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I done the same thing all my life. I’ve never held a job for more then a couple of months. When it comes tax time I have to wait for 5 w2 to come back. But if you have all these other illnesses I would say those play a big part in your life. I know a little about lupus my mother had that. I watched her go through some big changes with that. Nikki "Personalized Creations" <particl…@earthlink.net> wrote in message
news:bb6e8.12860$0C1.1096449@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Problem is Helen ……. is that along with the borderline issues I fight > …… is this >>>>> > Lupus > Chronic Fatigue Syndrome > Fibromyalgia > Deteriation of Spine > Mitral Valve Prolapse > High Blood Pressure > Menopause (starting) > Severe PMS > So ….. you see …. just walking around Walmart for 1 hour, and I’m in > pain ….. and feel like I have a terrible flu, with chills, fever, body > aches ……. it’s terrible! So, how on earth could I work …. stand …. > for longer …. and even sitting is extremely painful …. for long periods! > My business ….. COULD be profitable if I had the right folks helping me. > I know where to find the sales, and the orders … it’s just that right now > ….. we live in a really small house … with nowhere to have workers come > to help ….. and we could only hire them thru a temp agency, because we > can’t get into taxes…. etc. for a regular employee right now. Also .. Jim > (husband) is NOT cooperative in this area … as in the fact that he doesn’t > share the ambition …. and excitement that I do with the biz. He’s the > biggest procrastinator I’ve ever known … and that’s really BAD for a biz. > I really WANT to make this biz work ….. but things aren’t set up in my > life right now ….. to do it. It’s very frustrating! Also …. I really > need a supportive person, somebody who will lovingly and gently encourage > me, to keep going …. and to assist in areas I can’t …. when I’m tired or > achey …. and Jim just doesn’t seem to have it in him …… > ooooooooooohhhhh it’s so hard … cause I want it soooooo bad! > Now what? > Dee > "HelenOdm" <helen…@aol.com> wrote in message > news:20020223213557.01293.00000236@mb-de.aol.com… > > Dee,,,,, > > I understand how you feel, there are days that I want to run out of > > work,,,,there are day when I feel that it would be easier to get locked > away in > > an insane asylum, than deal with the everyday pressures of life… I do > keep > > going though because I LOVE my job. It took a while to find a job that I > truly > > love. > > The best thing you can do is give yourself some time….Dont > > rush,,,,check the classifids,,,go to job fairs,,,check the net,,,,,but > most > > importaintly dont rush into one. Many times due to financial > reasons,,,people > > just jump into the first job they can get, which is understandable with > the > > economy right now,,,,,but if you can, search out every job,,,,maybe even > try > > someout,,,,something new, maybe a change in carrer,,,and if you try a job > and > > dont like it,,,dont hesitate to leave. You will find the one thats right > for > > you. > > Your home job,,,you said that you like that,,,,even if it is not busy > right > > now,,,,maybe you can find something simmular, working for someone else,,, > > Sometimes large companys get more bussiness easier than you might on your > own. > > I did that,,,I could not keep a job that long ago,,,went through a few and > was > > not happy. Thats when I just walked off the job as a waitress, went home, > got > > changed and went and applied for a job as a hairdresser. I had a licence > from > > years before, but never had enough conferdence in myself to do it > before,,,once > > I tried it, I loved it. Maybe thats what you need,,,even if you dont have > a > > licence or anything to fall back on,,,,,just think of what you always > wanted to > > try…Some jobs need very little school. Where I am from to become a > CNA,,is a > > two week course,,,bartender Is two weeks too, travelagent and real estate > > agent, I also think is a quick course too, and also nail tech’s. Theres > tons > > of job that requir only quick training courses. > > I hope you find one you like and good luck hun…….. > > ( v ) > > / Helen > > V
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Im so sorry hun,,,You must be going through hell with your medical problems.. Im sure the BPD dosent help either, I do hope you get the person to help you out with your bussiness,,,,,,are there any friends or family that can help,,, Again good luck hun, ( v ) / Helen V
