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Hi G, You are obviously very good at what you do. If you’ve skipped so many classes and can still get the marks that you do, does speak volumes for your ability. I can’t give you much in the way of suggestions, but I do agree that it is a good idea to get a thorough physical. That way you will know if there is something wrong with your bladder, kidneys, etceteras. Next I would suggest seeking out a good pDoc and/or therapist. Sometimes medications and therapy can help. Many people find CBT to be an effective therapy. As far as the bladder is concerned, I know what you mean. The blood pressure medication does it to me, and I have bouts of IBS too. I’d hate to see you give up your college education because of this. If you can sit near the door, you could step out without anyone noticing. Perhaps you can speak to the professor just to let him/her know why you may have to go outside. I found most of my professors to be very understanding. Don
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura
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Dear Laura, I would definitely get into contact with all your profs as soon as possible and talk with them and explain (briefly) your problem and attempt to go to class… You probably have a week to drop the classes? Try at least the first week… then you really would be able to decide… Talk to you soon, Much Love and Strength, Brooke
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Thank you for your ideas, i can not take a term out as i would have to resit the whole year – which i may have to do any way – if i do not go back this term. Can not decide whether or not to try with the new term – all seems too much just now. But what else would i do, home is very safe but very boring. what to do? LAURA
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura Dear Laura, Being a college student myself, I can totally sympathize with your situation. Most of my classes are and have been in lecture halls and those are nightmarish I know. If you’re a good student, I would definitely go back to class… there’s the old rule that if you stay out one semester, you’ll never go back. <snip Were did this rule come from? Well, in the 5 (now 6th) semester I personally know 5 people who started the same time I did…. dropped out "for one semester" and never came back. Why are freshman classes so much larger than those who graduate with an AA or AS degree? Why do the numbers dwindle further for a BA or BS? Because "some" (I realize not all) people think they can stay out a semester, and save up money or whatever their reason, but their life is much easier just working and not working and going to school, so they decide not to go back to school… It’s obvious when you look at entering (freshman) numbers for a university and the numbers that university graduates are VASTLY different… and you can’t tell me that all those people transfer to other schools or graduate early… they don’t graduate at all… Now, I do realize some people can stay out a semester and go back…. but they are an exception to the rule. Much Love, Brooke
Interesting, personally I think life in school is much easier than working. You get money for school, insurance, etc. I’ve worked and for me personally I’d rather be in school. I think most of the people who have left school and never gone back are the ones who just never really had it in them or prefer not to go. Missing one semester or one year wouldn’t matter.
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Thank you for your ideas, i can not take a term out as i would have to resit the whole year – which i may have to do any way – if i do not go back this term. Can not decide whether or not to try with the new term – all seems too much just now. But what else would i do, home is very safe but very boring. what to do? LAURA – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura Dear Laura, Being a college student myself, I can totally sympathize with your situation. Most of my classes are and have been in lecture halls and those are nightmarish I know. If you’re a good student, I would definitely go back to class… there’s the old rule that if you stay out one semester, you’ll never go back. <snip Were did this rule come from? Well, in the 5 (now 6th) semester I personally know 5 people who started the same time I did…. dropped out "for one semester" and never came back. Why are freshman classes so much larger than those who graduate with an AA or AS degree? Why do the numbers dwindle further for a BA or BS? Because "some" (I realize not all) people think they can stay out a semester, and save up money or whatever their reason, but their life is much easier just working and not working and going to school, so they decide not to go back to school… It’s obvious when you look at entering (freshman) numbers for a university and the numbers that university graduates are VASTLY different… and you can’t tell me that all those people transfer to other schools or graduate early… they don’t graduate at all… Now, I do realize some people can stay out a semester and go back…. but they are an exception to the rule. Much Love, Brooke
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura Dear Laura, Being a college student myself, I can totally sympathize with your situation. Most of my classes are and have been in lecture halls and those are nightmarish I know. If you’re a good student, I would definitely go back to class… there’s the old rule that if you stay out one semester, you’ll never go back. <snip Were did this rule come from?
