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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -In article <3l53b8$…@taco.cc.ncsu.edu>, wbwet…@eos.ncsu.edu wrote: > Sigh, I just spent a whole day with a very wonderful girl…the same one > that I wrote that letter to, for you continual readers out there. Now, we > have fun together, innocent friend fun, but there is a SERIOUS PROBLEM. When > I’m around her i can’t eat, because if i do I get nauseated. No joke. > I had to leave today because I was about to throw up. > It’s bad enough that I sweat profusely (luckily she had a cold and couldn’t > smell me!), but this is something that Ihave only experienced around her. > I don’t know why. I have puked 4 times now in some situation related to > her. First, a long time ago, I threw up after i called her and had > intended to ask her out. This Christmas I threw up *at her house* after > I ate a *cupcake that she had made*. Not too long ago I lost it here at > the computer lab after I pigged out at Taco Bell and then just read email > from her (I was also trying to write a reply). > Now I just threw up right after I left her room, and man was it a close call. > This problem is seriously inhibiting any chance of our friendship growing. > Shoot, the damage from the Christmas episode probably already did me in! > Is there anything I can do? Not eat? I don’t really feel or act nervous > around her, just my body apparently does. I really thought things were > going good, but if this continues i just don’t know. Any ideas, please tell > me.
Brett! You poor thing! There is an anti-nausea medication called Compazine. Perhaps you could explain this delicate problem to your family physician and ask him for a prescription. Then, when anticipating any interaction with this young lady, you could take a pill 30 minutes beforehand. Yeah, I know that interactions are not really predictable. At least not all of them. Well, it was the best suggestion I could think of! -cadel
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wbwet…@eos.ncsu.edu wrote:
: have fun together, innocent friend fun, but there is a SERIOUS PROBLEM. When : I’m around her i can’t eat, because if i do I get nauseated. No joke. : I had to leave today because I was about to throw up. : Is there anything I can do? Not eat? I don’t really feel or act nervous : around her, just my body apparently does. I really thought things were : going good, but if this continues i just don’t know. Any ideas, please tell : me. Well, shucks. I know that’s embarrassing(to say the least!) but you should tell her. She may be concerned that you’re sick or something. I hope this doesn’t offend you when I say, it’s kind of cute–she might even be *flattered* that she’s capable of affecting you that much. Gross, yet somehow endearing. That takes your baby metaphor one step further. : PS — Whoever wrote that thing here about learning to get over shyness being : like a baby butterfly learning to use its wings before it flies…that is : so true! Man, it just hit home. Yup. Joy
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In article <3l53b8$…@taco.cc.ncsu.edu>, <wbwet…@eos.ncsu.edu> wrote:
[talk of offerings to the gods deleted] >Is there anything I can do?
Tell her what’s going on. I’ve had panic disorder for as long as I can remember. The nausea, panic attacks, dizziness and so forth limited my social interactions severely all the way to college (as in virtually zilch). After then they began to ease somewhat allowing for more interaction but I still wasn’t (and still am not completely) beyond the need to make a rapid retreat from a situation. So I know how you feel. BTW, I’ve been on medication for the panic disorder for several years now and it has worked well. What you have doesn’t appear to be panic disorder but a rather severe anxiety reaction; that is it’s stimulus specific whereas panic is not stimulus specific but can be aggrevated by it. The best thing you can do is tell her. When I started getting involved more seriously (extremely seriously since she was pregnant at the time with our kid) with my ex-gf I was incredibly stressed out by events and had major problems. When her parents came to visit we went to a museum in denver and I had to leave before lunch because I was on the verge of spewing or passing out. I had barely made it through thanksgiving (thank god there wasn’t any real thanksgiving dinner). One time months before, when she took me out to a very nice italian resturant before I left for the summer, she got kind of annoyed because I barely ate anything (too much nausea). Anyway, when I finally told her it relieved a lot of the anxiety. The second thing you can do is go see a psychologist. Personally, from what I’ve read I don’t really think there is anything as far as medication that works well for the kind of acute anxiety you have but I could be wrong. There are also other non-medication alternatives such as biofeedback. I tried this a bit with some success over the more acute and overt symptoms. >Shamefully embarrassed/frustrated/humiliated/________,
Yep. I know what you mean. Too many people just don’t understand and attribute it to fear or something. This isn’t overt fear; it’s more basic and lower level. It’s like the fight/flight reflex which takes place physiologically at a subconscious level and where the stimulus also sometimes takes place there. -kelvin
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