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Work causes me to become suicidal. I become terrified at the thought of it or even just in anticipation of work. Guess that’s why I’m considered disabled by the government. I’m a virtual cripple when it comes to any ability to do even the most menial work. v – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> From: "Personalized Creations" <particl…@earthlink.net> > Organization: EarthLink Inc. — http://www.EarthLink.net > Newsgroups: alt.support.personality > Date: Sun, 24 Feb 2002 01:24:10 GMT > Subject: Working – Can You?? > Hiya folks ….. > Something I need to get out …… > For all my life ….. I’ve hated to work ….. and have had lots of trouble > because of it …. but I just can NOT get myself to stay with it!! > Right now ……. I can’t get myself to start …. but then … I have a > business at home …… and CAN work on that, as a matter of fact … I’ve > spent 16 hour days working on it, but it’s slow now ….. because of my > marriage situation, and my health. > I have some choices to make …… and can’t seem to make any of them > …….. it’s so hard ….. and I’m soooo sad … and torn….. > Anyway …… do all bpd folks have the same problem with working?? Is it > just me …… ?? > I use to get to the job ….. and want to run out!! I have been able to > stay a year in one place ….. but that was only a few times ….. mostly > ….. I leave after only 2-3 months, and the shortest job I had …. was 3 > hours!! I left on lunch! > Tell me …… is this caused by bpd …… or part of it? > Hugs, > Dee
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… still, I hate being marginalized and useless. I’d like nothing more than to be engaged in meaningful work and making a contribution and supporting myself. v – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> From: "Personalized Creations" <particl…@earthlink.net> > Organization: EarthLink Inc. — http://www.EarthLink.net > Newsgroups: alt.support.personality > Date: Sun, 24 Feb 2002 01:24:10 GMT > Subject: Working – Can You?? > Hiya folks ….. > Something I need to get out …… > For all my life ….. I’ve hated to work ….. and have had lots of trouble > because of it …. but I just can NOT get myself to stay with it!! > Right now ……. I can’t get myself to start …. but then … I have a > business at home …… and CAN work on that, as a matter of fact … I’ve > spent 16 hour days working on it, but it’s slow now ….. because of my > marriage situation, and my health. > I have some choices to make …… and can’t seem to make any of them > …….. it’s so hard ….. and I’m soooo sad … and torn….. > Anyway …… do all bpd folks have the same problem with working?? Is it > just me …… ?? > I use to get to the job ….. and want to run out!! I have been able to > stay a year in one place ….. but that was only a few times ….. mostly > ….. I leave after only 2-3 months, and the shortest job I had …. was 3 > hours!! I left on lunch! > Tell me …… is this caused by bpd …… or part of it? > Hugs, > Dee
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You have so much to contend with. Wanting to as badly as you do should take you a long way. But maybe set realistic expectations for yourself and make the goals reasonable. love, v – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> From: "Personalized Creations" <particl…@earthlink.net> > Organization: EarthLink Inc. — http://www.EarthLink.net > Newsgroups: alt.support.personality > Date: Sun, 24 Feb 2002 13:48:55 GMT > Subject: Re: Working – Can You?? > Problem is Helen ……. is that along with the borderline issues I fight > …… is this >>>>> > Lupus > Chronic Fatigue Syndrome > Fibromyalgia > Deteriation of Spine > Mitral Valve Prolapse > High Blood Pressure > Menopause (starting) > Severe PMS > So ….. you see …. just walking around Walmart for 1 hour, and I’m in > pain ….. and feel like I have a terrible flu, with chills, fever, body > aches ……. it’s terrible! So, how on earth could I work …. stand …. > for longer …. and even sitting is extremely painful …. for long periods! > My business ….. COULD be profitable if I had the right folks helping me. > I know where to find the sales, and the orders … it’s just that right now > ….. we live in a really small house … with nowhere to have workers come > to help ….. and we could only hire them thru a temp agency, because we > can’t get into taxes…. etc. for a regular employee right now. Also .. Jim > (husband) is NOT cooperative in this area … as in the fact that he doesn’t > share the ambition …. and excitement that I do with the biz. He’s the > biggest procrastinator I’ve ever known … and that’s really BAD for a biz. > I really WANT to make this biz work ….. but things aren’t set up in my > life right now ….. to do it. It’s very frustrating! Also …. I really > need a supportive person, somebody who will lovingly and gently encourage > me, to keep going …. and to assist in areas I can’t …. when I’m tired or > achey …. and Jim just doesn’t seem to have it in him …… > ooooooooooohhhhh it’s so hard … cause I want it soooooo bad! > Now what? > Dee > "HelenOdm" <helen…@aol.com> wrote in message > news:20020223213557.01293.00000236@mb-de.aol.com… >> Dee,,,,, >> I understand how you feel, there are days that I want to run out of >> work,,,,there are day when I feel that it would be easier to get locked > away in >> an insane asylum, than deal with the everyday pressures of life… I do > keep >> going though because I LOVE my job. It took a while to find a job that I > truly >> love. >> The best thing you can do is give yourself some time….Dont >> rush,,,,check the classifids,,,go to job fairs,,,check the