Question:
I am a 28 year old female, and was sexually abused by a neighbor at is house .My brothers and I were always there,and he was suppose to take care of us.He made me do things to him and also myself to my brothers as he watched.I do not even understand how I could be writing this.I have been scared to go to counsling due to not wanting to think about the issues of the past. Also there is so much other types of abuse, also I remember having my mom sleep with me since I was little, 6 or so I think.Now at 28 , am still sleeping with my mom, unless she is there, I must sleep with doors locked, windows locked, and somethimes even things infront of the locked door , due to being scared, Is there any hope for me, and imagine sleeping in a hospital, I can not even imagine a way to do it, there are so many
Response:
Hi Deb. The bible wisdom is to fear not – this dont mean be stupid – just fear not. You are doing real good with breaking silence and there are healthy people here to talk to. (watch out for the trolls ….) All this stuff you are dealing with is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It will take you a few months to set it straight and it will hurt sometimes to do the work, but not all the time. Recommend you find an ACA meeting as well as a SLAA meeting to 12 Step in. And find some therapy – there is free therapy arround but the fastests and cheapest way to set this straight is traditional accupuncuture, biofeedback and integrative body psychotherapy (rosenberg and rand training). Go slow with this stuff, and with accupuncture you dont have to think about it at all. In the right hands it will start healing the issues and give you strength to talk about it and think about it. And then heal it and be done with it. Living a life you love and living that life powerfully. It works if you work it sweetie. And you will do it when the pain of getting better is less then the pain of staying sick. When you are fed up with the disease – you will make the moves to get out of it – to start the struggle and heal yourself. And you can do it. sumbuddie duex amoure – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am a 28 year old female, and was sexually abused by a neighbor at is house .My brothers and I were always there,and he was suppose to take care of us.He made me do things to him and also myself to my brothers as he watched.I do not even understand how I could be writing this.I have been scared to go to counsling due to not wanting to think about the issues of the past. Also there is so much other types of abuse, also I remember having my mom sleep with me since I was little, 6 or so I think.Now at 28 , am still sleeping with my mom, unless she is there, I must sleep with doors locked, windows locked, and somethimes even things infront of the locked door , due to being scared, Is there any hope for me, and imagine sleeping in a hospital, I can not even imagine a way to do it, there are so many
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I am a 28 year old female, and was sexually abused by a neighbor at is house .My brothers and I were always there,and he was suppose to take care of us.He made me do things to him and also myself to my brothers as he watched.I do not even understand how I could be writing this.I have been scared to go to counsling due to not wanting to think about the issues of the past. Also there is so much other types of abuse, also I remember having my mom sleep with me since I was little, 6 or so I think.Now at 28 , am still sleeping with my mom, unless she is there, I must sleep with doors locked, windows locked, and somethimes even things infront of the locked door , due to being scared, Is there any hope for me, and imagine sleeping in a hospital, I can not even imagine a way to do it, there are so many
Yes Deb, there is hope for you. I’d suggest getting yourself into counseling. One problem you have is that you feel guilty. Remember that none of the abuse you’ve experienced was your fault. You need to get counseling to bolster your self image and get over your feelings of helplessness. You don’t need your mom (in the every day sense). You need to take that first step to get on with your life (which your mom should be a part of). Ask your mom for help. She’d willingly give it I bet. Don’t be scared either. Try to get a little excited about the prospects of a new adventure in life! Good luck to you H
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You started here Deb I know how overwhelming it all feels. Knowing things were not *my* fault did not take away my feelings of shame. I had to be told over and over It was not my fault. It’s not your fault Deb. Welcome Miiigwej
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