 40 year old male. I’m on a bunch of meds, but they don’t seem to work. Thanks for letting me vent. Pat
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Thanks for the support and thoughts. If I could only stop crying. Pat
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If I could only stop crying.
Pat, So what’s wrong with crying? It’s a sign of a true emotion that you’re experiencing. So please, don’t think that crying is something that should make you feel guilty or ashamed about. Because it isn’t. Have you tried to seek out any professional help since last night? If you have, great. If you haven’t, great, because it now gives you something to do tomorrow. In our thoughts, Alan, or Al AKA: Weasel If you want my real email, remove all the *’s. Excite.com has gone FUBAR again! Surprise, Surprise!! So, here’s my other email. Give it a shot! "Compared to Bach, it’s not hard at all. I just open my mouth and let her rip. Standing up all that time is hard on the feet." Eileen Farrell on singing Cherubini’s "Medea."
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Hi, I’m Pat and this is my first visit to the group. I suffer from sever panic/anxiety. I also am very depressed. I wake up every morning crying. I lived with my girlfriend in Arizona for ten years. Last week she told me she couldn’t take it anymore and kicked me out. I had to move back to Calif. with my parents. I’m worse than ever now that I miss her and her kids I helped raise for 10 years. I hate the crying, being a 40 year old male. I’m on a bunch of meds, but they don’t seem to work. Thanks for letting me vent. Pat
First things first Patrick. Take care of yourself. Keep busy and keep your mind focused on making yourself emotionally and physically better. Call a doctor-get in as soon as possible and get those medications straightened out. Obviously they are not working to their potential. Ask your doctor for a good panic therapist and get started on therapy. Ask your parents to support you through this and help you get to these appointments. IT’s important to take care of yourself this way before you move on to other things. You will have to face the situation and realize that even though you have spent many years together, that it may not be a good relationship between the 2 of you. She may have used your depression as an excuse to get out. I don’t know but if she truly loved you, she would stick by you no matter what was happening to you. Sometimes it is very hard to move on but it may be the best for you. Besides, show her that you can be better than ever. Now get some rest, make a list of things that you need to take care of and take each step as it comes. There is no need to worry if it doesn’t get done today for there will be a tomorrow. Keep positive. Good luck,Julie
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