net,,,,,but > most >> importaintly dont rush into one. Many times due to financial > reasons,,,people >> just jump into the first job they can get, which is understandable with > the >> economy right now,,,,,but if you can, search out every job,,,,maybe even > try >> someout,,,,something new, maybe a change in carrer,,,and if you try a job > and >> dont like it,,,dont hesitate to leave. You will find the one thats right > for >> you. >> Your home job,,,you said that you like that,,,,even if it is not busy > right >> now,,,,maybe you can find something simmular, working for someone else,,, >> Sometimes large companys get more bussiness easier than you might on your > own. >> I did that,,,I could not keep a job that long ago,,,went through a few and > was >> not happy. Thats when I just walked off the job as a waitress, went home, > got >> changed and went and applied for a job as a hairdresser. I had a licence > from >> years before, but never had enough conferdence in myself to do it > before,,,once >> I tried it, I loved it. Maybe thats what you need,,,even if you dont have > a >> licence or anything to fall back on,,,,,just think of what you always > wanted to >> try…Some jobs need very little school. Where I am from to become a > CNA,,is a >> two week course,,,bartender Is two weeks too, travelagent and real estate >> agent, I also think is a quick course too, and also nail tech’s. Theres > tons >> of job that requir only quick training courses. >> I hope you find one you like and good luck hun…….. >> ( v ) >> / Helen >> V
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Hiya folks ….. Something I need to get out …… For all my life ….. I’ve hated to work ….. and have had lots of trouble because of it …. but I just can NOT get myself to stay with it!! Right now ……. I can’t get myself to start …. but then … I have a business at home …… and CAN work on that, as a matter of fact … I’ve spent 16 hour days working on it, but it’s slow now ….. because of my marriage situation, and my health. I have some choices to make …… and can’t seem to make any of them …….. it’s so hard ….. and I’m soooo sad … and torn….. Anyway …… do all bpd folks have the same problem with working?? Is it just me …… ?? I use to get to the job ….. and want to run out!! I have been able to stay a year in one place ….. but that was only a few times ….. mostly ….. I leave after only 2-3 months, and the shortest job I had …. was 3 hours!! I left on lunch! Tell me …… is this caused by bpd …… or part of it? Hugs, Dee
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Dee,,,,, I understand how you feel, there are days that I want to run out of work,,,,there are day when I feel that it would be easier to get locked away in an insane asylum, than deal with the everyday pressures of life… I do keep going though because I LOVE my job. It took a while to find a job that I truly love. The best thing you can do is give yourself some time….Dont rush,,,,check the classifids,,,go to job fairs,,,check the net,,,,,but most importaintly dont rush into one. Many times due to financial reasons,,,people just jump into the first job they can get, which is understandable with the economy right now,,,,,but if you can, search out every job,,,,maybe even try someout,,,,something new, maybe a change in carrer,,,and if you try a job and dont like it,,,dont hesitate to leave. You will find the one thats right for you. Your home job,,,you said that you like that,,,,even if it is not busy right now,,,,maybe you can find something simmular, working for someone else,,, Sometimes large companys get more bussiness easier than you might on your own. I did that,,,I could not keep a job that long ago,,,went through a few and was not happy. Thats when I just walked off the job as a waitress, went home, got changed and went and applied for a job as a hairdresser. I had a licence from years before, but never had enough conferdence in myself to do it before,,,once I tried it, I loved it. Maybe thats what you need,,,even if you dont have a licence or anything to fall back on,,,,,just think of what you always wanted to try…Some jobs need very little school. Where I am from to become a CNA,,is a two week course,,,bartender Is two weeks too, travelagent and real estate agent, I also think is a quick course too, and also nail tech’s. Theres tons of job that requir only quick training courses. I hope you find one you like and good luck hun…….. ( v ) / Helen V
