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Becky & Parker, And let me take a wild guess here:-) Although you may have many acquaintences, very,very few (you could probably "list" them on one hand) really KNOW you. You rarely let people in, but when you do, you are totally loyal and devoted to them. How did I do?????? jaci – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Holy Moly! I’ve come home! LMAO snip Shy – ok yes I am. I don’t SEEM shy. But I AM. snip Parker mentioned: <only my shyness waxes and wanes. I’m much more shy around the fellas ; ) than I am around other girls. But sometimes I’m very friendly to the point of being entertaining – which in some ways, now that I think of it, distances me as much as being shy does. When you’re "performing", in effect, by being funny or clever – you’re not part of the audience (the whole), you’re separate. Maybe it’s the other side of the coin. I totally relate to that. Something I’d love to talk about Parker….
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Yes, Gordon, those too. Another one I didn’t mention in my original post…. How about having a wicked sense of humor (although quirky:-) that allows us to see the "absurd" in almost any situation – even our own:)
Indeed that drives me straight up the wall. When I’m having a pa and I know the symptoms are symptoms of anxiety that I’ve had before, that haven’t hurt me in the past so they won’t hurt me now, nor in the future, etc.— And I still continue with the pa, knowing how illogical and unreal it is. Sometimes I am unable to set those symptoms aside without medication, which is even more frustrating, particularly to a control freak. Gordon Held
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Welcome to the club!!:) Glad you’ve "unlurked", Melissa. I can tell by your post it’s gonna be fun having you around. jaci – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I love you guys!! I’m usually a lurker, but HAD to pipe in for this one! 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head. Too funny! My mother and husband rib me all the time…I list EVERYTHING. 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else. Nah…I think we ARE smarter <G! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it". Ummm…definitely. We won’t go there. 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate I can’t think straight with this Hershey Bar in my mouth… Melissa
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Jaci, I agree with you. The people that I personally know who suffer from an anxiety disorder tend to have many common traits. I have seen the following: Perfectionism Extremely Shy Extremely Talented/Creative Compassionate Easily Hurt The List Thing <BG Chocolate…yea! Sensitive And yes, a traumatic childhood. Add being a control freak and placing undue overemphasis on any physical symptom from our body. Gordon Held
That list of anxiety/panic characteristics is similar to symptoms given to adult children of alcoholics. There is a newsgroup you can check out. In fact my therapist sent me in that direction, although I disagree with her interpretation the list does correspond. Basically, I think vulnerability is the key and when one feels vulnerable you grasp for control. lists… etc. define the problem out of existance or into a distraction so you don’t notice the lurking panic. that’s my two cents worth. ericjack Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.
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I love you guys!! I’m usually a lurker, but HAD to pipe in for this one! 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head.
Too funny! My mother and husband rib me all the time…I list EVERYTHING. 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else.
Nah…I think we ARE smarter <G! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it".
Ummm…definitely. We won’t go there. 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate
I can’t think straight with this Hershey Bar in my mouth… Melissa
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Hmmm. It depends. Right now, I don’t even really have any acquaintances – like I said everyone kinda disappeared when I left my husband. I guess, though to a point it’s true. BUT, did I mention I have ADHD? I’m sure I did somewhere. And I loooooove to talk. And if ya get me in a conversation, you’ll get a lot more info than ya needed to know 
But thinking about it, people seem to be surprised by a lot. I can tell them how depressed I am till I’m blue in the face, but when they find out about a suicide attempt they say "but you’re always so HAPPY!" WOW deja vu. — Roo.com http://www.roo.com A man who lives in a glass house should change in the basement.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Becky & Parker, And let me take a wild guess here:-) Although you may have many acquaintences, very,very few (you could probably "list" them on one hand) really KNOW you. You rarely let people in, but when you do, you are totally loyal and devoted to them. How did I do?????? jaci Holy Moly! I’ve come home! LMAO snip Shy – ok yes I am. I don’t SEEM shy. But I AM. snip Parker mentioned: <only my shyness waxes and wanes. I’m much more shy around the fellas ; ) than I am around other girls. But sometimes I’m very friendly to the point of being entertaining – which in some ways, now that I think of it, distances me as much as being shy does. When you’re "performing", in effect, by being funny or clever – you’re not part of the audience (the whole), you’re separate. Maybe it’s the other side of the coin. I totally relate to that. Something I’d love to talk about Parker….