Well, in the 5 (now 6th) semester I personally know 5 people who started the same time I did…. dropped out "for one semester" and never came back. Why are freshman classes so much larger than those who graduate with an AA or AS degree? Why do the numbers dwindle further for a BA or BS? Because "some" (I realize not all) people think they can stay out a semester, and save up money or whatever their reason, but their life is much easier just working and not working and going to school, so they decide not to go back to school… It’s obvious when you look at entering (freshman) numbers for a university and the numbers that university graduates are VASTLY different… and you can’t tell me that all those people transfer to other schools or graduate early… they don’t graduate at all… Now, I do realize some people can stay out a semester and go back…. but they are an exception to the rule. Much Love, Brooke
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Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do?
Go to the lybrary and get a few books on panic disorder, The feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns MD The Panic Anxiety Workbook ( I think author is last name Bourne) Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer andMinding The Body, Mending the Mind by Joan Borysenko MD Also have you had a complete physical? Be sure to go the doctor and rule out all possible causes to your feelings. If its a good doc you can get good insight and help. Are you on medications? I said to get the books hoping that would give you some immediate coping skills. You do need to get some CBT (cognitive Behavior Therapy) if its panic disorder (that’s IMO) i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope?
Hoping for the very best. If you need to you can take a quarter off, Yes? Charla – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – laura
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura Dear Laura, Being a college student myself, I can totally sympathize with your situation. Most of my classes are and have been in lecture halls and those are nightmarish I know. If you’re a good student, I would definitely go back to class… there’s the old rule that if you stay out one semester, you’ll never go back.
<snip Were did this rule come from? Frost
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, i am new to this site but would be very grateful for any help. i am in huge delemer about whether to go back to university or not, supposed to go back next Monday. I am in my second year and do not think i can face going in any more. i coped very badly last term and only made it in about a third of the time. But i did get good grades for all my essays etc. the problem is that i have a nervous bladder and need the toilet all the time, and this make me feel that everyone thinks i am weird – leading to panic attacks. it is also a corporate law and public relations course- lots of public speaking etc. up until last year i was out going and never had a care in the world. now i feel i have them all. The uni is about 3 miles away from my house, i coped last term as my boyfriend also studies at the same uni ( but at a different site), so he drove me and studied in my library while i was in class. but his timetable this term means that this is not possible. i am so bad now that i can not go out alone, for fear of panic fainting etc. Anyone got any ideas what i can do? i do not want to leave as i am good at the course but do not know how i can cope? laura
Dear Laura, Being a college student myself, I can totally sympathize with your situation. Most of my classes are and have been in lecture halls and those are nightmarish I know. If you’re a good student, I would definitely go back to class… there’s the old rule that if you stay out one semester, you’ll never go back. It sounds to me like you’re a good student, but suffer from panic attacks. It is very hard to do, I know, but try not to worry about what other students think as you leave the room. I know most of the time when students leave in my classes I just pretty much assume they are either bored with the lecture and need a break, need to go to the bathroom, or need to leave for another reason. I’ve picked up my stuff and walked out in the middle of a lecture because I was having a panic attack. No one else knows why you’re leaving the room, my recommendation would be to sit as close to the door as physically possible so your entrances and exits are not as noticeable. Also I would talk to your profs. You don’t have to tell them you have panic attacks; just tell them you have a medical disorder that may cause you to have to leave class, but most of the time you will be able to return after a few minutes, occasionally, you may just have to leave. "Most" profs are willing to accept that, especially if you tell them the first or second day of class. One of my professors, who has become a professional friend now that I’m working in the industry while finishing my BA, was completely aware of the depression/anxiety/panic problems I was dealing with and really worked with me. She also was a go-between for me and most of my other profs. She would just tell them I have medical problems, and if I have to leave class, or don’t show up I have a valid reason. It worked out wonderfully. If you don’t have a prof that can work with you, just speak to each prof before/after class or during office hours. Like I said, most of them will (and should) be okay with it. YOU are paying THEIR salary! Another good thing would be to see a therapist if this is possible (even on campus) and if needed get on medication. I was in college for 5 semesters (not to mention all of high school) before I even began to get help or medication for my disorders.You will survive. That’s my two cents as someone who’s been in a similar situation to yours. I hope you find this helpful, and if you’d like to email me privately, feel free. Sending you strength (((Laura))) Much Love, Brooke
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