Question:
Be honest about stuff! Talk to her honestly, without making you into something your not. This will also relieve anxiety, and make conversing easier. And if you like her, and would like to be her boyfriend one time, you HAVE to be honest from now on. I don’t nessecarily mean honest about all your problems, though be honest about them "if the subject comes up", but honest about all things, big and small. "JPont16" <jpon…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20011125000922.19288.00002838@mb-ch.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I used to have Social Phobia, depression (extremely suicidal), extreme panic > attacks, signs of OCD, extreme mood swings, and post traumatic stress disorder > among other things. Now i’m just shy and a couple other small things but i’m > still really nervous around girls. I go brain dead when i’m around anybody. My > sister has a friend who is really nice and she was kind of flirting with me (I > think, i’m not sure) and I asked her if she had a b/f and she said "kind of/no, > not really" which is good. I told her I was shy so she wouldn’t think I didn’t > like hanging out with her ( I only hang out with her when my sister hangs out > with her ) and she said she knows and then smiled and I made small talk but I > don’t know what to do from here. Girls are hard to figure out so I don’t know > what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Response:
About the "I used to have nemerous phobias but not anymore, Im just shy now" thing… Could you explain IN DETAIL how you overcame all of those phobias, or did you?
Response:
ChongPakB…@webtv.net (Hang Mi Lung) wrote in message <news:21946-3C03AE38-46@storefull-288.iap.bryant.webtv.net>… > About the "I used to have nemerous phobias but not anymore, Im just shy > now" thing… > Could you explain IN DETAIL how you overcame all of those phobias, or > did you?
http://www.hyperhidrosisusa.com/html/home.html That provides the main information. Meds help somewhat, and personal effort can go a long way also (though it wasnt getting me anywhere.) If you want more info, I can e-mail you.
Response:
I highly recommend reading the work of John Gray, his books on the theme of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus will explain away a lot of the mystery. Raise your level of understanding and competence, and your confidence will rise also. I found his site for you: http://www.marsvenus.com/cgi-bin/link/home/index.html Best of luck, baz Would you like to read a FREE e-book that will radically improve your communication skills. then join the free Abolish Shyness ezine by sending a blank email to: AbolishShynessToday-subscr…@topica.com or click here: http://www.topica.com/lists/AbolishShynessToday/subscribe/?location=l… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -jpon…@aol.com (JPont16) wrote in message <news:20011125000922.19288.00002838@mb-ch.aol.com>… > I used to have Social Phobia, depression (extremely suicidal), extreme panic > attacks, signs of OCD, extreme mood swings, and post traumatic stress disorder > among other things. Now i’m just shy and a couple other small things but i’m > still really nervous around girls. I go brain dead when i’m around anybody. My > sister has a friend who is really nice and she was kind of flirting with me (I > think, i’m not sure) and I asked her if she had a b/f and she said "kind of/no, > not really" which is good. I told her I was shy so she wouldn’t think I didn’t > like hanging out with her ( I only hang out with her when my sister hangs out > with her ) and she said she knows and then smiled and I made small talk but I > don’t know what to do from here. Girls are hard to figure out so I don’t know > what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Response:
I used to have Social Phobia, depression (extremely suicidal), extreme panic attacks, signs of OCD, extreme mood swings, and post traumatic stress disorder among other things. Now i’m just shy and a couple other small things but i’m still really nervous around girls. I go brain dead when i’m around anybody. My sister has a friend who is really nice and she was kind of flirting with me (I think, i’m not sure) and I asked her if she had a b/f and she said "kind of/no, not really" which is good. I told her I was shy so she wouldn’t think I didn’t like hanging out with her ( I only hang out with her when my sister hangs out with her ) and she said she knows and then smiled and I made small talk but I don’t know what to do from here. Girls are hard to figure out so I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Response:
> I used to have Social Phobia, depression (extremely suicidal), extreme panic > attacks, signs of OCD, extreme mood swings, and post traumatic stress disorder > among other things.
Sorry for going off-topic, but: how did you manage to solve all these disorders? Because I have exactly the same at this moment… And I cannot even talk to a girl (even when I’m not attracted to her) without blushing and avoiding eye contact.. 
RdP
Response:
jpon…@aol.com (JPont16) wrote in message <news:20011125000922.19288.00002838@mb-ch.aol.com>… > I used to have Social Phobia, depression (extremely suicidal), extreme panic > attacks, signs of OCD, extreme mood swings, and post traumatic stress disorder > among other things. Now i’m just shy and a couple other small things but i’m > still really nervous around girls. I go brain dead when i’m around anybody. My > sister has a friend who is really nice and she was kind of flirting with me (I > think, i’m not sure) and I asked her if she had a b/f and she said "kind of/no, > not really" which is good. I told her I was shy so she wouldn’t think I didn’t > like hanging out with her ( I only hang out with her when my sister hangs out > with her ) and she said she knows and then smiled and I made small talk but I > don’t know what to do from here. Girls are hard to figure out so I don’t know > what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks.
I don’t know about the figuring out girls part, but if you are energetic and want to do stuff, and can make decent conversation (other than sex and sports) then it’s a good start. Then hopefully after spending some time with her the shyness won’t be so bad around her. You’re not shy around family and friends, and they like you, right? So try to act like you’re around them when you’re with her. Are you taking meds? A stimilant type med might work for the brain-dead stuff. Modafinil is a new safe one. The old types were rarely prescribed.
If you like this post and would like to receive updates from this blog, please subscribe our feed.