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Holy Moly! I’ve come home! LMAO Lists – gotta have lists (but always attributed it to my ADHD) low self esteem – we won’t go there cuz it’s dark in that pit <"How about having a wicked sense of humor (although quirky:-) that allows us to see the "absurd" in almost any situation – even our own:)" HA! Have ya read any of my posts? Try the "beat this attack" thread. I was constantly considered a hypochondriac throughout my life. (course I also have a file full of PROOF that I DO have physical things WRONG with me, including xrays scans blood tests, etc. so there! to all those jerks that picked on me) Shy – ok yes I am. I don’t SEEM shy. But I AM. Compassionate to a fault. VERY creative. EXTREMELY sensitive (re: obsessing that I scared the pants off of gorgeous tattoo guy with my PA) I have a list of childhood events that freak people out. Parker mentioned: <only my shyness waxes and wanes. I’m much more shy around the fellas ; ) than I am around other girls. But sometimes I’m very friendly to the point of being entertaining – which in some ways, now that I think of it, distances me as much as being shy does. When you’re "performing", in effect, by being funny or clever – you’re not part of the audience (the whole), you’re separate. Maybe it’s the other side of the coin. I totally relate to that. Something I’d love to talk about Parker…. But (drum roll…..) I’m not really into chocolate! — Roo.com http://www.roo.com A man who lives in a glass house should change in the basement.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Steph and Jaci, I have to agree too with these traits. Except for the chocolate I pretty much have most of these. My lack of self-esteem is one of my worst traits. I feel so worthless at times and wonder how anyone could ever like or love me. I suppose a lot of it does have to do with my bad childhood. Being hit with a belt couldn’t have helped me much. I like to make lists too! Debby Hi Jaci, I agree with you. The people that I personally know who suffer from an anxiety disorder tend to have many common traits. I have seen the following: Perfectionism Extremely Shy Extremely Talented/Creative Compassionate Easily Hurt The List Thing <BG Chocolate…yea! Sensitive And yes, a traumatic childhood. I’m sure I could think of more, but it is early!!! Very good post! Thx for bringing it up. Take Care, Steph Jaci Writes: I’m curious. Not too long ago I belonged to an anxiety-panic list. Many of us on the list found we had a lot more in common than anxiety-panic. I’m wondering if that could be true here too??? 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head. You can accomplish almost anything as long as you have a list:) 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else. It’s just simply, if we’re not good at it, we don’t do it! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it". 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate and PIZZA! LOL!! Now I KNOW this is true of this group…..I’ve been reading a very healthy debate on this very subject in one of the threads. BTW, I LIKE Dominos pizza! Ha! jaci
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Hi Steph and Jaci, I have to agree too with these traits. Except for the chocolate I pretty much have most of these. My lack of self-esteem is one of my worst traits. I feel so worthless at times and wonder how anyone could ever like or love me. I suppose a lot of it does have to do with my bad childhood. Being hit with a belt couldn’t have helped me much. I like to make lists too! Debby
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Jaci, I agree with you. The people that I personally know who suffer from an anxiety disorder tend to have many common traits. I have seen the following: Perfectionism Extremely Shy Extremely Talented/Creative Compassionate Easily Hurt The List Thing <BG Chocolate…yea! Sensitive And yes, a traumatic childhood. I’m sure I could think of more, but it is early!!! Very good post! Thx for bringing it up. Take Care, Steph Jaci Writes: I’m curious. Not too long ago I belonged to an anxiety-panic list. Many of us on the list found we had a lot more in common than anxiety-panic. I’m wondering if that could be true here too??? 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head. You can accomplish almost anything as long as you have a list:) 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else. It’s just simply, if we’re not good at it, we don’t do it! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it". 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate and PIZZA! LOL!! Now I KNOW this is true of this group…..I’ve been reading a very healthy debate on this very subject in one of the threads. BTW, I LIKE Dominos pizza! Ha! jaci
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Yes, Gordon, those too. Another one I didn’t mention in my original post…. How about having a wicked sense of humor (although quirky:-) that allows us to see the "absurd" in almost any situation – even our own:) jaci – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Add being a control freak and placing undue overemphasis on any physical symptom from our body. Gordon Held
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Hi Jaci, I agree with you. The people that I personally know who suffer from an anxiety disorder tend to have many common traits. I have seen the following: Perfectionism Extremely Shy Extremely Talented/Creative Compassionate Easily Hurt The List Thing <BG Chocolate…yea! Sensitive And yes, a traumatic childhood.