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Dammit, I’m missing posts all over! Yes Dee, I’ve had this problem for a llllooonnnngggg time now. Actually the only ‘real’ job I’ve had was when I was 17. I’m now almost 26. This has made it really hard to get back into it, and of course no experience doesn’t help. This is why I’m going into the pre-employment program. They handle issues like self-esteem and anger management (HA like I haven’t done THAT one before a million and one times), so hopefully it’ll help with some of my obstacles. -Nicki "HelenOdm" <helen…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20020223213557.01293.00000236@mb-de.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Dee,,,,, > I understand how you feel, there are days that I want to run out of > work,,,,there are day when I feel that it would be easier to get locked away in > an insane asylum, than deal with the everyday pressures of life… I do keep > going though because I LOVE my job. It took a while to find a job that I truly > love. > The best thing you can do is give yourself some time….Dont > rush,,,,check the classifids,,,go to job fairs,,,check the net,,,,,but most > importaintly dont rush into one. Many times due to financial reasons,,,people > just jump into the first job they can get, which is understandable with the > economy right now,,,,,but if you can, search out every job,,,,maybe even try > someout,,,,something new, maybe a change in carrer,,,and if you try a job and > dont like it,,,dont hesitate to leave. You will find the one thats right for > you. > Your home job,,,you said that you like that,,,,even if it is not busy right > now,,,,maybe you can find something simmular, working for someone else,,, > Sometimes large companys get more bussiness easier than you might on your own. > I did that,,,I could not keep a job that long ago,,,went through a few and was > not happy. Thats when I just walked off the job as a waitress, went home, got > changed and went and applied for a job as a hairdresser. I had a licence from > years before, but never had enough conferdence in myself to do it before,,,once > I tried it, I loved it. Maybe thats what you need,,,even if you dont have a > licence or anything to fall back on,,,,,just think of what you always wanted to > try…Some jobs need very little school. Where I am from to become a CNA,,is a > two week course,,,bartender Is two weeks too, travelagent and real estate > agent, I also think is a quick course too, and also nail tech’s. Theres tons > of job that requir only quick training courses. > I hope you find one you like and good luck hun…….. > ( v ) > / Helen > V
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Problem is Helen ……. is that along with the borderline issues I fight …… is this >>>>> Lupus Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Fibromyalgia Deteriation of Spine Mitral Valve Prolapse High Blood Pressure Menopause (starting) Severe PMS So ….. you see …. just walking around Walmart for 1 hour, and I’m in pain ….. and feel like I have a terrible flu, with chills, fever, body aches ……. it’s terrible! So, how on earth could I work …. stand …. for longer …. and even sitting is extremely painful …. for long periods! My business ….. COULD be profitable if I had the right folks helping me. I know where to find the sales, and the orders … it’s just that right now ….. we live in a really small house … with nowhere to have workers come to help ….. and we could only hire them thru a temp agency, because we can’t get into taxes…. etc. for a regular employee right now. Also .. Jim (husband) is NOT cooperative in this area … as in the fact that he doesn’t share the ambition …. and excitement that I do with the biz. He’s the biggest procrastinator I’ve ever known … and that’s really BAD for a biz. I really WANT to make this biz work ….. but things aren’t set up in my life right now ….. to do it. It’s very frustrating! Also …. I really need a supportive person, somebody who will lovingly and gently encourage me, to keep going …. and to assist in areas I can’t …. when I’m tired or achey …. and Jim just doesn’t seem to have it in him …… ooooooooooohhhhh it’s so hard … cause I want it soooooo bad! Now what? Dee "HelenOdm" <helen…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20020223213557.01293.00000236@mb-de.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Dee,,,,, > I understand how you feel, there are days that I want to run out of > work,,,,there are day when I feel that it would be easier to get locked away in > an insane asylum, than deal with the everyday pressures of life… I do keep > going though because I LOVE my job. It took a while to find a job that I truly > love. > The best thing you can do is give yourself some time….Dont > rush,,,,check the classifids,,,go to job fairs,,,check the net,,,,,but most > importaintly dont rush into one. Many times due to financial reasons,,,people > just jump into the first job they can get, which is understandable with the > economy right now,,,,,but if you can, search out every job,,,,maybe even try > someout,,,,something new, maybe a change in carrer,,,and if you try a job and > dont like it,,,dont hesitate to leave. You will find the one thats right for > you. > Your home job,,,you said that you like that,,,,even if it is not busy right > now,,,,maybe you can find something simmular, working for someone else,,, > Sometimes large companys get more bussiness easier than you might on your own. > I did that,,,I could not keep a job that long ago,,,went through a few and was > not happy. Thats when I just walked off the job as a waitress, went home, got > changed and went and applied for a job as a hairdresser. I had a licence from > years before, but never had enough conferdence in myself to do it before,,,once > I tried it, I loved it. Maybe thats what you need,,,even if you dont have a > licence or anything to fall back on,,,,,just think of what you always wanted to > try…Some jobs need very little school. Where I am from to become a CNA,,is a > two week course,,,bartender Is two weeks too, travelagent and real estate > agent, I also think is a quick course too, and also nail tech’s. Theres tons > of job that requir only quick training courses. > I hope you find one you like and good luck hun…….. > ( v ) > / Helen > V
