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Last I heard, a week or so ago…from DaveP she is doing OK, just staying away from the newsgroup for awhile. Don’t know much more than that. If DaveP is around perhaps he could let some of us oldtimers know how she is doing. Love and Hugs. allen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Subject says it all, is KatieKink alright? haven’t seen her posting in a looooong time. Emilio — D. Emilio Grimaldo T. URL: http://www.iaehv.nl/users/grimaldo/ http://www.iaehv.nl/users/grimaldo/panama.html
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Hi, Dave! Thanks for letting us know about Katie…she is missed, indeed! And, so are you! I’m one of those "lurkers" who finally put the fingers to the keyboard and stepped through cyberspace to let myself be known, but I was reading at the time that KatieK was posting, and you. I enjoyed Katie’s posts, she had a lot of good things to say. I hope that soon she will feel that she’s ready to come back to us… and I am glad to see you here again, too! You haven’t said much in a long time, and I had wondered. Please post again soon, let us know how you are doing and what’s been happening! –Connie
Wow… …thanks so much for the kind words. Katie called me last night (Wed), and I told her about this thread. I’m sure we’ll talk again in the next few days, and I’ll tell her about your post too. Anyway, I guess now’s a pretty good time for a more detailed response as to what’s been happening both with Katie and with me. It’s a long story. You may recall that Katie stopped posting around the beginning of December. The trigger for that was me, or at least our relationship. We were going in opposite directions… I wanted very much to move toward a serious comittment, and she was feeling a lot of pressure with the relationship and wanted me to back away and give her more space. We went through a very difficult week or two, during which we came close to ending all contact at her request. (Keep in mind that she lives in CA and I live in OH) Her internet access had been via my AOL account, but she stopped using it at that point. Thankfully, things are going much more smoothly for us now. It’s been a struggle for me, but I’m slowly learning how to be the friend she needs. We talk two or three times a week. Katie now has separate internet access, but doesn’t normally read newsgroups. One reason for this is "technical", in that she hates the newsreader she’s using. The other reason is more profound. I think that at least in part she found it very frustrating to see so many good people in so much pain and not to be able to help. That’s the main reason why I myself post so rarely. I’ve read every post to ASED for close to two years. Many have moved me very deeply, but I just can’t seem to find the words that would really make a difference. Everything I try to write seems so trite, like trying to treat cancer with an aspirin. From time to time I do respond to posts, but normally via email. As to what’s been happening with me, well… a lot, actually. Back when Katie and I went through the "great relationship shift", I was hurting so badly that I needed to get some professional help. That help has now evolved into therapy for what’s been labeled (I haven’t totally accepted this) "post traumatic stress disorder" stemming from my childhood. (Dysfunctional family, alcoholic parent, physical abuse, etc.) It’s all been an interesting twist… now I can compare therapist notes with Katie! Anyway, things have certainly been "interesting" for both Katie and myself recently. I’d love to have a crystal ball to tell me how things will turn out for us. I don’t though, so I’ll just try and tackle the challenges one day at a time. Thanks again for the kind words, Dave P P.S. I try to check in regularly on IRC channel #ASED, especially on weekends. I haven’t seen too many others there lately. I’d love to "meet" more of you there.
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Hi, Dave! Thanks for letting us know about Katie…she is missed, indeed! And, so are you! I’m one of those "lurkers" who finally put the fingers to the keyboard and stepped through cyberspace to let myself be known, but I was reading at the time that KatieK was posting, and you. I enjoyed Katie’s posts, she had a lot of good things to say. I hope that soon she will feel that she’s ready to come back to us… and I am glad to see you here again, too! You haven’t said much in a long time, and I had wondered. Please post again soon, let us know how you are doing and what’s been happening! –Connie
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Dave P., if you’re around, let Katie know that I (we) *REALLY* miss her….if she’s not up to writing, that’s understandable….just pass along some hugs, good wishes, and hopes that she’ll be back w/ us soon….also (and this is NOT an afterthought; where have you been & how are you doing?)
Hi all, I somehow missed Emilio’s original post, (aren’t these severes deep dark mysteries?) or I certainly would have replied sooner. I’ve got to run off to teach a class in a few minutes, so a more detailed response will have to wait. Katie’s been doing OK. She’s had her ups and downs, including a couple of hospital stays since she last posted, but she’s still every bit the fighter she’s always been. She sounded in good spirits when I talked with her a day or two ago. For the time being, anyway, she’s chosen to stay away from reading and posting to the group. From time to time, as I see posts that I think would interest her, I’ve been telling her about them. I’d like to think that at some point in the future, she’ll be an active participant again. As to how I’ve been doing… well, that’s a very, very long story indeed. More later. Take care, Dave P
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