Add being a control freak and placing undue overemphasis on any physical symptom from our body. Gordon Held
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<"Hi Jaci, I agree with you. The people that I personally know who suffer from an anxiety disorder tend to have many common traits. I have seen the following: Perfectionism Extremely Shy Extremely Talented/Creative Compassionate Easily Hurt The List Thing <BG Chocolate…yea! Sensitive And yes, a traumatic childhood. " I’m with you on all these points, only my shyness waxes and wanes. I’m much more shy around the fellas ; ) than I am around other girls. But sometimes I’m very friendly to the point of being entertaining – which in some ways, now that I think of it, distances me as much as being shy does. When you’re "performing", in effect, by being funny or clever – you’re not part of the audience (the whole), you’re separate. Maybe it’s the other side of the coin. : ) Pretty interesting revelation I just had. ; ) hehehe <"Add being a control freak and placing undue overemphasis on any physical symptom from our body." I’m not on this part of the list though. But maybe it’s because I don’t have PD… - have chronic depression (but not since 96 – although it’s THERE – if I don’t take my meds), social phobia/slight agoraphobia, and anxiety. Now I still have a bit of the social phobia and anxiety although I’m doing the best with it I have in YEARS. Well, I’m off to the cafe (work). Ack! The drawer came up $20.99 short last night – the first night I closed! Talk about anxiety! But my shift didn’t start until late in the day, and I worked/closed with a couple of other people. Still…it’s such anxiety to have that sort of thing happen. It’s the only thing I truly hate about working retail. blah…. Love, Parker homepage link: http://profiles.yahoo.com/evenaive
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m curious. Not too long ago I belonged to an anxiety-panic list. Many of us on the list found we had a lot more in common than anxiety-panic. I’m wondering if that could be true here too??? 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head. You can accomplish almost anything as long as you have a list:) 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else. It’s just simply, if we’re not good at it, we don’t do it! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it". 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate and PIZZA! LOL!! Now I KNOW this is true of this group…..I’ve been reading a very healthy debate on this very subject in one of the threads. BTW, I LIKE Dominos pizza! Ha! jaci
I like Pizza Hut pizza (I can hear Jackie groan!). Yep, I do. I guess my senses have been corrupted. Mel To email me remove "nocrap" from my email address.
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Hi Jaci, I agree with you. The people that I personally know who suffer from an anxiety disorder tend to have many common traits. I have seen the following: Perfectionism Extremely Shy Extremely Talented/Creative Compassionate Easily Hurt The List Thing <BG Chocolate…yea! Sensitive And yes, a traumatic childhood. I’m sure I could think of more, but it is early!!! Very good post! Thx for bringing it up. Take Care, Steph
Jaci Writes: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -I’m curious. Not too long ago I belonged to an anxiety-panic list. Many of us on the list found we had a lot more in common than anxiety-panic. I’m wondering if that could be true here too??? 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head. You can accomplish almost anything as long as you have a list:) 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else. It’s just simply, if we’re not good at it, we don’t do it! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it". 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate and PIZZA! LOL!! Now I KNOW this is true of this group…..I’ve been reading a very healthy debate on this very subject in one of the threads. BTW, I LIKE Dominos pizza! Ha! jaci
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I’m curious. Not too long ago I belonged to an anxiety-panic list. Many of us on the list found we had a lot more in common than anxiety-panic. I’m wondering if that could be true here too??? 1. Lists….we all loved lists – the written kind, or the ones you keep in your head. You can accomplish almost anything as long as you have a list:) 2. We’re very good at everything we do. Not because we’re that much smarter than anybody else. It’s just simply, if we’re not good at it, we don’t do it! 3. Many of us had very traumatic experiences in our lives and had been raised by parents whose answer to almost any problem was to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it". 4. We all seemed to have this obsession with chocolate and PIZZA! LOL!! Now I KNOW this is true of this group…..I’ve been reading a very healthy debate on this very subject in one of the threads. BTW, I LIKE Dominos pizza! Ha! jaci
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