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Oh god!! You poor thing!!!!! Holy fucking shit!!!!! We’re almost twins… I have a few of those things to share with you. Here is my list: Fibromyalgia Deterioration of Spine High Blood Pressure Menopause (starting) Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Dysthemic Depression Panic Disorder Hypothyroidism/Hashimotos 3 Herniated Disks in my neck w/bone spurs Polycystic Ovarian Disease What am I leaving out? I know there is something else!!! LOL!!! God, what a mess we are!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let’s leave our bodies to medical science!!!!!!!! I know that nobody would want our organs!! LOL!!! Love you, Deb On Sun, 24 Feb 2002 13:48:55 GMT, "Personalized Creations" – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -<particl…@earthlink.net> wrote: >Problem is Helen ……. is that along with the borderline issues I fight >…… is this >>>>> >Lupus >Chronic Fatigue Syndrome >Fibromyalgia >Deteriation of Spine >Mitral Valve Prolapse >High Blood Pressure >Menopause (starting) >Severe PMS >So ….. you see …. just walking around Walmart for 1 hour, and I’m in >pain ….. and feel like I have a terrible flu, with chills, fever, body >aches ……. it’s terrible! So, how on earth could I work …. stand …. >for longer …. and even sitting is extremely painful …. for long periods! >My business ….. COULD be profitable if I had the right folks helping me. >I know where to find the sales, and the orders … it’s just that right now >….. we live in a really small house … with nowhere to have workers come >to help ….. and we could only hire them thru a temp agency, because we >can’t get into taxes…. etc. for a regular employee right now. Also .. Jim >(husband) is NOT cooperative in this area … as in the fact that he doesn’t >share the ambition …. and excitement that I do with the biz. He’s the >biggest procrastinator I’ve ever known … and that’s really BAD for a biz. >I really WANT to make this biz work ….. but things aren’t set up in my >life right now ….. to do it. It’s very frustrating! Also …. I really >need a supportive person, somebody who will lovingly and gently encourage >me, to keep going …. and to assist in areas I can’t …. when I’m tired or >achey …. and Jim just doesn’t seem to have it in him …… >ooooooooooohhhhh it’s so hard … cause I want it soooooo bad! >Now what? >Dee >"HelenOdm" <helen…@aol.com> wrote in message >news:20020223213557.01293.00000236@mb-de.aol.com… >> Dee,,,,, >> I understand how you feel, there are days that I want to run out of >> work,,,,there are day when I feel that it would be easier to get locked >away in >> an insane asylum, than deal with the everyday pressures of life… I do >keep >> going though because I LOVE my job. It took a while to find a job that I >truly >> love. >> The best thing you can do is give yourself some time….Dont >> rush,,,,check the classifids,,,go to job fairs,,,check the net,,,,,but >most >> importaintly dont rush into one. Many times due to financial >reasons,,,people >> just jump into the first job they can get, which is understandable with >the >> economy right now,,,,,but if you can, search out every job,,,,maybe even >try >> someout,,,,something new, maybe a change in carrer,,,and if you try a job >and >> dont like it,,,dont hesitate to leave. You will find the one thats right >for >> you. >> Your home job,,,you said that you like that,,,,even if it is not busy >right >> now,,,,maybe you can find something simmular, working for someone else,,, >> Sometimes large companys get more bussiness easier than you might on your >own. >> I did that,,,I could not keep a job that long ago,,,went through a few and >was >> not happy. Thats when I just walked off the job as a waitress, went home, >got >> changed and went and applied for a job as a hairdresser. I had a licence >from >> years before, but never had enough conferdence in myself to do it >before,,,once >> I tried it, I loved it. Maybe thats what you need,,,even if you dont have >a >> licence or anything to fall back on,,,,,just think of what you always >wanted to >> try…Some jobs need very little school. Where I am from to become a >CNA,,is a >> two week course,,,bartender Is two weeks too, travelagent and real estate >> agent, I also think is a quick course too, and also nail tech’s. Theres >tons >> of job that requir only quick training courses. >> I hope you find one you like and good luck hun…….. >> ( v ) >> / Helen >> V
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