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((((Cyndi))))) (((((Cyndi)))))) Sorry your husband’s being so tight-fisted. I wish you could do something nice for your birthday for yourself. Can you treat yourself? Loretta —
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I woke up this morning, thinking whats the point. Nothings going to change. Can’t make my husband love me.
Situations change, people change. Actually it might be the worst period right now for both of you. I wonder if it’s not like a type of post-traumatic stress you two are going through right now. I think it can only get better, once the unnerving vibrations from less than a month ago dissipate. Can’t get people at work to like me. Can’t do the simplest things. Always putting them off. Always having my plans put aside for somebody elses.
Yep, all the above sucks. I wanted to go to a concert for my birthday which is coming up in February, told my husband and he said go get the tickets wait til you see how expensive it will be. I pointed out it was my birthday and I shouldn’t have to buy my own gift and he said he wasn’t going through that again.
He still might change his mind before your birthday. Keep cool about it and he might actually feel guilty, not that any guy would really admit it. What concert is it? I’m just being stupid, I guess. Nothing new there,
I’m resisting the temptation to beat someone up for beating herself up. This temptation is especially strong when the person beating herself up is a wonderful, supportive person to begin with. Never seen you really stupid at all. You’re definitely talking about someone else. I’m sure of it. Well, I have seen you not able to write a check for a bill and mail that damn thing out in time, but (ahem!) who am I to talk? 
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(Cyncyn1433) writes: ‘m just being stupid, I guess. Nothing new there, Cyndi
Hi Cyndi, I don’t think you are being stupid!! b/day’s have been unmitigated disasters!!!!!!! I was gonna make this one soooo special! We got an overnight babysitter, I got new clothes, hubby bought me champagne. We hadn’t had a babysitter for 6 months so this was a very big deal!! I pampered myself in a deep scented bath, candles flickering and incense burning. We were going out for a meal and then back home for quality time together<g I got out the bath, humming away to myself, I felt GREAT. Life felt great!!!!! Then it happened!!!!!!! My back went into to spasm, I could not move!! So instead of spending a lovely evening going out with my hunky, sexy hubby, followed by time on our own, fullfilling each others wild desires!!!!!! I spent the night paralised with pain, puking up , in a chair in the living Talk about feeling sorry for myself<g I hope you have a great bithday Cyndi, we all deserve a little pampering now and then! take care, Linda<who is already making plans for her next birthday!
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(((((((((((Cyndi))))))))))) I know what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t love you, and I know the wasted efforts that go into trying to make them love you. You drain yourself dry. Cyndi, you are a lovely, giving person and you have a right to be happy. Ending an unfulfilling relationship felt like giving birth to an elephant for me. I’ve got a lot of painful memories (we never really forget) but I got to keep the baby and it’s growing up. My baby is the self esteem that came with letting him go when I knew I deserved better. You deserve being loved, by your self and others. You are not "being stupid" for expecting a husband to give and show you the love you are entitled to. Please take care of you, my dear friend. Leah – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I woke up this morning, thinking whats the point. Nothings going to change. Can’t make my husband love me. Can’t get people at work to like me. Can’t do the simplest things. Always putting them off. Always having my plans put aside for somebody elses. I wanted to go to a concert for my birthday which is coming up in February, told my husband and he said go get the tickets wait til you see how expensive it will be. I pointed out it was my birthday and I shouldn’t have to buy my own gift and he said he wasn’t going through that again. I’m just being stupid, I guess. Nothing new there, Cyndi
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I woke up this morning, thinking whats the point. Nothings going to change. Can’t make my husband love me. Can’t get people at work to like me. Can’t do the simplest things. Always putting them off. Always having my plans put aside for somebody elses. I wanted to go to a concert for my birthday which is coming up in February, told my husband and he said go get the tickets wait til you see how expensive it will be. I pointed out it was my birthday and I shouldn’t have to buy my own gift and he said he wasn’t going through that again.
I’m just being stupid, I guess. Nothing new there, Cyndi
I don’t think your being stupid. If anybody is being stupid it’s your insensitive husband. Rick(the other one) — For more information about this service, send e-mail to:
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Hi Cyndi, You aren’t being stupid. If you want to go the concert, you should go – if your husband doesn’t want to go, then to hell with him – go with a friend. Shoot, if I lived there, I’d go with you – I’d even buy the tickets. I hope you feel better. I feel like hell right now, but maybe by trying to help others and stop feeling sorry for myself, I can feel a little better. God, another mnajor crash – this hasn’t been a fun week. If you need to e-mail me – I’ll be around. {{{Cyndi}}} –Shannon – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I woke up this morning, thinking whats the point. Nothings going to change. Can’t make my husband love me. Can’t get people at work to like me. Can’t do the simplest things. Always putting them off. Always having my plans put aside for somebody elses. I wanted to go to a concert for my birthday which is coming up in February, told my husband and he said go get the tickets wait til you see how expensive it will be. I pointed out it was my birthday and I shouldn’t have to buy my own gift and he said he wasn’t going through that again. I’m just being stupid, I guess. Nothing new there, Cyndi
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I woke up this morning, thinking whats the point. Nothings going to change. Can’t make my husband love me. Can’t get people at work to like me. Can’t do the simplest things. Always putting them off. Always having my plans put aside for somebody elses. I wanted to go to a concert for my birthday which is coming up in February, told my husband and he said go get the tickets wait til you see how expensive it will be. I pointed out it was my birthday and I shouldn’t have to buy my own gift and he said he wasn’t going through that again. I’m just being stupid, I guess. Nothing new there, Cyndi
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Hey ASD, One of the things I’ve found about myself that is probably true for alot of us is that I love to feel sorry for myself. That is how I get my "goodies" in this world. Unfortunately, that is part of the reason I am so depressed. I need to feel like I am being hurt or being put in "the one down position." I can’t seem to un-learn this behaviour or feeling or whatever it is. I been pretty heavily depressed for almost 10 years now and I am SO tired of it. I feel like I will never be able to make it in this world. I would kill myself if there wasn’t people in this world that I love that would be deeply hurt by it. I don’t know what else to say, just sharing I guess. Rob
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I hear you !!! It seems like the harder I try, the further down I get pushed. Why is it that life is so easy for some, yet others, who desperately try, can’t seem to get ahead? Anyway, all I can say is, you seem to have a great heart and I don’t think you’re feeling sorry for yourself so much. Afterall, you’re feeling for your loved ones first. You’re thinking of how hurt those people would feel if you did anything harmful to yourself. That right there says it all. If things aren’t going your way, you have a right to feel sorry, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Like I said, you’re actually thinking about others first. Thanks for sharing ! Malissa
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