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In article <35b4e672.5164…@news.mindspring.com>, cypherp…@mindspring.com wrote: > Hi…. > Just wanted to respond… > >Does anybody else ever feel like this? It’s like I go through a cycle, > >where sometimes I’m very quiet and withdrawn in social situations, and > >other times I feel I have to be "on," and I end up overcompensating and > >saying the wrong thing and acting stupid.
It is extremely hard to control what comes out sometimes. If someone else said something stupid or out of place, I usually say to myself , he probably didn’t mean it, or I’m sure he wishes he didnt’ say that. So if i say something stupid i will look at it objectively and say the same thing. Its ok cause we all make mistakes. I often think my subconscience is out to get me because so many times the exact opposite of what is appropriate to say I said. I wish my head could clear up so I can think straight. > Yes. I am 26, female and I have ADHD. Sometimes I have social > problems and other times I do not. I also go through cycles
Do you have regular cycles ?. and it > seems as if I am on the more quiet binge, people like me a lot more > because I am usually very talkative only out of fear that I won’t be > the star of the show. I fear to be thought of as > uninteresting/unpopular/uninvolved.
ME too I loose control of myself and – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> overcompensate the attention I am getting at the present time and > ‘overdo’ it. > It really is not becoming to me when that happens because I am > considered physically attractive, until I loose control. I start to > say things without thinking, I become incoherent and jump from subject > to subject without my audience understanding my connection. My > sentences start to become jumbled up and I don’t make sense. I loose > my train of thought when I get excited, and I am easily amused. > These problems I experience tends to come from a series of sources. > Tension, nervousness, low self-esteem, attention span > concentration, and focus. > I see a psyhiatrist for my ADHD and for my anxiousness he has given me > medication Buspar which has helped so far. > I still go through my tangents…. but I just want to let you know > that you aren’t the only one. > Jennifer
My social phobia was always a sure way to make classmates stay away. I could never talk to them nor act normal around them. Always always anxiety made me act weird. Now though I’ve somehow developed great social skills (superficially) and appear to be popular ( at first ). I worked very hard at not looking nervous or like I had no friends so all my efforts went into looking good and acting confident. I think this led to my confidence in going out in public and dealing with people. But I also had this strange streak in me which sounds sooo much like your description. I became EXTREMELy HYper. I would get soo Happy so easily and jump up and down, clap my hands, run up to people cause I was so excited to see them. I would talk miles a minute. talk loud laugh loud. I never made sense. People would literally look at me with a strange face and walk away or comment on how hyper or strange I was. But while all this goes on I know how stupid I look but I just can’t stop. Can anyone tell me what’s going on??? I learnt over the years that Not only will i lose friends over my anxiety but more from my hyperness. I try as hard as I can to manage both, at least in appearances. Do other social phobics experience this? Please help —–== Posted via Deja News, The Leader in Internet Discussion ==—– http://www.dejanews.com/rg_mkgrp.xp Create Your Own Free Member Forum
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Hi, This is my first time posting on this NG. I am a 47 year old male, married, and was diagnosed (by the Veterans Administration) as having 100% Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Social phobia, and depression are part of the diagnosis, which is very uncommon, because usually they just consider depression, and social phobia part of PTSD. I just wanted to add that I was wounded by schrapnel in Vietnam in 1971. So I have 5 other service-connected disabilities besides the 100% PTSD. I have a total of 6 service-connected disabilities that amount to 140%, but the pay stays the same as 100%. :^) After reading the last several posts about the problems of functioning in groups, I just wanted to say that I fight with a lot of the same problems and obstacles. I was diagnosed with the social phobia and depression, years before the PTSD and have dealt with these disorders both single and married. I do not think that one is better than the other, there are plus’s and minus’s both ways. I cover up a lot by usually laughing and being over talkative around people. My wife and I have both noticed and talked about this. Sometimes I force myself just to sit back and try to let other people do most of the talking, etc., but usually find myself putting that old mask on to cover things up. I ramble, lose my concentration, and jump from one thought to the other. Many times I have noticed that if and when someone comes over, or I do happen to go out in public that carrying on a ‘normal conversation’ is very challenging. So I try to work at doing better, and even though it is hard to accept, one has to keep going and not give up. It is really hard to accept one’s self with social phobia and keep a good attitude. It is a roller-coaster ride. This is when I am around people, and most of the time I am ‘homebound.’ With PTSD, social phobia, and depression I have tried many treatments, medications, and now I know that meds or treatment will never make me like I want to be in society. So I have accepted (for the most part) how I am, and have learned to stay home, accept myself, but it is a challenge to do this. I feel like I am in a situation of ‘damn if I do and damn if I don’t.’ Just my 2 cents Don
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Hi…. Just wanted to respond… >Does anybody else ever feel like this? It’s like I go through a cycle, >where sometimes I’m very quiet and withdrawn in social situations, and >other times I feel I have to be "on," and I end up overcompensating and >saying the wrong thing and acting stupid.
Yes. I am 26, female and I have ADHD. Sometimes I have social problems and other times I do not. I also go through cycles and it seems as if I am on the more quiet binge, people like me a lot more because I am usually very talkative only out of fear that I won’t be the star of the show. I fear to be thought of as uninteresting/unpopular/uninvolved. I loose control of myself and overcompensate the attention I am getting at the present time and ‘overdo’ it. It really is not becoming to me when that happens because I am considered physically attractive, until I loose control. I start to say things without thinking, I become incoherent and jump from subject to subject without my audience understanding my connection. My sentences start to become jumbled up and I don’t make sense. I loose my train of thought when I get excited, and I am easily amused. These problems I experience tends to come from a series of sources. Tension, nervousness, low self-esteem, attention span concentration, and focus. I see a psyhiatrist for my ADHD and for my anxiousness he has given me medication Buspar which has helped so far. I still go through my tangents…. but I just want to let you know that you aren’t the only one. Jennifer
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Hi, I’m not sure this is the same thing, but I’d like to write it anyway. I have many times handled social situations by making jokes. I have difficulties with social interaction due to social phobia and an autistic disability, but by making a joke I did have something to say instead of being quiet all the time. And making people laugh was one of the few ways I could make contact and communication with them. If I could make them laugh I didn’t feel so intimidated by them. It made me popular when I was 16 but I don’t know how other people react to this now when I’m 30, if they appreciate it or if they find it annoying that I’m joking all the time. But it’s almost the only way I know of how to be. I get too nervous around people, and when they talk about things I’m not interested in I can’t come up with anything to say. And these things trigger my joking. Marie Strega ———————– Dave Platt <dpl…@gatewest.net> skrev i inl
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